i watched a netflix documentary called,
“maternal instinct“.
it was about a sociopathic she-hyena named taylor parker.
in a elevator Fohxole pitch of why you should watch,
she murdered her friend and cut her newborn out of her stomach.

she did it to maintain a fantasy she created,
especially a fake pregnancy.
what got me was not just how horrific the crime was,
but it was everyone around her who believed her lies.

how did so many people ignore the red flags?
how did her man keep believing her,
even when things stopped making sense?

it reminded me of jackals who catfish,
but it really reminded me of some of these blatant scamming attentionistos on OF.
there are times i read stories and i’m like:

“HOW…
did you fall for this obvious nonsense?“

someone explained it in a way that gave me an “a-ha” moment…

“people don’t usually fall for the lie itself. they fall for what they hope the lie will give them. if someone is starving for money, they overlook red flags because they’re focused on getting rich. if someone is starving for love, attention, validation, or belonging, they overlook red flags because they’re focused on finally getting what they’ve been missing. when someone is horny, they overlook red flags until they bust a nut. the deception is usually there the whole time. the fantasy just becomes more important than the facts.”

mmm!
when i think back to the times i’ve been conned,
used,
or sold a dream especially from a another male i was attracted to:

i was usually missing something.

loneliness.
horniness.
longing.
hope.

…which made me wonder:
when we get swindled over and over again,
are we really falling for the scam…

…or are we falling for the need inside us that wants the scam to be true?

lowkey: her man in that documentary clearly wasn’t into her as she was him.
if he would have listened to everyone who woke up and started to warn him,
the victim would probably still be alive.