“hey girl what you doing today?”
“nothing biiiiiiitch, i’m bout to go to the gym.”
“yyaasssss you muscular ass queen bitch fuck it up!!!”
i was never one to greet men,
no matter how feminine,
in this lifestyle as “girl“.
i don’t even address real life females like that.
i never greeted straight wolves like “son” or “dawg” either.
i was never into calling people pet names like that.
nick names is different.
i’ll use it to try to remember you by something that stands out.
it’s my personal way of letting you know that i like you.
in this lifestyle,
i notice almost everyone is a “girl” or a “bitch”.
on rare occasions,
they are “fags”.
is that the greeting or a friend or an enemy?
i’m usually lost.
weirdly enough,
i usually associate those names with the negatives.
the extra.
the redundant.
i often wondered if i was wrong for never embracing that?
never calling a grown ass man my “girl”?
i had to ask…
Is “HEY GIRL” the new “WASSUP SON”?
i noticed throughout the years that so many catty ass men are the “girls”.
the mean girls.
the male pretty little liars.
it’s bad enough they got these vixens out here calling random men girls.
you know they always want to fit in with gay culture and then use it against you.
these same dudes will talk behind your back,
plot to fuck your man,
or try to out you without a second hesitation.
the cliques.
the attitudes.
the lack of trust.
it has all become a mess.
i’ll be honest,
i usually ignore people who try to associate me with anything used for females.
you greet me as “girl” then you are “casper”.
i don’t see you.
who?
yes i may like to get fucked,
but i don’t have a pussy.
neither do you.
i’m not a female and i never want to be.
have you seen how females act?
i’m surprised they even want friends.
they all hate each other.
they pick each other apart for the smallest things.
they are never happy.
they are bitter and most of the time,
they cannot be trusted.
wait.
oh wait.
i’m sorry,
but i was talking about bitches, right?
some men are naturally feminine.
they go about their lives living vicariously through females.
if they could swap out their dicks for clits,
their pipe would be on ebay for the highest bidder.
i started to wonder about the regular dudes who just aren’t into that?
it seems like if you aren’t going to the clubs,
worshiping female pop singers,
or voguing then you need to be shot on sight.
after you been shot,
hang your body up by the rafters to let it be a lesson.
if you even say you don’t like it,
you know what follows next:
“i don’t why.
he is a girl honey…”
right.
are all gay men suppose to be girls?
did i miss the memo in the welcome package when i started suckin’ dick?
maybe it was somewhere in the fine print.
i had to ask…
i find it entertaining watching guys say girl especially when they exaggerate it to sound like gwarl or gwurrrrl, it’s BEST when they come around females and they just do oh so extra, 2 years back when i was around 18 i found them extremely disgusting and so annoying, i figured once you get mature and are focused on your life, honestly what others do don’t even phase you one bit, so i see the positive side to it i guess. it’s fun watching the white gays do the gay lisp and the black ones say chille honey/hunty, boo boo etc.. i think those gays are entertaining, they’re obnoxious yeah but people appreciate them more for being candid as opposed to gay ass niggas fronting to be super duper masculine when all they want is to pass as straight
i’m so glad it wasn’t just me who didn’t like it.
luckey made an excellent point that people in the lifestyle do as others do.
they are all followers.
then they get the vixens involved and it leads to a disaster.
tyson made another good point that these vixens get wayyyyy too comfortable.
No one will EVER address me as girl! I’m a grown man. Last time I checked I had a dick so by no means am I a female. Now being around a few gay dudes and females who hang with them, I have heard the term “bitch” thrown around quite often (more so than girl). I’ve even been called “bitch” by two chicks that I know. At first I thought it was funny, but then I shut that shit down quick. They started to get a little too comfortable with the word. “Bitch let me tell you…” “Oh bitch…” It started to get aggravating. I call some of my female friends “my bitch” as a joke, but I very rarely say that anymore. I address my male friends/associates as “dawg” or “son”, but it’s the southern boy in me….
Man your post are always so on point, it is so hard when you are masculine and like manly things such as sports or even admiring fine vixens, you will usually be picked apart by most gay men especially out at social functions. I have such a strong distaste for feminine dudes even in a gay setting, I have admitted to this in previous post and it seems like my dislike is getting worse. I always greet dudes with dap or handshake and most gay dudes like to hug, and this makes me cringe, I was out this weekend and ran into some dudes I know and they all wanted to hug on me and then of course, they feel you up on the sly..uuuuggghh hate that lol. I dont even put them in check anymore when they call me girl or some other feminine name now because its like in most gay dudes DNA to naturally call each other these names, I have had arguments and have been told that I am just like them so why am I tripping. Im over most gay men, and all their extra carrying on. You really have to watch yourself because I have seen that you will start picking up their ways being around them too much. I noticed this weekend that a few dudes were cool and masculine when they first got to the function, but as the alcohol poured and the night went on, they transformed into America’s Next Top Model contenders, just pure Queens!
On another note, I dont really kick it with no straight females and I dont believe in gay men even jokingly calling females bitches, its disrespectful, I was just raised to be a gentlemen, and even if you are a crazy bitch it will take a lot for me to call a female out of her name to her face, I will just usually keep those type of comments to myself. I just dont chop it up with females like that or want them in my business, me and one of my homies hung with these cool girls last year, but I noticed as time went on, they became a little jealous and little hateful because they look at you as a good one who got away, me and one of the girls were out at a mixed venue when this muscular wolf with dreads came by our table and she was oohing and aahing about him and I had to break her heart that he plays for my team, she couldnt believe it and became a little salty, later on she saw him with his friends and she was crushed because there was no doubt. In the end this is only going to get worse because acting like a man is going to become extinct in the Black gay community.
Hell no I ain’t no girl, and no one better not ever address me ass such. I’m a grown ass man, and I like being one. Lets be real tho, the straights will see us as women due to the stereotypes that come with being gay or bisexual.
Yea but I get so much respect from straight men because they see through me that not all of us are alike.
Sometimes we have to educate these fools on what the real deal is. If they don’t know any better, you can’t blame them..
Another thing I never understood is why do gays refer themselves as a sissy, punk, faggot…
Those are derogatory terms to me….why would I want people to refer to me as a such?
same reasons black men will call themselves nigga, & foo
You know coming into this ‘life’, I thought it was thing to do when you communicate with other ‘gays’. I though it was our language…
But as I gotten older, I cringed every time somebody refer to me as a ‘girl’ or female pronouns.
I live my life as a man so I’d like to be called by Luckey or my government name…use male pronouns with me.
I am not your nigga either…that’s another word I don’t like to be referred as.
I won’t even go there with ‘mean pretty little liars’ in the community. I am not even about that life these days.
You have to learn to live your own life as you see fit. Don’t say things because you hear others saying it or think that you have to be like them to fit in.
I wish we as black gay men can get to a place in life, where we are respected individually. Every gay man is different. Not all of us are naturally feminine or masculine. Some of us got the best of both worlds. Just embrace that shit and move on.
Respect me and we good…