I’m Gonna Tell You A Secret… Then I Want You To Tell Everyone, Okay?

DL Wolves are so interesting to observe in public settings.
Especially when you know all of their business…

As much as these boys play DL, someone talks.
Whether it is to say:

“Damn he fucked me so stupid.”

“He played me and now I’m telling everyone.”

“Um, everyone had that.”

or my favorite:

“He is messy. Don’t why he is playing DL when everyone knows.”

People pretty much will tell your business with no questions ask.
And, especially if you are fine as hell or someone who needs to be fucked.

SOMEONE WILL TELL SOMEONE.

But, how do you avoid having your business put on front street?
Do we park it a no talking area?
Do we just walk with it and try to duck between as many people as we can?
Or, do we keep our cars parked and stay the hell home?

Got me wondering about when it comes to people talking…

Can we really avoid being gossiped about?

We do it with Wolves or Foxes we think are sexy.
They could be on the DL, but somehow we find out how the dick/cheeks was.
Then, like clockwork, we want a ride.
We admire those who take down someone like this:

Secretly, we want to too.
But, ss much as they WANT to be DL, a secret can never be a secret unless the other person is dead.
This new generation of Wolves, Hybrids, and Foxes talk way to much.
So, chances are, someone has told someone about you.

Last night for instance, I went to an event to support an artist who is fast on the come up.
He has a very charming personality, and he is a real hit with the Vixens.
He is still waiting to be signed, but he is damn near close to it.

He and his crew and a bunch of DL Wolves, Hybrids, and Foxes.

How do I know this?
Their business is open for business.
They are messy Wolves and Foxes using sex for a come up…. or fucking all the wrong people.
Typical industry standard.
I could never understand how these same “DL Wolves” are so “DL”,
when they do stupid things to other Foxes/Hybrids and people TALK.

Plus, it isn’t that hard to tell they get down by the way they look at me.
Being on here taught me about eyes and their eyes are trying to figure me out.

So, I brought a bad Vixen with me to the event.
She knows them mutually also and she even let me in on some information of Foxes they fucked.
They even fucked people who are associated with people who know her.
Her best friend went on a chatty spree and revealed everything about everyone.

Little do they know that I know.

You should have seen how they were flirting with her.
They were feeling up on her legs and trying to give this impression that they are “straight”.
Other Vixens got jealous and got in line to play this “game”.
It was a show, rather than something natural.
Only because the Foxes they were fucking were standing with them LOL
She also filled me in that they will flirt with women and play straight to others,
but are just using her as a beard.

“None of these dudes want to fuck me. They are just using me for cover.”

Well, covers are blown.

I wasn’t mad at their hustle because some of them are fine as HELL.
Only issue is you fuck one, and everyone in the “crew” knows.
Since I conduct myself in a different manner, I will NOT be having my business spread all over the industry.
So I will pick and choose who gets some and who gets NONE.

I started to wonder about these D/L Wolves…
People talk and talk about them so, what is really the point?
Plus, the messy Jackals and Hyenas out them every time.
How do you fuck one without everyone finding out?
Do you give them a confidentiality agreement?
Or, do you trust that they won’t talk about you?

“Yeah. I had that.”

When it comes to keeping your business quiet…

How can you stop your business from being passed around?

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

25 thoughts on “I’m Gonna Tell You A Secret… Then I Want You To Tell Everyone, Okay?

  1. There’s no way that you can avoid it. Downlows talk to other Downlows and then your biz is now in someone elses hands. Then you have the people who are just so messy, hugging niggas out in the street and shit like that. Take that shit inside. I hide my downlow very well, no one suspects a thing, at least I don’t think so.

  2. Dudes these days can’t avoid pillow talk to save their lives. All these duplicitous dudes have to do is put on a fitted and put on the masculine, cool facade and give them some decent sex and they’re revealing way too much info about themselves.

    Disclosure and intimacy shit is for real relationships, not fucking around.

    I’ve always messed with older dudes (27-36) so I was schooled early. You never give your real name, instead give a fake or middle name. If you have to divulge any info, there only has to be some truth in it. Even subtle things like dressing a little different from how you would dress in your day to day life helps.

    I don’t think I’ve ever encountered a dude I’ve messed with again. They fall on the Earth.

  3. I agree with Man, but I usually keep mine business covert, is by entertaining “potentials” that really have something to lose and I usually try to do the normal stuff one might do like working out with them, playing video games, going to eat at sports bars, and asking them for thier expertise on a project or paper I’m writing, asking them to “mentor me”. Things of that nature that make it seem extremely natural.

  4. Oh and let’s be real the whole Down Low phenomenon will be DEAD in 10 years because these young dudes think they can go to gay clubs, hang with gay dudes, dress zesty as hell, sleep with dudes in the same circles, and arch their eyebrows and still be D.L. just because they fooled some poor naive, desperate chick into believing they could possibly be straight.

    1. ^yeah most of these Vixens aren’t even fooled anymore.

      There is a masculine Wolf behind the industry walls who I thought was straight.
      Turns out he is gay and they already knew.
      WHY?
      Foxes who were lucky to get some pipe talked and told.

      Smh.

      I’m about to be the “one they can’t fuck”.

    1. ^DL doesn’t exist now that social media has taken hold of the world.
      Now that people can upload their sex tapes online,
      It is a thrill to see who is fucking who, how masculine and fine he is, and how good the Wolf smashed him.

  5. Well like i say a secret stop being a secret once you tell someone “hey i got a secret”, from there it has the potential to be gossip, so keep your shit to yourself especially if you aint ready to be outed by anyone, cause ppl these days have a problem with secrecy.

    1. I wanna say that’s J. Strokes & his phat azz. Although I wonder how straight he is due to that lower back & azz tattoo…

  6. I don’t know anyone who claims downlow (or “discreet”, which seems to be the new thing among downlow wolves who know it’s no longer attractive to say that you are) who I’d say really fits the bill.
    There’s this situation with this guy. He’s relatively “downlow”, but everyone knows his business. Even vixens. Other downlow men mess with him because they figure since he’s so “masculine”, he’ll keep their business to himself. But he doesn’t. He tells other people he’s messed with and not all of them are downlow. In fact, it was always so ironic to me that he was so “downloiw”, but for the most part seemed to fuck nothing, but gossiping queens.

  7. DL may have existed 10 or 15 years ago. Sort of masculine.. kind of discreet… doesn’t really play into existence today though. Life isn’t a masquerade and these “DL” dudes look like damn jesters lol. Who are they fooling? An 85 yr old grandmother with dementia could see past the facade. Don’t want people to know your secrets then be a mute. Like Amber Rose (Kanye Days) lol

  8. How do you keep your business from spreading? Simple. DON’T BE A HOE!!! It’s not rocket science! If you’re engaged in activities you do not want people to know about, why are you doing them in the first place? Men talk just as much, if not more, than fysh do. It is how we stay “in the know” and do our research on the people we come in contact with so we know what to expect. Hell… look at this blog! It’s all we do is talk and spread information around. If you want to sleep with men and you don’t want anyone to know about it… PICK ONE (1).. and only sleep with him so you minimize your name being spread around. We comminicate. It is in INEVITABILITY. Don’t sleep around or do anything shady and people won’t have anything to say about you.

      1. Lol Ronnie, I don’t understand? It’s like people don’t know this basic concept. You’re fuckin a different guy every night and then wondering why everyone knows about it? Half of the people talking about how you get around… are the ones you GOT AROUND with.

    1. Hoe is such a strong word that should be reserved for women and men who fuck for money and pretty things.

      Now if you’re single with no attachments and needs that need to be tended to and you happen to get that need filled by someone different from the last time, you’re more of a “free-spirit” in my opinion.

      Doesn’t that sound much better? Yeah I’ll go with that. Lol

      1. You can try and justify you’re own harlot behavior with some other poster on this site cause i am not here for it lol

        Prostitution and Escorts sleep around for monetary reasons. HOES sleep around because it “feels good” and its validating. If SEX within itself and the “itch” that comes with it that needs to be scratched was all that was needed, then simply sleeping with ONE PERSON consistently would be enough. It takes away the guess work of when the next time you’ll be able to get it and you’ll already know what to expect. But, even if they don’t say it out loud or even realize it, there is something mentally that is gained (an ego stroke or confirmation of one’s desirability or whatever) that comes with being promiscuous.

  9. The way I see it is everyone talks about everyone, but most aren’t real enough to say it.

    So you’re going to be talked about (especially if you’re WORTH being talked about) whether you’re sitting at home horny as hell or getting busted down from the back in the restroom of a gay club by some dude named Francois. Lol

    The difference is I rather them speculate than be privy to my business.

  10. UrSoVain :
    You can try and justify you’re own harlot behavior with some other poster on this site cause i am not here for it lol
    Prostitution and Escorts sleep around for monetary reasons. HOES sleep around because it “feels good” and its validating. If SEX within itself and the “itch” that comes with it that needs to be scratched was all that was needed, then simply sleeping with ONE PERSON consistently would be enough. It takes away the guess work of when the next time you’ll be able to get it and you’ll already know what to expect. But, even if they don’t say it out loud or even realize it, there is something mentally that is gained (an ego stroke or confirmation of one’s desirability or whatever) that comes with being promiscuous.

    Lol @ “Harlot”.

    Can’t we all agree that sex feels good? You don’t feel even a little validated during sex?

    Oh. Okay.

    Seems to me you categorize a hoe as someone who sleeps around outside of a relationship, but everyone isn’t relationship material and some don’t want to be either.

    So should they relinquish their rights to sex and join a monastery?

    1. Sex itself feels good. But if it alone were enough, sex with one person over consistent period of time would be the trend. But it isn’t. And there’s something to be said about that. Yes, hoes to me are people who sleep around and have multiple partners without a commitment. No, not everyone is relationship material, but why does the alternative have to be promiscuity?

      People can do whatever they feel of course. No one is denying them of this right. But we are not islands of one and there are consequences when it comes to sleeping around… one of them being other people knowing that you, in fact, sleep around without making any commitments. It isn’t a rumor or a lie. It is a fact.

      1. Hypothetically, if I wasn’t the relationship type, wouldn’t “promiscuity” be the only alternative. Obviously consistency isn’t what I’m looking for.

        I find it worth mentioning that a lot of men (in this case) who talk about other men’s sexual history do in fact get around themselves.

        Guess I’m an island of one because I’m not known as a hoe in any circles.

    2. To me that is an excuse. When people say ‘I’m Free-Spirited” as an excuse to sleep around with many different people. A hoe is a hoe, sorry.

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