Hey Jamari, I’v been reading your blog for about 2years and all I can say is you are doing absolutely great things. Much love.
I am a 27yr old DL fox from a conservative background in West Africa. I am pretty successful here. I met this 23yr old wolf around my ‘hood while jogging one day. We became friends and got closer. He was straight until I noticed he started acting weird and making some very direct compliments. He said he likes me a lot. I rebuffed him for quite a while until I was sure he wasn’t playing- I’m not one to convert straight guys.
This wolf is a muscular, cute sweetheart who quickly became a staple in my family home(and my life). My family see him like my junior brother but we were much more than that. We started dating and when it got down to d crunch- he is so well-endowed I bled the 1st time. I cldnt get myself to do it again(and he was of the same notion). Long story short- I fell in love with him. He still kicks it with vixens but I’m d only guy.
After 6months of dating (enjoying the friendship too), I realised he doesn’t feel the same way I do. He acts weird when I tell him my feelings, he isn’t d romantic type, he bangs some round-the-way hos(cos he says he wants a quick-no-feelings bang). He lives 5mins away from me. I’m completely heartbroken cos I stupidly fell in love with a guy who just confessed that he cnt grow to love a guy. I’m devastated cos I’v invested so much into this and nothing is forthcoming. We are good friends but we come from 2 different lifestyles and ideals.
How do I get over him? Unlove him- cos I guess its so convenient for him to be the centre of my attention(and I’m a Cancer, I love hard and I kinda take care of him to some extent). I see him EVERYDAY. He claims he’s trying but he keeps lying to me about the skenks he bumps uglies with(I aint against heterosexual sex but he can do waaaaaay better- he loves sex- but not with people who are immature, shady and steal from u).
Please help me(talk some sense into me). I wanna get over him but I can’t. I do deserve better.
west africa tho?
we global foxhole!
ok i’m done.
well i’m glad you reached out to me.
i think we ALL can relate with this story somehow.
i know i have and it left me hurt.
emotional ties are the worst because they are always full of knots.
the first time you bond laps around mutual feelings and potential memories.
it’s not like a one night stand that can’t be tied to anything.
this is real.
you start to tie one emotion,
around the another.
sooner of later,
you get so wrapped up that you can’t let go,
but not realizing that he has already UN-tied himself and his feelings.it seems he is trying to un-tie himself from you honestly.
he loves you,
but something inside him is not allowing him to.
the main issue with any dl wolf.
he catches feelings when he doesn’t want too.
hence why he started fuckin’ all those scally wags.
(why is it always the low grade pussy?
i never understood that.)
it helps him to detach from you and keep him seeing straight.
he is bound to you because you both share intimate moments together.
you are jealous because he is now sharing those intimate moments with hoes.
not to mention he is not talking to you about it and lying.
this scenario is deep.
you both dated.
knows your family.
lives five minutes away.
here is an idea….
instead of looking at it like you did something stupid fallin’ in love,
beatin’ yourself up over it and getting emotional,
accept that you did and realize that you both can be just friends.
why cut him off?
these queens will have you thinking you can’t be friends.
feel blessed in knowing you still have a deeper connection with him.
something those hoes don’t.
aside from the “relationship” aspect,
he hasn’t done anything terrible to you.
you are holding on to “something” and he is trying to let go.
seems like he is a good friend besides stickin’ his dick in ratchet hoes.
once he sees you have dropped those feelings,
because i’m sure you are coming off like “the whiny girlfriend“,
it may make him try to lasso you back.
wolves run when you start to apply pressure.
so starting tonight,
build a solid friendship and feel good about it.
not everyone’s d/l situation ends like this.
i guess that’s why everyone hates them.
well you know where to send it: CONTACT