to pursue in order to seize, overtake.
When we are attracted to someone, we go after it.
The pleasure of the hunt and taking down prey.
Men are natural hunters.
In love, the same rules apply but these days it seems more Foxes.
Foxes are doing the hunting…
…and Wolves are just standing still saying, “fuck me stupid“.
Remember when Wolves use to chase?
They made us feel something?
Easy: a bunch of easy breezies gave it up too easily and now Wolves just expect the Foxhole from everyone.
I was talking to a Wolf last night and we got onto the topic of chase/catch.
He claims the chase is what makes things interesting.
I said, the chase is interesting but there is a certain way a Wolf chases a Fox that makes it interesting
(or keeps me interested cause I get BORED fast).
He made it seem that in order for him to be interested,
the Fox needs to chase him.
I’m not chasing any man (Devin Thomas, maybe).
Not my style especially if I do not know if he is interested or not.
That is the first disclaimer.
There has to be just enough space and pursuit between both parties.
When a Fox (or Wolf) is doing way to much, I call it 80/20.
You are giving more on the scale than the other person is contributing.
Therefore: you are wasting your time.
A prospect cannot vanish for 2 weeks with no phone calls/no texts/no face time, and then suddenly re-appear to resume where he left off.
He also cannot stop replying in mid-text/phone convo and then re-appear like he is a magician at a Vegas strip show.
That is flaky behavior and it is already forewarning as what is to come if you date his Houdini “now you see me/now you don’t” ass.
I always said the best way to chase has a couple ingredients.
Just the amount of right space.
A couple scoops of flirting.
A dash of quality time.
And a ounce of aggression.
Anything other than that is doing way too much or way too little.
Foxes, we got to do better with the meat.