I personally think this man is full of shit…
Slept with 100 men?
All of a sudden he is straight and bashing his past life?
Converted Foxes act like they did not enjoy having some hard pipe in their Foxholes.
Or, Wolves act like they didn’t enjoy dominating some Fox (or another Wolf).
Maybe even being a Hybrid…
Foxes and Wolves sometimes cannot deal with the loneliness,
comparing to rivals that are Vixens,
and not getting what they want.
I can admit I fall victim to those 3 every now and again.
Me thinks son woke up one day,
looked in the mirror,
felt his rosebud of a Foxhole,
and said to himself, “Wow, I am nothing but a cum dump for stray peen.”
Heard a scripture or two and wanted to a reinvention…
…until he meets a Wolf or Fox of his dreams, back slides, and will find himself at the altar again.
But, his testimony of bullshit actually made me put myself in his tail.
We spend hours and days trolling the net or making ourselves visible to meet a perfect match.
Realistically, even if you have a roster of Wolves/Foxes you fuck,
you can still find yourself alone and depressed.
Once the fuck is over, you are still left to see yourself as a 1 but -1.
I couldn’t help but wonder…
If it is so simple to pray the “Fox/Wolf/Hybrid” away and live this perfect life
meet a fine ass Vixen and get the straight Wolf package (kids, dog, pool, white picket fence)…
42 thoughts on “Praying The “Fox/Wolf Disease” Away?”
It just sucks to hear stuff like that because it isn’t all bad. Plus, if you say that you do not relate to gay/ bisexual people, then you will seek out evidence to support that belief and ignore all of the other similarities. Similarities that keep you coming back to this blog and expressing yourself. You shape the world in which you live in through your perspective. If you believe something, positive or negative, you will bring that thing into fruition.
Good luck finding what you think you’re looking for. Maybe you’ll accidently stumble across it? Who knows?
And umm…. Jay?… you are clockable.
NO I WOULDN’T DO IT! And I’ma praying person. Janet Jackson sang the song “BE…spend most your life pretending not to BE the one you are but who you choose to see;learn to survive in this fictitious(hypocritical) world…” Judas hung out with Jesus until it was time for him to betray him. He played both sides of the social fense and he had to make a choice on who’s side he was on and the side he choose caused him to commit suicide…cause he went against what was truth. When we go against the grain of truth it better be what we want cause there is a price to pay…I’m with you! iceededppl
Pure BULLSHIT! People like Donnie McClurkin and this jackass are the weak ones. They stumble across a church and allow all these other Holier Than Thou bitches to penetrate their minds and convince them that their way of life is wrong when in fact they out there doing if not the same, something close to it. Okay, so now he has changed, I bet his Pastor has an arranged marriage with a lonely church woman and they will probably go on and have two to three kids, dog, mini van, picket fence…and at what cost? The happiness of two individuals? Or the pain these kids will feel through the tension that will arise from the situation?
Nobody is perfect. Straight, Gay, or Bi. The good thing is that most people, unless I say so, know that I am in fact Gay. The things I hear people say about gay people are just ridiculous. Right down to my coworkers…they can praise a female’s baby and her babydaddy for having a premarital sex and conceiving a child out of wedlock but I am going to hell for who I CHOOSE to sleep with? Bitch be gone! Peter is not better than Paul.
To those in the struggle…I say never let it get to you. It may sound easy but I of all people know that it is not. I live in a country where not even our employment laws protect against sexual orientation. I’m learning to come into myself more than ever now and believe it or not this very blog has helped a lot with putting my life in perspective too. Even to this say I am still kind of paranoid of people thinking I’m gay or whatnot…I’m not perfect but I am living my life on my terms regardless. I highly doubt I will ever put my business out there like that because that’s just me…a discrete person, yet, I have no reservations of smacking lips, saying “girl, please” or any of that shit.
Being gay is not choice. And less people should worry about what the BIBLE says mainly because God did not write it. I met that hear, it was written by people who we believed to have been inspired by God, I do not know how much alterations was done to that. I believe in the God within me, the one who told me that love is everything. The one who will judge my heart not my sexual partners, bank account, house, car, friends, family, job, etc.
Damn Jamari you got some of these foxes going out they mind. Clawing and biting at each other like a pack of rabid wolves. You sure got a response lol. Im scared now
No sir, you definitely do not make me feel low; I don’t give you that much weight in my life. When you stop the yelling, condescension, cursing, haugtiness, lack of tact/compassion/sympathy/awareness, and general a-holery, you can sometimes make compelling arguments. I understand that everyone has not arrived & is perfect like you, so you can’t be bothered to help them understand or get to that mindset. We are so sorry to have disturbed your perfect world with our imperfections, insecurities, and even fears we’ve dared to express in a place that is considered ‘safe’ for that. How dare we answer Jamari’s question with out true feelings?! The nerve!
I learned a long time ago, that while it is sometimes necessary to slap someone outta their funk, you have to discern when it’s permissble – and that’s usually only with a strong relationship or trust. Most people you can just point them in the direction & show them by example & hope they realize & catch up. Your method generally causes folks to ignore you & tune you out — but since you can’t be bothered, I guess you don’t care. We can agree to disagree without being disagreeable…try it sometime.
I could’ve went right there with you with the name-calling, shade, and the like, but it’s not worth it. Trust and believe we’re all men & can handle ourselves appropriately if disrespected, though. 😉
I thank everyone for their comments, insight, and fearlessness is showing where you are at this moment. Some have gotten further, and that’s okay. The important thing is to not stop moving forward AT YOUR PACE, regardless if others feel you’re too slow or fast – it’s not their life. There are plenty of lurkers who will learn from what you said (and from FATC, Icee, and others encouragement). Jamari, people are passionate, so that means you’ve created something right & good 😀
Let’s try to treat each other with respect – argue against the point if you disagree, not the person. Remember ‘if you can’t say anything nice…?’ lol
Im not reading your long rant full of assumptions about me and my life, ironically you sound just as stereotypical as you believe me to be.
I gave my perspective and kept it moving. Clearly you’re too invested. No ones making you participate and to my knowledge no has missed your presence. You could’ve dropped knowledge from a different perspective like an adult, instead you sound like a high strung teenager.
Just know I got me.
I won’t be addressing you any further, as if I ever have.
AND I DONT GIVE A FUCK EITHER. YOUR SUFFERING IS UR OWN. ROLL AROUND IN IT, COOK IT FOR DINNER….CONTINUE SLEEPING IN IT! NO CARES OR EVER WILL. STAY MAKING EXCUSES FOR REMAINING IN UR DARK LITTLE CORNER AND I DIDNT ASSUME…U DID EXACTLY WHAT I SAID YOU WOULD DO….CONTINUE TO NOT GO ANY FUCKIN WHERE. GOOD NIGHT…AND I DONT GIVE A FUCK IF NO ONE MISSED ME..DID I ASK FOR A FAREWELL PARTY MOTHAFUCKA???????? I DONT THINK SO. NO MORE PRESS FOR YOU AND UR INSECURITIES.
You still here? Go away, before you fall off your f*cking high horse and break your fabulous neck…and wouldn’t that be a shame
Youre not in this so i advise u to stay out of it. Its not my fault i make u feel so low, u believe im on a high horse. No one can make u feel inferior without ur consent. Too bad u dont understand that. Now run along little poodle
Why do so many gay men believe that they ain’t shit, ain’t never gonna be shit, can’t ever hope to have any good shit happen to them because a person told them a god said so? How do they know? How could they possibly know? Telling someone they are going straight to hell for being gay is a joke. They have no hell or heaven, for that matter, to send anyone to.
If you want to switch teams, then good luck with that. It’s stupid to describe yourself as ex-gay–what exactly is the point? If you use to suck dick and now you lick clit…okay congratulations. The idea that other gays want to be saved from this “horrible lifestyle” is off-putting and fucking insulting. Every gay person’s life does not revolve around seeking anonymous sex with multiple partners through the internet, alcoholic black outs or drug induced stupors, and feigned religiousity. There is way more to life than that.
I really don’t get how any one can believe in a deity that is against them or hates them they way they were made. I don’t pray, but if I did, I certainly would not pray the gay away. Nothing wrong with gay people or being gay. There is something wrong with self-loathing and internalized homophobia.
Homosexuality didn’t become a problem until someone told you it was a problem AND YOU BELIEVED THEM. Why?
Stop giving these imbeciles power over your life. Stop believing you live a lifestyle. You live a life. Way too many people are worried about what other people are gonna do to or think about them instead of living their life.
People are born gay, straight, bisexual, male, female, and intersex. Not one soul has ever been born Christian in the history of the world. You don’t choose your sexual orientation or biological sex–you can choose a religion.
I hear you. The least you can do is try though. Change your thoughts and you’ll change the course of your life. It’s all in your head when you get right down to it.
Believe it or not, I always take into consideration all of the things you say, except the part about me being clockable. Lol but yea I’ll try it.
BTW, I’m pretty close to finding what I’m looking for on FB;)
JUST AS I THOUGHT…NO FUCKING HOPE.
This reminds me of my college roommate. I had no idea he had sex with men (he was a theater major though), but apparently he felt compelled to reveal it to a room full of people after joining this religious organization. He actually named names of the dudes he had sex with because the confessions were supposed to be kept private but of course my other roommate told me. He liked the snow bunnies though.
He claimed he had been changed and no longer even had the desire to engage in sex with men and felt it was his God given duty to help other gay men change. Needless to say, I’m glad I was a virgin at the time and I didn’t confide anything in him.
@Vain: I like your perspective and I’m sure it’s true for your life, but I don’t think its true for mine.
i’m mad he revealed names lol
was it that serious?
Apparently it was a very tearful, cleansing perfection. That religious group then tried to recruit those people he named so they could “save”.them as well.
I went for the free food a few times, but I was not joining that group of zealots.
Group Leader: “Insert name here do you have anything to confess?”
Me: “These tacos are the shit! Sorry for cursing…”
I urge anyone struggling with their sexuality to get their OWN understanding and not lean on what everyone tells them. Then go further in the scriptures that address it and research the CONTEXT in which it was written. There a lot of things people don’t want to discuss for why certain things were written and what was going on at the time that they were made. Its simple to read something in black in white and let it be law just as is agreeing heterosexuality is right and homosexuality wrong.
Jay just like you can pray God take it away, you can also pray strength and understanding. If you believe Him enough to pray believe God is love and anyone showing you anything but is not acting in his way. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to email [email protected]
U know thats very big of you FATC….lets see if hes got a little strength in him somewhere t even do that…any of these mothafuckas like him for that matter.
I’ve never had a moment where i stopped and said to myself “if i were straight, my life would be better.” There is nothing about sleeping with and dating women that appeals to me. Having children and a wife does not equal happiness because if it did, divorce rates wouldn’t be so high. The straight people have their share of issues and despite what many self-hating homosexuals may think, many of then are just as unhappy with their life. And even still, you do not ‘choose’ to be homosexual… you choose to engage in homosexual acts but abstaining from them does not make you heterosexual. Being a homosexual in a heterosexual dominated society is not easy. Dating is tough and loneliness is real. But a lot of us tend to make life a lot harder for ourselves through harboring negative thoughts and beliefs. You don’t have to change your sexual orientation to finally be fully accepting of who you are, you have to change your perception of the one you already have.
Many of these self-hating ideals stems from the church. A place full of hypocrisy and moral-relativism. Not everywhere, but it occurs more than not. It would be best if people were better at choosing their own path in life as opposed to trying to fit into one that was chosen for them by someone who probably doesn’t have their best interests in mind.
A lot of us make life a lot harder for ourselves without having other people do that for us.
Looking for pen to co-sign
#agreed with Vain
Let me be clear. You CANNOT pray the gay away. I stay away from ppl who even entertain that theory.
I do believe you can find solace in whatever religion you practice. I know I did and I’ve come a LONG way from not even being able to look in the mirror at all and overeating to up to 300lbs.
Im just very upfront about my issues on here because I have to work through them in private in real life alone.
thats what i like to hear jamari..not people saying on i love men but maybe i can get a wife because its “easier”
Ugh!!! i am extra disgusted at both sam and jay. Shameful!!! ugh i.cant even follow the site anymore.
you can’t follow my site anymore… because of what they said?
instead of being disgusted Della,
why don’t you feel compassion for them?
Obviously they are going through something deeper and to just write them off is unacceptable.
You are no better than what straight people do to others when they find out they are gay.
I suggest you make your next comment, if you ever comment again, one that is more sympathetic.
I don’t take to kindly to that.
Why the fuck would i have compassion for these weak minded mothafuckas!!!!!? Thats their fucking problem!!!! people are too fucking easy on their asses and tryna tell em its gon be okay! NEWS FUCKING FLASH! LIFE ISNT EASY AND AND U SHOULD NEVER ACCEPT OK! THAT SHIT IS WEAK AND DISGUSTING. THEY NEED A FUCKING KICK IN THE FUCKING ASS! YOU ARE WHO U ARE! BUILD A MOTHAFUCKIN BRIDGE AND GET THE FUCK OVER IT. IM NOT GON SIT HERE AND HEAR THESE SORRY ASS STORIES DL MEN BEN TELLIN WINCE 1492 WHEN COLUMBUS ARRIVED! SHIT IS FUCKING WEAK!!! ALWAYS WHAT UVE BEEN THROUGH…WHO GIVES A FUCK!!
CONGRATS ON KNOWING WHERE UVE BEEN!! NOW WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU GOING!!!!!?
IM STILL FUCKING DISGUSTED. THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL THE WAY THEY DO AS DO I DO. ITS NOT LIKE WE WILL EVER MEET IN PERSON SO I DONT GIVE A FUCK! I WOULDNT BE ABLE TO SEE THEM ANYWAY CAUSE THEY ARE INVISIBLE TO ME NOW. THERE IS NO PLACE FOR PEOPLE LIKE THEM EXCEPT THE HOLES THEY FEEL SO SECURILY SNUG IN.
THE END. MY FUCKING TRUTH. NO ONES GONNA CHANGE IT.
PS IM GLAD I SOUND LIKE UR MOTHER. SHE PROBABLY CANT BELIEVE THOSE WEAK ASS THOUGHTS EITHER!
You sound just as judgemental as my mother. Lol I don’t know why you would be disgusted about MY opinion about MY life.
If you would choose to be gay great for you. Im not disgusted by that at all.
This is a prime example of me not relating to anyone.
I’m tired of people mentioning homosexuals and murderers in the same breath of being wrong and evil. Murder is wrong because you are harming someone and taking God-given life. That’s an elementary concept. You only feel wrong about having sex with another man because someone TOLD you that you should. “I was horrible; a drug mule, a no walled whore, a coke fiend and gay. Well news flash; not all gay people are all of the above. There are lonely and whorish straights just like there are gays I’m tired of people with this tired ass argument like being straight is the answer to it all.
That queen is on a promo trail $$$ Next.
Church will have you so insecure FoxAndTheCity.
I agree with Sam.
I can remember times when I prayed to be straight…or dead, whatever God would grant me. Dark times.
I just don’t think Im emotionally, physically, mentally built for this lifestyle.
this topic may bring about some great feedback.
All sexuality aside Im already different from most men. When you add sexuality to the equation I don’t really relate to anyone. Not family or friends or gay/bi men. No one.
Then the most ironic part is I have a deep mistrust for other men in general that comes from experiences in my childhood. So its like I lust them but hate them at the sam
Jay, I feel your pain but I couldn’t live like that.
You have to go about letting go before you can truly be free.
Free doesn’t mean coming out the closet.
Free means F.A.M.E (Forgiving All My Enemies) and truly moving on to a positive life.
You cannot live like that and expect to be happy.
I have made some great gay friends and I wouldnt trade them for thr world. but like Jay said, I’m not built for this lifestyle. while I’ve been a little more adventurous and stepped out more in recent months, I do so at a personal risk. I live a high- profile life (sort of a celeb) and I live in fear of bring outed. my career hangs in the balance and for what?? My bisexuality, which doesnt completely define me? It’s just not worth the risk.
please don’t assume that I’m some self-loathing guy who is one razor blade away from taking my own life. that is hardly the case. Jamari posted a question which I answered honestly. sorry if my answer offended.
this message just made me really sad
no urs jamari….sams did…just this idea that i know i like men..but i will live a straight life and not acting on how u really feel. the lifestyle can be difficult but it doesnt have to be the end of the world either…i believe its what you make it
i may not have a wolf,
but i am very happy in my life.
maybe i hold onto optimism and faith.
i have my moments where i feel down but lately,
i try to not let it consume me.
maybe since i vent on my site and i get over it once i let it out…
… but i can’t live my life like i am trash when the half the world is convinced i am due to who i choose to fuck.
i do not like to let the opposing team win over me PERIOD.
I would definitely do it. I enjoy having sex with men, but I don’t like the fact that I LIKE having sex with men. I never came to terms with this lifestyle.
I’ve known people who have been gay and left it behind to live a straight life. To my knowledge, they don’t creep or cheat. I’m not saying they don’t havw the dame desires, but to my knowledge, they don’t act on it.
If I could become 100% straight, Would I do it? Absolutely.
so if you were to meet someone you were compatible with,
you would still want to be straight?
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