vain left a comment that literally made the world stop.
he left it under:
I feel like there is a big disconnect when it comes to primary and secondary values when it comes to yourself and others. Sure, you may have a good career, few sexual partners, and knowledge of our nation’s political system, that does not mean the men you’re interested in care about those things AT ALL. Society tells us in order to be a good partner, you must look good on paper. We sell ourselves to men like we’re going into a job interview. Imagine if a guy came up to you and said “You should be with me because I don’t drink or smoke, I’m funny, I make X amount of money, I have good hair, I dress well, I can draw, and I get along well with other’s.” What about those things makes him a good life partner for you? Do any of those things speak to his ability to be in a relationship with someone else and BE GOOD AT IT? This is how many of us sound when we list off all of our “great qualities” and what “WE” personally feel “SOMEONE ELSE” S-H-O-U-L-D deem as “valuable.”
I also think the biggest thing we’re missing and what hoes and others we deem as “unworthy” do best: Connect with men E-M-O-T-I-O-N-A-L-L-Y. SO THE FUCK WHAT if you have a nice car, speak 3 languages, live in your own apartment, have a steady gym regimen, buy expensive clothes, and can do a backflip in the bedroom? If you are not connecting with men where it count, they well sleep with you, entertain your small talk, and get an ego stroke, but they will not lock you down. They will look at all those things and say “good for you” and keep it moving. Why? Because he’s not connected to you EMOTIONALLY. He does not place you in the “Mean’s Something To me” box and will easily let you go. When men get emotionally attached, they will tattoo your likeness on themselves, call you all the time, do whatever it takes to see you, remember little things that you like, put up with whatever bullshyt you throw at them, and maybe even kill themselves AND/OR you, if you leave them. None of the things most people list under “Reasons Why You Should Fall In Love With Me” have anything to do with what it takes to make that actually happen. If you do not know how to communicate in ways to make him think you’re worth it, if you do not know how to understand how men communicate their feelings, if you do not know how to behave in ways that make men think you are special, if you do not know how men actually become emotionally attached… you’re swimmer’s build, your resume, your choice in bath soaps, and ability to put finger to keyboard mean absolutely nothing in realm of dating, love, and relationships.
this was a very well put together comment.
i agree with it,
but to an extent.
i feel like…
meeting men these days is luck.
the online world has us brainwashed into thinking:
and others are the “standard” wolf.
we start competing with others to get “this kind on wolf” because he is “in”.
it is trendy.
they looking at what is trendy for them.
so they moreso look at the foxes/hybrids/and wolves who are just as popular as them.
i guarantee if you they got down and you met them in an intimate setting,
like a game night or a small get together,
they would probably be interested.
there is no competeion in that room,
you look fuckin fly,
and your personality is on 20,000.
they are seeing you for who you are and what you are about.
it can’t happen online because every bitch with a hole is throwing it in their direction.
this may sound cocky as hell,
but i bet if i met any of those attention whores at a game night,
i’d get their numbers.
we’d probably be friends or talking to get to know each other.
it is CORNY to walk up to a man and tell him “your resume“.
who does that?
this isn’t a job.
what i do is none of his business unless we are trading stories.
i want to get to know him and see what he is about.
does he have a job?
at that point,
we both need to be impressing each other.
i told you guys in that entry because i was making a point,
but guess what?
i take all of what i’ve done and it gives me confidence to know what i’m worth.
fuckin’ around with pookie and jailbird #65 because i decided to drop my worth and go on emotional connection.
you always go into meeting anyone with connecting with them on a HIGHER emotional level,
but you always know you can do better and deserve better.
if you don’t hold some sort of standard for yourself,
you are nothing but a hole to be fucked.
chat sites, clubs, and social networks:
you will not meet a quality man because the priors are not aligned.
how can you?
you are showing your muscles and your ass.
no one cares to get to know you,
they just want a piece.
the connection s built on lust.
unless that is what you want.
the biggest issue is:
you gotta meet people who will put you in those private events
that will allow you to meet wolves/hybrids/and foxes...
…and not talking so fuckin’ much.
that is my issue.
so you better have a worth and know how to play the game in the process.
fuck around and have your ass up on xtube trying to be emotionally connected to some dickhead.