I got this email and I had to post it.
MANY FOXES GO THROUGH THIS!
I need you guys to read this:
Hey, Jamari its Ronnie. I need to vent! Im really so over these hookup sites (jackd, grindr) I tried to get into it again, but its just not what it is. Met one guy he was cool, he text me tonight but was a lil short with his words and it takes Him 10 mins to respond, so I get on grindr and who do I see him thats why hes taking forever to respond. Then I see this one dude who I just fucked on the weekend, the one who act like he cant return a fucking text. I text him a simple “Hows it going?” I dont get a response till almost 4 days later, but when he need something he try and text. I got his ass good one time he thought I was going to rent him a car so he could see his fam 4 xmas. Sure! Told him I went out of town lol. Its so crazy he 28yrs old bout 30 acting dumb as fuck. I know we not dating but damn im just saying hi WTF? I really liked him too. Idk im just feeling some kind of way, I dont want no boyfriend right now. All im asking for is a special friend, someone who will treat me right, who dont ignore me when I text, who actually wants to spend time with me, not just fuck. These men here in Atlanta are something else. Idk, i see so many good looking guys and I bet they aint bout shit. I guess im just fustrated and disappointed a lil maybe. Thanks for listening
Hello my wonderful Fox.
Glad you sent that email.
Okay, lets down to business.
You see why I DESPISE online sites.
I was on Jack’d and that started out great, but alas, it was a disaster like rest of them.
Dude 1: He is already showing you who is was.
I don’t know if you let him beat or not,
but if a dude doesn’t respond in an hour,
I throw him in the NEXT pile.
He’ll get it together… or he won’t.
Dude 2: He fucked you.
Only time you need to text him is when you want more pipe.
This is issue here.
You got some intergalactic pipe and now you are hooked.
NEVER TEXT A WOLF WHO FUCKED YOU ONE NIGHT WITH ANY GREETINGS.
Unless you are trying to get fucked again.
He is probably looking at his phone like, “are we fuckin or not?”
Leave all formal greetings to Wolves you are trying to establish something with.
This line also bothered me:
” when he need something he try and text. I got his ass good one time he thought I was going to rent him a car so he could see his fam 4 xmas. Sure! Told him I went out of town lol. Its so crazy he 28yrs old bout 30 acting dumb as fuck. I know we not dating but damn im just saying hi WTF? I really liked him too. Idk im just feeling some kind of way”
^you got attached to an idiot.
Which now segues into this:
“I dont want no boyfriend right now. All im asking for is a special friend, someone who will treat me right, who dont ignore me when I text, who actually wants to spend time with me, not just fuck.”
That is a boyfriend, Foxy.
That is a boyfriend without a title.
That word, “special friend” needs to be cut out of everyone’s vocab.
There is no such thing as a special friend.
Here is the thing:
Wolves are not into the back and forth.
Just be straight up and tell him the real… and keep it that way.
If you like him, don’t treat him like a fuck.
If you lust him, treat him as a fuck.
Don’t play games and expect him to bend over backwards for you.
He actually has MANY other candidates and to be honest,
Wolves rule on online profiles.
And usually they like a truthful Fox who knows his worth.
So erase the online profiles and start working on what you really want.
You don’t sound to sure.
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Well I guess I see where I went wrong.
^You didn’t go wrong.
We have all been there.
This is not new to any of the Foxes.
You just have to make sure you NEVER let it happen again.
You’ll be good.
Shit, once you’ve fucked him, you can kiss anything serious goodbye.
They got what they wanted w/o any work on their part so why would they want to be nice and get to know you now?
You CANNOT turn a fuck into a friendship.
I get those same random text messages from dudes I’ve hooked up with and I respond days later if I respond at all. What’s the point?
Yeah, don’t try to get all of the fringe benefits of what it is to be a boyfriend without the actual title. You pretty much covered everything there is to say in regards to this situation which is reflective of most of our current dating woes. Online dating seems nice and is often most of us’ primary means of meaning men but doesn’t often lead to much beyond a hook up. Plus, don’t sleep with a guy thinking hes going to turn around and start treating you like his boyfriend. He will often do the opposite. So the alternatives are.. as “The Man” pointed out… to wait for “Mr. Right” to find you, date one of your friends who are probably also foxes/ hybrids, or find someone you work with and go into pursuit mode and hope the feelings are mutual.
I read a comment on a previous post that said “You teach people how to treat you”…… and I think that quote works fine for this situation here….
Online dating…. I can’t lie at one time it’s what I lived for but now is so old and stupid. I think meeting people in person is better that way nobody can lie.
What’s up with people and these hook up sites? That’s the worse place to find someone special.SMH. In reality, those sites are really filled with nothing but hoes, or people just lying about who they are to get what they want. Most of the time the special person is right under your nose. It might be a close friend, a co-worker, you just never know.
^ you speak from experience huh?
Nah I’m a lil young to have experienced any of this, not underaged, but I’m still young. LOL. I just know what I’m talking about.
^ Well thank God you didn’t.
Online dating was fun when it first started.
A lot of great prospects.
Now, it the haven for the ugly and the miserable.
When he needs something?? Rentals and more?? Abso-fukkin-loutely not!! A dude has crossed the line to even ask me some shit like that! Maybe I’m just not that nice, but associations like that in my life are unheard of…
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