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If You Like It, Don’t Just F*ck Me Good! Buy Me A Ring!

   Published Date: April 13, 2012  16 Comments on If You Like It, Don’t Just F*ck Me Good! Buy Me A Ring!

I can picture you in a black leotard and high heels.

You have 2 other dancers next to you.
Your smile is infectious.
As you adjust the wedgie out of your butt cheeks, you get into position.
1, 2, 1, 2 3…

… if you are going to do it, at least shave those hairy legs.

Seriously though, we all grew up with the impression we would be married one day.
Some of us watched our parents live a fairy tale life of wedding bliss.
Well, some.
Others watched a single mother busting her ass to make sure her kids were fed.
But as Foxes, Wolves, and Hybrids our dreams of marriage look kinda bleak.
Wolves do not want to get tied down.
Foxes and Hybrids want an emotional “ring” to make them feel complete.
In a world where sex comes first and a relationship is a question mark,
can a Fox really get married?
Would a Wolf actually want to cuff a Fox or Hybrid with two simple words with a priest behind them?
Or, is this all just a cute little fantasy to play with toys?
I had to wonder…

Is gay marriage impossible?

I think it would be fun to actually come home and say:

“Baby I’m home!“

God imagine ME playing house-band.

I shut the door and throw my things on the couch.
He is in the kitchen, dinner already on the stove.
He ordered take out (aww how sweet!)
I walk in,
he kisses me,
and then I look at my platinum wedding band with sparkling diamonds…
and laugh at all the assholes I dealt with before “he” scooped me up.

EAT THAT SUCKERS!

But realistically,
I do not want THAT type of lifestyle.
I actually want my own home to retreat too.
I do not want to see “HIM” all day or know he is waiting for me when I come in the door.
I want him at his house,
with his own shit,
and we have that mutual space to miss each other…. without walking down the aisle.
Is that possible?
Or, is that just a long term relationship?

And that is another thing…
I am not trying to have some huge extravaganza to let everyone know I am about to be off the market.
Most Vixens do that to let other bitches know they have a ring now so:

Nah nah nee nah nah!

I am very private and I want to make sure that I keep it that way.
So my man and I would probably just make promises to each other and do our thing.
(with a nice ass promise ring… what, diamonds and platinum are Foxes’ best friends!)

Plus, can a muthafucka get a prenup on deck?
You are not about to take all my shit.
You leave me with your dick in your hand like how we met!

I know of a Fox who is actually in a relationship like that with a Baller Wolf.
This Baller Wolf plays in the NFL and is “married” to a Fox.
I wrote about it long time ago, as I am still trying to find out who.
They did not walk down the aisle, since he is a major player in the NFL.
They just keep their relationship simple and private.
Something I love and one day want to emulate.

Wolves say they would never get married to another man.
And sometimes I wonder if that is reality?
Or, just an opinion before they meet “the one”?
They do not even want to be in a relationship,
but there are so many Foxes out here looking for “hubby”.
Will they get that wish one day?
Or, will they have to buy love or end up alone?
Hell, the Wolf is alone too but is he really happy?
And, what makes a Wolf want to walk down the aisle?
Loyalty?
Good head?
Tight walls?
Or, just bored and out fucked?

Foxes and Hybrids, if your dream Wolf walked in the door tomorrow….

Would you let him “put a ring on it“?

written for the Fox who sent me an email about marriage.
thank you and keep reading!
😉

16 thoughts on “If You Like It, Don’t Just F*ck Me Good! Buy Me A Ring!”

  2. ICeeDedPpl :
    A wedding day is a celebration–a mix of cultural ritual and pageantry. When people say they are going to get married, the excitement is around the actual wedding day instead of what comes the days after: commitment, compromise, and communication. Choosing to commit to a partner and voluntarily learning compromise–while merging finance, romance, and reality–is hard work. Communication makes all of these things easier, but each person has emotional baggage and filters to sort through to make this all possible and most of the drama and trauma comes out after the wedding ceremony. There are warning signs and red flags, which are noticed and ignored after you’ve been dating for a while, but for some people, a wedding is a cure-all for any warning signs instead of a marriage where all emotional baggage is unpacked.
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    ICeeDedPpl :
    A wedding day is a celebration–a mix of cultural ritual and pageantry. When people say they are going to get married, the excitement is around the actual wedding day instead of what comes the days after: commitment, compromise, and communication. Choosing to commit to a partner and voluntarily learning compromise–while merging finance, romance, and reality–is hard work. Communication makes all of these things easier, but each person has emotional baggage and filters to sort through to make this all possible and most of the drama and trauma comes out after the wedding ceremony. There are warning signs and red flags, which are noticed and ignored after you’ve been dating for a while, but for some people, a wedding is a cure-all for any warning signs instead of a marriage where all emotional baggage is unpacked.
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    ICeeDedPpl :
    A wedding day is a celebration–a mix of cultural ritual and pageantry. When people say they are going to get married, the excitement is around the actual wedding day instead of what comes the days after: commitment, compromise, and communication. Choosing to commit to a partner and voluntarily learning compromise–while merging finance, romance, and reality–is hard work. Communication makes all of these things easier, but each person has emotional baggage and filters to sort through to make this all possible and most of the drama and trauma comes out after the wedding ceremony. There are warning signs and red flags, which are noticed and ignored after you’ve been dating for a while, but for some people, a wedding is a cure-all for any warning signs instead of a marriage where all emotional baggage is unpacked.

    e>TEACH!!!!
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    1. In The Bahamas there is this saying >>> “No Ringy, No Tingy” <<< lol you get it?

  4. Yes gay marriage is possible, once it becomes federally recognized. Fortunately, I have good examples of long term partnerships.

    My parents have been together for 34.
    My favorite uncle has been with his partner for 32.

    I’m waiting until DOMA is repealed and all marriages are federally recognized. However, if I never end up legally marriage I will enter into a life alliance agreement (kinda like a prenuptial agreement without the nuptial) with my partner.

    Also don’t confuse a wedding ceremony and an actual marriage–two different things that everyone seems to get stuck on their differences.

      1. A wedding day is a celebration–a mix of cultural ritual and pageantry. When people say they are going to get married, the excitement is around the actual wedding day instead of what comes the days after: commitment, compromise, and communication. Choosing to commit to a partner and voluntarily learning compromise–while merging finance, romance, and reality–is hard work. Communication makes all of these things easier, but each person has emotional baggage and filters to sort through to make this all possible and most of the drama and trauma comes out after the wedding ceremony. There are warning signs and red flags, which are noticed and ignored after you’ve been dating for a while, but for some people, a wedding is a cure-all for any warning signs instead of a marriage where all emotional baggage is unpacked.

  5. #whoisjamarifox :
    ^been good.
    Can’t really complain.
    How have you been?

    Little ol me…I’m just hanging in there! Making the best of everything that comes my way…

  6. Hi there! Remember me? LOL (been on a much needed vacation and just catching up)

    But if I can see that he truly respects and loves me for who i am, proposes to me and we are at a solid place in our lives (financially, emotionally, career-wise, etc.) then yeah I would go with the whole marriage thing. I’m not sure about all the whole “sha-bang” Vixens put on but I’ve always wanted a small, intimate ceremony on a yacht (say 20 to 30 people) for my wedding.

    I’m not against being wed to a man (but I’m not looking for no “I Love Lucy” type of marriage either). It’s actually in my future plans :). Hey YngBlkWolf?

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