In A World Where The Kings Are On The DL…

Now, I am all for jump off sex with a DL Wolf.

They are NOT for cuffing purposes PERIOD.
This is where some of ya’ll go terribly wrong.
You get a nice stiff penis from a man, or trade as they call it.

You call him over in the late night hour,
fuck him all kinds of stupid,
and then send him home until you need some more penis.
They even make great test subjects to practice giving head on.
Might I add, they are also the biggest tricks.
It is NOTHING to get them to pay a bill or buy you dinner.

But, DL Wolves have an issue about them that make them more annoying…
I’m here to teach them how to keep being sexy….

DL Wolves need to be seen;  not heard.

From the beginning of time, there were DL dudes.
There is no way to avoid them.
I hear Abe Lincoln liked a cock-tail in his private time,
Alexander The Great had GREAT sex with a few boys,
and Marlon Brando liked his red sea parted on a new occasions.
Shit, even Batman and Robin had rumors.

Accept em,
Embrace em,
and Fuck em
(in whatever way you choose).

Out gays hate them because of their repressed sexuality.
DL Wolves, in turn, hate them because they are their eternal enemies.
Us, who are discreet, could careless.

The issue with DL dudes is that they make themselves SO obvious,
they not only out themselves,
but YOU too.
Their insecurities about fucking men make them so damn AWKWARD!

There is no reason why when a gay guy enters a room,
the only DL dude is making a spectacle.
There is no reason that when he sees the Fox he is fucking in public,
he is drawing attention to himself by drawing attention to him.
There is ALSO no reason why he is so anti-gay when he is deep dicking or getting deep dicked.
It is always the same story with these pastors and bishops.
All this gay hate, yet caught in some hotel with some young twink playing, “Hide The Salami“.

CUT. IT. OUT.

If you want to be DL, I will not hate or stop you.
Depending on how cute you are, I may even fuck ya.
But, please keep your insecurities in check.
I never had a DL Wolf I was messing with play “The Game of Endless Insecurities“.
Truth be told, I get them so comfortable that they want to claim me.
They also become obvious as hell!
I dunno really…
I just kick it with them on some chill shit and through my body language, I don’t need em.
So here goes:

The Un-Offical DL Rules

When you see a gay guy in public, ignore him.
He did nothing for you to point the spotlight on him.
Stop giggling and making jokes like a child.
Secretly, you want to feel his warm insides.
So shut the FUCK up.

When you see the Fox you are fucking in public,
you have two choices.
You can either ignore him and keep it moving,
or if he notices you,
you can give him dap and keep the conversation brief.
If he is feminine, follow the same rules.
Chances are, he won’t come up to you in public.
If he is messy, why are you fucking him in the first place?

And that is another thing.
YES, that Jackal or Hyena was clockable.
YES, he pushed up on you and gave you some good head.
YES, he fucks you like a porn star.
YES, he is also messy as hell and one wrong move, you are OUTED.
NO, why are you fucking this messy fool without a condom on???

#wheredeydodatat

So, realistically, these DL Wolves are their own enemies.
This is why they are only good for sex and a quick cash deposit.

My thoughts, like Jay said:

“You know I – thug em, fuck em, love em, leave em
Cause I don’t fuckin need em
Take em out the hood, keep em lookin good
But I don’t fuckin feed em…”

and the DL Wolves thoughts?….

and after,
I might let you stay over and play video games if you are good.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

43 thoughts on “In A World Where The Kings Are On The DL…

  1. Well. First, I need to know what rollercoaster that is, because wherever it is, I need to ride it.

    Second, I’m an attractive, athletic, masculine black man. If I were given an option, I’d say I’m discreet, but I’m pretty comfortable in my sexuality.
    That said, downlow men annoy me for all the reasons you listed. Their paranoia is what’s most problematic.

    There’s been this guy who’s been staring at me heavy.I mean, practically eye fucking me everytime he sees me. He’s extremely attractive. Typical wolf, complete with tattoos. This has been going on for a very long time now. Finally, tired of the exchange of awkward gazes, I approached him. He flipped out. I made the decision from the point forward not to deal with him, professionally or otherwise.

    To this day, he STILL stares at me. Watches my ass as I walk. Stares at me while I eat. Looks at me from the corner of his eye when I lift weights. It’s THAT behavior that annoys the shit out of me.

    1. ^I HATE THAT.
      They want to keep things in control,
      And then lose control when they get knee deep in some good loving.
      If they would stop staring and be more aggressive,
      The world and lifestyle would be an easier place.

    2. He wouldn’t have snapped on me like that. I would have argued with his ass, fuck that shit Random. I would have told him to stop fucking staring at me. I would have set that nigga straight, you better believe it. Niggas aint shit, eyestaring means nothing, and it can be a very good way to get your ass beat sometimes. That’s why I don’t make moves on niggas based on that. I don’t want to have to beat nobody’s ass, but I will if I have to.

      How did you approach him Random?

      1. @Man

        I was real polite with it.I already knew his name and he slick already knew mine. So it was chill, but I let him know I thought he was attractive. That’s what set him off. When he got defensive, I just let it go because I already knew what the deal was. He was downlow and was probably confused because here I am a man who’s just as masculine, if not more than him, approaching him. You know downlow men are sensitive about their masculinity.

        The thing is now, when I see him and he sees me, I completely ignore him. I walk right past him. You can tell he wants me to speak to him and I guess give him the opportunity to do better than he did last time. But I don’t put myself out there, so doing it with him and him responding the way he did made me feel real foxy and not in a good way. Would prefer not to experience that again.

  2. I agree with this 100%. I can admit that when I see a obvious gay dude I get unconfortable, which is normal by the way. LOL. I never draw attention to them though, as long as they don’t bother me I’m cool. I have realized that some DL men have a lot of insecurites, but they fail to realize that it’s nothing wrong with being gay, it is a part of life. Gay people will always exist no matter what. It becomes a problem when a man goes to extreme lengths to hide his sexuality. The black man struggles with homosexuality regardless of what his situation is. He feels like as if he doesn’t act like a thug people are going to suspect that he’s gay. That’s why it’s so many gay thugs with tattoos running around here fucking around with other niggas.

  3. Honestly, I dont mess with dudes consistently enough to be dl. I fuck around randomly and I usually never see them again. I may mess with a dude once a month. I rarely stare at one or creep on these sites anymore either. Ive come a long way. My homeboy compares me to a ghost these days.

  4. #whoisjamarifox :
    ^I HATE THAT.
    They want to keep things in control,
    And then lose control when they get knee deep in some good loving.
    If they would stop staring and be more aggressive,
    The world and lifestyle would be an easier place.

    It’s extremely frustrating, but I’ve come to a point now where I feel bad for them. They’re insecure, paranoid, and ashamed of who they are despite having absolutely no control over it.

    When he reacted the way he did, I was hurt, but a part of me actually wanted to help him and basically tell him, “You don’t have to live like this…”

    Maybe one day I will. But definitely not today.

  5. JAY :
    Honestly, I dont mess with dudes consistently enough to be dl. I fuck around randomly and I usually never see them again. I may mess with a dude once a month. I rarely stare at one or creep on these sites anymore either. Ive come a long way. My homeboy compares me to a ghost these days.

    So, the chances of you being in a male/male relationship semi-openly are pretty slim, huh?

    1. Define semi-openly? No one has ever put that offer on the table. As more time passes I think I may be open to it, with the right person. I take heed to the signs early on though, especially with dudes. As soon as I feel like I’m being used or toyed with shit gets real ugly.

      Dudes only like me when I’m freaky though and I’m only like that 20% of the time so…

  6. Random :
    @Man
    I was real polite with it.I already knew his name and he slick already knew mine. So it was chill, but I let him know I thought he was attractive. That’s what set him off. When he got defensive, I just let it go because I already knew what the deal was. He was downlow and was probably confused because here I am a man who’s just as masculine, if not more than him, approaching him. You know downlow men are sensitive about their masculinity.
    The thing is now, when I see him and he sees me, I completely ignore him. I walk right past him. You can tell he wants me to speak to him and I guess give him the opportunity to do better than he did last time. But I don’t put myself out there, so doing it with him and him responding the way he did made me feel real foxy and not in a good way. Would prefer not to experience that again.

    If I was straight, I think I would be flattered if a man walked up to me and said that he found me attractive. Random, he figured that you thought that he was feminine because a masculine in shape dude like yourself walked up to him. It’s sad.

    1. @Man

      That’s exactly what I took from it. He placed us in heterosexual roles and felt like I feminized him/compromised his masculinity.
      It was very sad.Especially because prior to that, I had a real positive opinion of him.

  7. When are dudes gonna learn that the more you point out & make a scene, the worse it makes YOU look? There’s nothing DL about that. Granted, I think a whole bunch of these kids acting fem are over the top, but I’m not gonna hate on em – I just keep it moving. I think the whole ‘DL/hyper-masculinity’ aspect is even worse. Just be you, paranoia helps no one.

    Oh, and Random, if you said I was attractive, I’d just thank you…maybe even ask you out on a date. 😉

  8. YngBlkWolf :
    When are dudes gonna learn that the more you point out & make a scene, the worse it makes YOU look? There’s nothing DL about that. Granted, I think a whole bunch of these kids acting fem are over the top, but I’m not gonna hate on em – I just keep it moving. I think the whole ‘DL/hyper-masculinity’ aspect is even worse. Just be you, paranoia helps no one.
    Oh, and Random, if you said I was attractive, I’d just thank you…maybe even ask you out on a date.

    And I’d gladly accept. 😉

      1. Since I’m single, technically it’s not creeping for me. Now your boy, Random, on the other hand…lol

        And I don’t see a ring on it yet…

  9. I haven’t encountered those issues with DL wolves. They mostly just want to fuck me stupid and when I decline, is when they usually call me difficult or complicated. For me DL wolves do the most riskiest shit like stopping on the street to get dudes numbers or asking to study together so that they can get you alone. I steer away because I aint about that hide and fuck life.

  10. The Man :
    How are you going to go out on a date with YBW? I thought you and Jay had something going on. SMH

    Jay won’t even claim me in public. Didn’t you see his response above?

    1. I guess that means that YBW can move in then. With the way you describe yourself, a nigga would be a fool not to be all over you in public.

  11. YngBlkWolf :
    Since I’m single, technically it’s not creeping for me. Now your boy, Random, on the other hand…lol
    And I don’t see a ring on it yet…

    Jay been acting up. I’m a neglected hybrid.

  12. JAY :
    Define semi-openly? No one has ever put that offer on the table. As more time passes I think I may be open to it, with the right person. I take heed to the signs early on though, especially with dudes. As soon as I feel like I’m being used or toyed with shit gets real ugly.
    Dudes only like me when I’m freaky though and I’m only like that 20% of the time so…

    Lets say we’re out.
    Maybe at the mall or anywhere else.
    Would you stand close to me as to let other people know I was claimed?
    If I wanted a hug in public, would you give it?

    In what ways do you feel a man would use you in terms of being open in public?

    1. Honestly I really dont know. Thats like asking me what I would do if I was forced to fly a plane. I have no prior knowledge to speak from.

      In all fairness, the closest thing I have to a commitment is a car note.

  13. JAY :
    Honestly I really dont know. Thats like asking me what I would do if I was forced to fly a plane. I have no prior knowledge to speak from.
    In all fairness, the closest thing I have to a commitment is a car note.

    We’re going to have to work on that Jay.
    What’s your history with women? Since, according to you, you date them more often than men.

    1. Women are just more attracted to me as an all around person than men are, but my encounters with them were still very casual. All my interactions with men have been about sex, the whole sex, and nothing but the sex.

  14. The Man :
    I guess that means that YBW can move in then. With the way you describe yourself, a nigga would be a fool not to be all over you in public.

    I’m cool.
    One day, I’ll randomly send in a picture. Pun not intended.

  15. The Man :
    So you would never be in a relationship with a dude?

    I never say never, but dude would have to be special in every sense of the word. I’m not the type to be in a relationship just because. The odds are against me though. Women find me more attractive than most men. Then of the men that do find me attractive I have to be attracted to them too.Then you have to subtract the crazies, the ones looking for a sponsor, etc.

    I probably have a better chance of hitting the lottery.

      1. Guys have only told me I’m sexy on three occasions.
        A. When we’re about to fuck.
        B. While we’re fucking.
        C. After we fuck.
        Women show me I’m attractive WITH my clothes on by doing nonverbal things like stroking my arms or rubbing my stomach.

  16. JAY :
    Women are just more attracted to me as an all around person than men are, but my encounters with them were still very casual. All my interactions with men have been about sex, the whole sex, and nothing but the sex.

    Why do you think that is?
    Is it that, that’s all they expect out of you or is it that, that’s all that you expect out of yourself?
    Do you put in more effort with women? As in, do you take your time in developing relationships with them and getting a feel for their personality?

    Sometimes, I feel our interactions with men has more to do with the energy we put out than the men themselves.

    1. I definitely know that I’d make a great boyfriend for anyone because I’m loyal and protective by nature. I will admit I’m way more confident around women than men. With women I’m always smiling trying to make them laugh, but with men I’m really serious and trying to establish dominance is nonverbal ways.

  17. JAY :
    I definitely know that I’d make a great boyfriend for anyone because I’m loyal and protective by nature. I will admit I’m way more confident around women than men. With women I’m always smiling trying to make them laugh, but with men I’m really serious and trying to establish dominance is nonverbal ways.

    Why is that? Any particular reason?

  18. JAY :
    Guys have only told me I’m sexy on three occasions.
    A. When we’re about to fuck.
    B. While we’re fucking.
    C. After we fuck.
    Women show me I’m attractive WITH my clothes on by doing nonverbal things like stroking my arms or rubbing my stomach.

    But is that because of your potential with men or because of the nature of your relationship with them already?
    Meaning, sometimes, we project energy about ourselves that we may be unaware of.
    Maybe you give the impression that you’re all about sex? Or maybe you don’t give the vibe that you need that kind of reassurance.
    You said in your dealings with men, they’re usually one nighters. So perhaps you don’t allow potential relationships to evolve beyong that.

    Also take into account that you’re extremely discreet.
    You may be discreet to the point that many see you as downlow.
    Which in turn, as Jamari said above, may have them looking at you as being purely about sex. We try not to invest in downlow wolves.

  19. All my relationships with men have been combative, from my father to my uncles to former friends. I’m more comfortable opening up to women. I’ve always been that way.

    I’m really not that down low though. My parents pretty much know and I’m sure others may suspect because I don’t show any strong preference for either sex so people become curious. They just don’t confront me about it because I can be intimidating.

    I’m sure guys get the impression I’m all about sex because when I’m meeting up with one that most likely what we’re planning to do. Lol!

    Out of all the guys I’ve had sex with in the past I wouldn’t consider dating a single one.

    I know I need to expand my horizons, come from behind an LCD screen and meet different types though.

    1. Yea you need to expand your horizons and meet some different men. You would be suprised what’s out there. From being on this college campus, I have come to find out that it’s a variety of men in the world. You know what’s going to happen Jay, you are going to meet a nigga and fall head over heels for him, just watch. I know what I’m talking about.

  20. JAY :
    All my relationships with men have been combative, from my father to my uncles to former friends. I’m more comfortable opening up to women. I’ve always been that way.
    I’m really not that down low though. My parents pretty much know and I’m sure others may suspect because I don’t show any strong preference for either sex so people become curious. They just don’t confront me about it because I can be intimidating.
    I’m sure guys get the impression I’m all about sex because when I’m meeting up with one that most likely what we’re planning to do. Lol!
    Out of all the guys I’ve had sex with in the past I wouldn’t consider dating a single one.
    I know I need to expand my horizons, come from behind an LCD screen and meet different types though.

    I agree.
    I have hope for you Jay. 🙂

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