Aye J, I’s in trouble again:
I’M FEELING MY GOTDAMN BOSS.
So, in September of last year, we got a new guy as our manager:
-32 (I’m 25)
-Short haired & scruffy
-Very much rock band member-esque
..basically NOT MY TYPE at all. LMAO. I like flavored men. I see myself with a flavored man. Yeah. Flavored.
He’s gay, but masculine, sweet, corny (in an adorable way) and loves music (as I do). I really didn’t think much of him at the beginning, probably because in the physical sense, I wasn’t drawn to him. But as you know, its quite easy to fall for someone even if they don’t tickle your fancy in the looks department, especially if you’re a hopeless ass romantic like me. And that’s exactly what I’ve foolishly done: Fell for him. DAMMIT! What have I fucking done?! It’s to the point now that I see something in his physical now too… like a tall teddy bear. (Shit, I’m getting all warm and fuzzy as I type this! LORD.) This would be easy if he wasn’t the boss of me, but he is. Interoffice affairs are a no-no… and he’s even expressed how much he dislikes them. (He said he experienced it once.) His actions say so much of the opposite though; flirts like a MOTHERFUCKER, longingly stares at me (I can feel him staring from across the room!), makes sly remarks about how I need a white guy in my life since I’ve never dated one (I respond accordingly… he’s never been with a black guy) and the energy between the both of us is a bit telltale. On the flipside, he’ll say things about how he doesn’t believe in love because he’s scared of falling in love again and shit, but he ain’t foolin’ this nigga. He’s a mushy, romantic dude who’s (basically) damaged goods.
I know I can romanticize things, but am I in this situation? I’m at a loss… I have no clue what I’m supposed to do here. Do I deny this “crush” or fall back a bit and see where this may go? I feel dumb for texting him at times, thinking I’m foolish for believing in this, but I do.
J, what is my next move?
well as one who is trying to move on from my own “office crush”,
i can understand where you are coming from.
listen you can’t help who you fall for.
we have all crushed/got into relations with someone at our jobs.
we see these people for 8+ hours a day.
sometimes more than our own families.
its hard to not feel an attraction for someone at work.
hell and you know how hard it is to find someone in this “life”.
we might just meet him on the job…
…and “accidentally” start giving him blow jobs off the clock.
in your situation,
this happens to be the boss.
texting him and the convos…
well it goes from appropriate to inappropriate.
in some cases,
fuckin’ the boss can get you perks.
you become one of the “favorites”.
days off unexcused.
some even get a pay raise.
the best part?
the dick cums home with you at the end of the night.
on the flip side,
if all goes south,
things can get very uncomfortable.
you have to work under “this asshole” every day.
that same asshole can find a way to let you go as well.
hell let you go and make it so you don’t get unemployment.
fall back and keep your emotions in check.
you can become his friend.
keep it professional,
but still make your way into being a “favorite”.
basically get into his head and make him chase you.
once you leave that job,
then by all means:
its one thing to smash a dl co worker on the low,
but its another to start smashin’ the boss.
that can create a shit storm real quick.
its true what they say:
“hell hath no fury than a boss scorned”
well no one actually says that,
but i’ll say it.
be careful reader!
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