Frankie Wants You To Move On From The “Bi-Sexual” Thing

this is definitely frank ocean’s year.
new music coming out.
working with beyonce and alicia keys on their albums.
did the song for the django unchained movie.
and has a potential new boyfriend.
all is good right?
well frankie had some stuff to say about the letter and him coming out in the new GQ

On his open letter on Tumblr:

“The night I posted it, I cried like a fucking baby. It was like all the frequency just clicked to a change in my head. All the receptors were now receiving a different signal, and I was happy. I hadn’t been happy in so long. I’ve been sad again since, but it’s a totally different take on sad. There’s just some magic in truth and honesty and openness.

“Whatever I said in that letter, before I posted it, seemed so huge. But when you come out the other side, now your brain—instead of receiving fear—sees “Oh, shit happened and nothing happened.” Brain says, “Self, I’m fine.” I look around, and I’m touching my fucking limbs, and I’m good. Before anybody called me and said congratulations or anything nice, it had already changed. It wasn’t from outside. It was completely in here, in my head.”

On if the decision would derail his career:

“I had those fears. In black music, we’ve got so many leaps and bounds to make with acceptance and tolerance in regard to that issue. It reflects something just ingrained, you know. When I was growing up, there was nobody in my family—not even my mother—who I could look to and be like, “I know you’ve never said anything homophobic.” So, you know, you worry about people in the business who you’ve heard talk that way. Some of my heroes coming up talk recklessly like that. It’s tempting to give those views and words—that ignorance—more attention than they deserve. Very tempting.

“Some people said, “He’s saying he fell in love with a guy for hype.” As if that’s the best hype you can get in hip-hop or black music. So I knew that if I was going to say what I said, it had to be in concert with one of the most brilliant pieces of art that has come out in my generation. And that’s what I did. Why can I say that? Why I don’t have to affect all this humility and shit is because I worked my ass off. I worked my face off. And the part that you love the most is the easiest part for me. So I’ll do it again.”

On if he considers himself bisexual:

You can move to the next question. I’ll respectfully say that life is dynamic and comes along with dynamic experiences, and the same sentiment that I have towards genres of music, I have towards a lot of labels and boxes and shit. I’m in this business to be creative—I’ll even diminish it and say to be a content provider. One of the pieces of content that I’m for fuck sure not giving is porn videos.

I’m not a centerfold. I’m not trying to sell you sex. People should pay attention to that in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same shit. As a writer, as a creator, I’m giving you my experiences. But just take what I give you.

You ain’t got to pry beyond that. I’m giving you what I feel like you can feel. The other shit, you can’t feel. You can’t feel a box. You can’t feel a label. Don’t get caught up in that shit. There’s so much something in life. Don’t get caught up in the nothing. That shit is nothing, you know? It’s nothing. Vanish the fear.

i love him.
i think if i met a wolf like this,
my drawz would be on his head.
i like that deep shit.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

20 thoughts on “Frankie Wants You To Move On From The “Bi-Sexual” Thing”

  1. That’s what you call a ‘non-answer’ answer lol

    Same as Raven-Symone…people get swept up in the double-talk & deepness, and you can read between the lines for the ‘yes.’ But I ain’t mad at you Frank…do you cutie

  2. Yea he’s still is, but he just doesn’t want to say it and I understand it. I think he’s tired of it always being always being one of the topics in an interview. He came out and said he was bi and he wants to move on with his life.

  3. I think people are going to keep asking about his orientation because he isnt being clear. Yes some people can read riddles and whatnot but people want a definitive answer. If youre going to put a letter like that for the masses be ready to answer the questions. I know hes trying to avoid being label but it is what it is. Thats life!

    1. Life doesn’t have to be that way though. Let him create the content and then we fill in like we need to not fill in with his desires.

  4. I respect the how raw and transparent the responses he gave were. He isn’t afraid and a man without fear is a dangerous man. He speaks for us, in so many ways and I think we should all support regardless, because not only is he apart of our community but becuase he’s a black dude who not afraid to be different in this cold world, and in a industry where the do wolves hide in the dark and messy jackals.

  5. Lmao! I’m not moved. He said a whole lot of nothing. He may as well give a straight answer being that HE brought his sexuality to light before he even released his first solo album. So now it will always be the main topic of his interviews. If the average joe said the same thing he’d be accused of denying his true sexuality and playing both sides of the fence, but he makes it sound “deep”.

    1. Couldnt agree anymore. It does seem like he doesnt want to accept his sexuality. I usually dont speak on this Frank Ocean thing but just had to give my opinion. If I support Frank its going to be for his music. If hes gay or bi, even better. Makes me question the real motive for his coming out. Maybe someone was going to out him prematurely so he decided to do it himself. That may be why he gives such long winded answers to simple questions. Anyways……

  6. i feel like frank ocean will never win.
    there is no use in defending his actions because whatever he does will be picked apart.
    if he was bold and said “yes i fuck niggas” then it would be another story.
    this is why people choose not to come out.
    they have to explain themselves and their actions in detail.
    they make everyone happy.
    i think its better when you stay in the closet and have rumors and guessing games.
    i loved his answer.

    1. I agree with you, Jamari. Why does everyone “have” to know. I honestly don’t care. When I listened to songs in the past, I made it apply to my life from a Brandy song to Tupac. Let the man be… will all come out regardless so let it go and focus on self.

  7. So many black&male artists have had their sexuality questioned, but never confirmed by the actual artist…(i.e. Luther Vandross, Little Richard, Prince, Freddie Jackson, Tevin Campbell, Michael Jackson, Ne-yo, Diddy, Teddy Pendegras etc..) so he’s doing the right thing in my opinion. Because, as a black man, once you get put in a GAYish box it’s impossible to come out of it. (i.e. Donnie McClurkin, Chingy, Omarian,…)

    1. Calling Prince or Luther gay in my family will result in a fist fight…no lie.

      A senior citizen will kick your ass for calling Luther gay. Lol

      Frank Ocean is already in that box anyway even more so than the people you listed because he admitted to falling in love with a man. Now he doesn’t want to label himself? That’s kind of like throwing rocks at someone and then hiding your hands.

      He could’ve released his music and let people speculate and maybe clarify down the line, but like Ronnie said I get the feeling someone was about to out him anyway so he beat them to it…kinda.

      1. He has a label for himself but I just think that he doesn’t want to talk about it. If he didn’t have a label for himself I don’t think he would have came out at all.

  8. There have been so many black male artist who I think have had to closet themselves to keep people from criticizing them for who they were and how they carried themselves just to keep a straight face within the industry. It happens everyday within the lives of some married men who put on a persona to be straight, but intern deal with a man on the DL or a secret lover. I wonder why some people put themselves through so much trauma…Be who you are and be happy life comes only once.

  9. When I was growing up, there was nobody in my family—not even my mother—who I could look to and be like, “I know you’ve never said anything homophobic.”

    That’s some real shit. However, I still think Frank Ocean is an arrogant, haughty, pretentious douchebag.

  10. they gonna still be asking him about the same stuff even when his 2nd album comes out im sure. i hope his 2nd album is better than his first which maybe hard cause to me his first album was so good to me

  11. I almost think that this is some type of twisted joke with him, like he wants to continue for us to talk about him and wonder what he is really saying, almost talking in riddles Its like so many creative minds think their thoughts are so deep and they are some how different from everybody else because they are talented and their opinion means so much to all of us. I think the letter was more for us to discover his music, I don’t want to go as far to say publicity stunt, but more and more that’s what this whole thing is coming off as. I mean he is talented but to be honest he is not a once in a lifetime artist like Prince or Michael, so he needed something else to separate him from the pack.

    I remember when Erykah Badu hit the scene with this same type of mystique and mystery minus being gay of course, but everyone thought she was this deep person and come to find out she was only human like the rest of us and I feel the same way with Frank. He seems to want to have it both ways. Time will tell, because in this disposable fly by night society we live in, their will be some other thing to tickle our collective fancy and we will be worrying about who they sleep with and what they are doing, and he will be yesterday’s news literally. Honestly, I am already over this dude.

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