after the jill scott x erykah badu “verzuz” when we were locked down in the rona,
someone defined them as:

“jill’s music is thank you for the experience.
erykah’s music is thank you for experiencing me.”

that continues to live rent free in my head.
jill scott had an interview with angie martinez that also lives rent free in my head.
she touched on a lot of points.

one point she brought up bought up the whole building in my head.

“dom/sub“ (dominant submissive)

that is what jill described herself as.
the first part is how you move through the forests,
while the second part is how you want to feel in love/sex.
a “dom/sub“ is…

“dom/sub“ (dominant submissive)

Traits:
Leads in life, career, decisions
Takes responsibility easily
Protects others
Has strong boundaries
Knows what they want

In love:
Wants to be chosen
Wants to be pursued
Wants to feel safe enough to soften
Wants someone strong enough to hold them

i felt that a strong connection to that.
i felt a light connection to “sub/dom” too:

“sub/dom” (submissive dominant)

Traits:
Easygoing in daily life
Go-with-the-flow personality
Doesn’t need to control everything
Often people-pleasers

In love:
Becomes protective
Becomes assertive
Takes charge emotionally
Shows up consistently

these are the other 2:

“sub/sub“ (submissive/submissive)

Traits:
Sensitive
Empathetic
Emotionally intuitive
Avoids conflict
Hates power struggles

In love:
Wants to be led
Needs reassurance
Needs safety
Needs stability

“dom/dom” (dominant/dominant)

Traits:
Takes charge in life
Takes charge in love
Strong personality
Competitive
Highly independent

In love:
Needs respect
Needs admiration
Needs an equal
Needs challenge

…and this goes beyond sex and if you’re a wolf,
fox,
or a hybrid.
i’ve met a lot of soft wolves and dominant foxes.
i’ve met straight males who run soft emotionally but have dominant personalities.

it can spill into how you like to be fucked,
but its also how you show up in the forests outside the bedroom.
when she saidddddddddddd something along the lines of:

“when you manz comes home,
be on your knees on the bed but bent down with your mouth open.
whatever he does next is the surprise.”

i was likeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:

that is the type of submission shit i’m trying to get into.

IRL,
i can come off dominant at first which is why i attracted a lot of submissive males.
it is the reason when i thought i was gonna be pursued,
the males ended up being really sassy and bitchy.
hell,
many they were all sub/sub tbh.
i’m sure i could have topped all of em besides work wolf.
they looked dom on the outside but it was all a front.
i peep their relationships with vixens now and those vixens are def dominant.

i’m looking for a confident sub/dom or a dom/dom wolf with light hybrid tendencies.

i want someone who will be easy going and gentle but is dominant AF.
i feel like work wolf,
and the white wolf,
was an insecure sub/dom but he was perfect at the time.
he did some things that made me go:

so i’d like that but with a more confident wolf,
please and thank you.
biceps,
facial,
and that stackable tail also included.
i’m bout tired of meeting vixens who have the sub/dom traits i’m looking for in wolves.

lowkey: i think a lot of males,
including straight ones,
are aligning more with “sub/sub” tbh.