it’s so ironic that i used that picture on Foxhole stories the day of the met gala.
i loved the outfit and thought the model was handsome.
in my creativity,
i duct taped that pic with a fox head and fonted:

“attending the Met Gala in spirit.”

i saw this tiktok about the model in the actual picture,
even though he is the face of the promo for the met gala this year,
he is actually working a 9-5 or a 6-9.

@asksunshinemedia

This is such a beautiful representation of the space “when most people quit” It’s the place where the life we desire is showing up in glimmers but not fully yet. I really needed to see this today because the dream chasing fatigue is setting in for me. To people witnessing someone going for it, it is so easy for them to see how it will become a reality. But when you’re in the pursuit, it can be exhausting. Wishing all the success for @christian.latchman thank you for posting your journey. And thank you to my fellow TEDx Speaker Vernita Stevens for keeping dreams and the distance between them in perspective with such wise words.

♬ original sound – Jennifer Moxley

This is the reality of many of us who haven’t given up.

what self help tiktok or manifestation twitter doesn’t tell you…

There is a point where you are going to have to take the journey to your dreams by yourself.

this is the part where people give up.
some people can’t handle the ugly parts where:

The many people who abandon you
Rejection after rejection
Overdue bills, debt, and potential evictions
Working 2 or 3 jobs while still chasing a main dream
Watching others become successful and more supported
Having little to no money for supporting yourself (and your family)
Still expecting to show up when your entire being can’t
Feeling betrayed by those who claimed they had your back
Having to sit with yourself, by yourself, and be your own cheerleader
Sacrificing a social life to keep the bills paid
No help and having to do, pay, and cover everything
Navigating depression while still having to be strong for setbacks
Watching people you thought you loved choose others to make partners
Working through mental health issues and can’t afford therapy
Being black in industries that favors white
Being black in industries that tries to sabotage other black folks
Feeling replaceable by the new hot basic

…all while still trying to show up.
they don’t tell you this because this is not pretty.
it doesn’t fit in with “manifestation” and “happy to be nappy”.

This is the reality of many people chasing dreams

…but the reality is,
society wants everything to be pretty and perfect because it’s easier to follow.
that is what they don’t tell you.