Let’s be 110% in The Foxhole…
vixens,
including gays,
claim we want ^this.
the real issue is,
and folks can deny all they want…
If a male was doing this to us,
we would legit think he was corny AF.
i wouldn’t think he was corny but more-so crazy:
like,
why are you getting out the car to always show me you bought me something?
what happens once the honeymoon phase ends and he stops trying to earn my hole?
on the sus meter,
that rings in at a:
Stage Level 9 doing the most…
and why are you doing it?
…along with the person taking the picture for social media.
i feel like males who do this always end up being coo coo for coca puffs.
i want my wolf to worship the ground i walk on but in a sane level.
i want him to look at me with the gaze of “i love this mofo”.
ya’ll know that look when a male is REALLY into someone and not jut sexually.
i want him to fantasize and fuck only me.
both of us need to be hyped and energized off each other.
i feel like the main issue is tho:
Our hesitance for expressive kind of love comes from being jaded.
we are driving the car from a place of hurt so we know a hustle when we see one.
the above looks like all the other hustles we have seen or have been in before.
along with:
Many vixems,
including gays,
haven’t healed from being treated like shit so our ideals of love stem from emotional abuse,
chasing a male around,
and arguing every 2 seconds because we don’t fully trust him.
It doesn’t help that many males today are bonafide bitches either.
i went through my “i can’t stand these pineapples” phase recently…
…but i had to bring that hurt to God and a licensed therapist to unpack why.
one of the reasons that many of us find ourselves slaves to straights.
They have the attributes we desire in another male,
whether it’s dominance or masculinity,
but they treat us in a way that mirrors abuse we never healed from.
there is always a method to our madness.
find it.
so that wolf above could be a great guy who might be a potential partner,
but if doesn’t bring us taste of something toxic that we are used to...
We will drop him for someone else who does.
…just to post on our socials how we are getting hurt.
lowkey: lets say a prayer right quick.
bow your heads and close your eyes…
‘Corny’ can def be attractive. But I have a thing for awkward guys who aren’t the most popular in the room. Humility goes a looong way w me. The dudes at the gay bar or House party who stand around on their phones, or only talking to the ppl they came with, make for an exhausting atmosphere.
I completely get your point tho Jamari. The guys I mentioned above and their 3 week ‘relationships’ have left us doomed as a relationship people.
I think people don’t want to admit that it’s less about “cornball” and more about how attractive he is.
If Odell Beckham did half of what Nick Cannon did, nobody would care. Because it’s Odell.(Odell has done hella corny things, but because of his looks, it’s okay)
There are men who are super corny, but their looks have the world mystified.
You basically want someone who is sexy enough to pull of corny. Roman Reigns loves his wife and is all over her. I don’t think it’s corny, because love isn’t corny. I’ve seen people comment that it’s corny, but looks good on them.
Love is not about being chill or cool. It’s about not being able to control yourself. And having these restrictions on how a man can show his love will have you lonely for life.
If you don’t want a proposal with a band and fireworks cool, but a man should be able to stroll into your job on Valentines with flowers. Even if you don’t like flowers.
Love has men acting out of character. You must not listen to enough R&B. And when you dip for Mr Calm, Cool and Collected, you’ll realize he’s just not that into you.
It’s why quiet guys get the courage up to go after a woman they want.
When a man wants you, everyone will know. It’ll be in his aura and only somebody who is emotionally immature, bitter and envious will call it corny.
I think a cornball is sweet! I’m here for it.