I’m going to talk about a Straight Wolf that we wanted to love…
…but for many of us, he was never there.
He was a mystery who intrigued us, but hurt us.
For some, he was never there and never wanted to be.
We could call out for him and he would never answer back.
For others, he was there but he was so intimidating,
that we couldn’t fully embrace him like he wanted.
All of us have dealt with him:
..and even our Vixens.
Where is “he”?…
Where was your father?
Did he play a decent sized role in your life?
Or, was he absent and you never knew him?
It is amazing to me how many Wolves and Foxes have fathers and they are not there for them.
But it kills me how they are there BUT choose not to really be there.
Have you noticed there are a lot of single Vixens raising their kids without any father figure?
It is crazy how I’ll be out somewhere and I’ll see a Vixen being Mommy and Daddy.
It can be heart breaking because those poor kids need a father to guide them.
They need a masculine role in their lives to help them balance everything out.
A mother cannot always give what a father can give.
Think about the Wolves you are attracted to and ask yourself this question:
“Are these men replicas of my father?”
I started to ask myself that question when I realized I called Wolves I’m attracted to “Daddy”.
Even though my father was around, I love that relationship of dominant and submissive.
Even though in this lifestyle, we may not be able to share the same rules as our straight counterparts,
I always wanted to know that I held my man down in that “Mommy and Daddy” fashion.
Is this what many Foxes are looking for?
Are they looking for that Daddy figure in a man to replace what they lacked?
And for those who had a father in their lives,
do you think that their roles and what they are looking for change?
And what about Wolves?
How did father’s play in their lives?
I always assumed they had more “masculine” energy to choose their roles…
It all got me thinking about fathers and us…
They say we need a man to really teach us how to be men.
But when you have no/limited father, our friends and the streets do that job.
These Foxes who wear dresses and drag, is this a enhance version of our mothers?
Sure, we CAN have our mother their to guide us, but she can’t fully give us what we need.
Is the reason we as Foxes are looking at things through a female perspective
is because we weren’t taught how to do so through a mans?
It all made me wonder…
Do we really need our fathers?
P.S: Thanks to my reader who suggested this topic.
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