i used to think having a platform was just about sharing your voice,
building a little digital tribe,
and maybe posting a few thirst traps to ride some dick.
here’s what no one really tells or fonts you:
once you start getting noticed,
you also become something else.
A moving target.
people love the fairy tale parts of being a public figure.
the engagement,
the admiration,
and the “omg i love your content!” comments.
there’s a shadow side that doesn’t get posted on the highlight reel.
let’s font what i’ve learned about it…
because whew...
- the bullying
at first,
the algorithm likes to flirt heavy with you.
the “likes” roll in and if you’re doing sex work,
the subscribers cum heavy.
the second you say/font something they don’t like?
set a boundary they didn’t expect?
refuse to perform the version of you they’ve created in their heads?
didn’t get on the bottom because they are getting bored with you on top?
Suddenly,
the compliments vanish and the claws come out.
everything they once adored becomes ammunition.
you go from “favorite creator” to “how dare you” in the blink of a x-tweet.
here’s the part no one warns you about:
It’s not always strangers who turn on you first.
which leads into…
- the jealousy + envy combo
as soon as your light starts to glow a little brighter,
don’t be surprised when others start to squint.
many will act like you somehow stole the spotlight they weren’t willing to earn.
people who knew you before may not clap when the confetti falls.
they’ll say/font that “you’ve changed”,
they’ll whisper half-truths in rooms you haven’t entered,
and some some might even link up with people who publicly can’t stand you.
collaborations built on common hatred are some jackals ideas of networking.
this goes into..
- the industry “friends”
when you’re hot,
you’ll never eat lunch alone.
The DMs flood,
The invites double
The “we #outside” selfies with randoms stack likes on socials
The straight IG males will suck your dick with no effort.
these folks will act like you’re soulmates who just happened to meet in DMS.
let the algorithm change,
let your name pop up in a rumor,
or have one scandal hit your doorstep and suddenly:
Everyone has amnesia and no one knows you anymore.
no more invites,
no more outside,
and:
No more easy rides at Dick Land.
i joke that i’m the angelina jolie to these blondes,
never quite blending in,
often misunderstood,
and rarely invited back once i look like a threat.
i’ve learned the hard way that:
Trying to be liked by everyone just makes you digestible and easy to swallow whole.
…and not in the good way.
so here’s the real advice from someone who’s taken a few digital and IRL punches:
learn your own power or others will weaponize your doubt
don’t take critiques from people you wouldn’t go to for advice
study the scent of “the fake ass bitch”
hold your boundaries tight and un-apologetically
be kind but also know when to cut with precision
keep your real friends close
build real relationships in your field
authenticity always lasts longer than hype
don’t ghost people just because they can’t elevate you
“the feet you step on today will be connected to the ass you eat tomorrow”
being an asshole bts will always boomerang
keep your paws clean
protect your peace like it’s the only currency that matters
disappear when you need to
you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to
many people had to sell their souls for their come up so don’t compare
the path of least resistance is what will get the doors opened faster
only do what feels comfortable to you but take calculated risks as well
don’t fuck for a come up; fuck for pleasure and be damn good at it
there is power and money to be made in being the outcast than the blonde
…because the real test of being a public figure isn’t whether people love you:
It’s whether you can still love yourself after they don’t.
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