learn to use the straights before they try to use you

as a black gay content creator,
who has launched the Foxhole in 2009,
i learned the hard way how many straights can use you for their benefit.

i’ve seen other gays who do content or have pull get used as well.
if you have a “i want to be liked” spirit,
or “i want to fuck every attractive and sexy male” spirit,
you will always fall into their traps to your doom every time.
the hard reality is…

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it’s 2024, do you know who your (fake) friends are?

What about your friendssssssss…”

that is one of my favorite tlc songs next to “creep“.
do we have real friends in our lives?
or do we have stand-ins who will let us down?

there is always a prominent thing that has happened in my life with past friends…

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i got denied and i’m not happy, like, at all

Yesterday was…
Well…

i had all intentions of coming on the Foxhole after my errands yesterday.
i had a plan yesterday morning.
God often laughs when you make plans but this might have been the devil.
well i ain’t laughing.
so i got a call from my therapist just as i was on the way home.
i never get any calls from her outside of the days of my session.
she tells me…

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i’m being stretched other than my whole

this past week,
i felt like i was being stretched thin.

Have you just ever felt like you are being pulled in so many directions that you feel like breaking?

it got to the point where i could feel myself wanting to scream.
i’ve had some issues going on irl that have been draining me,
shadow work has been really taking me down the path of no return,
and then the Foxhole issues have piled on top of that.
i thought i finally reached my happiness but the devil said nope.
what really is getting me tho

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the limiting beliefs of jamari fox (slow down)

the Foxhole is known for fonting about sexy males,
sex
,
and piping hot tea on occasion.
we have a good time in this neck of the woods.

My bread and butter has always been sharing my struggles and trauma.

that is usually what i get messages about.
i’ve gotten messages from Foxholers in countries where they can’t be themselves.
those folks have lived vicariously and found their healing through my words.
so it’s not a shocker when i strip naked with you.

Last night in therapy,
we had to do an exercise about forgiveness.
It is on the road map to healing.

i wrote my limiting beliefs that i wanted to share.
it’s something i was gonna keep private but i wanted The Foxhole to see it.
it could help someone else…

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what made me instantly attracted to the males from a fox’s past

so i saw this on the neighborhood talk just now.
it was directed to vixens but you know ima turn it towards us.
so for me:

Physically:
A really handsome face
Butts
Biceps
The presentation in the way the clothes fit

i always find different things attractive on different wolves.
im gonna try something different today.
instead of looking at the horrible qualities of some of the past wolves i dealt with,
i want to try and highlight what made me attracted to them instantly.

i’ll throw in the physical too…

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