i feel like a lot of millennial males don’t want to label their sexualities.
i mean vixens don’t.
they can go out here and freely experiment without anyone having too much of an issue.
am i lying?
it seems donald glover aka childish gambino is feeling the same way about himself.
he had an interview with michaela coel for gq magazine and the topic of sexuality came up.
so he had said via “pink news“…
Donald Glover: ‘Am I weird for not wanting to label it?’
He explained: “Millennials [are] showing how we’re kind of stuck, in a weird way. Why do people online get stuck in that narrative? Because it’s safe.
“And you know what you’re going to get if you follow in the steps somebody else took.
“There is security to being identified. ‘I’m a straight white male’ or ‘I’m a gay Asian dancer’ – you can find community easily and safely, instead of being like, ‘Man, I really don’t know…’
“Most of my college years were me being like, ‘I don’t know what I like.’ I had friends who asked, ‘Are you gay?’ And I’d be like, ‘I sort of feel like I am because I love this community.’ You know? But maybe I’m not?”
He continued: “I always was trying to figure out, ‘Am I weird for not wanting to label it?’ Yet, also, I never felt completely safe in just one place.”
Explaining the lack of safety, he continued: “One time I was really close with this guy – a white guy. I was like, ‘Oh, man, this guy’s my friend.’
“And then one day we went to the mall and some black kids ragged on his shorts. He turned to me and said, ‘There are black people and then there are n****rs.’
“My brain, my heart… It was really intense, so I go home and I tell my dad.
“To his credit, he sat there for a minute and just thought about it and then he said, ‘What do you feel? That’s the most valuable thing right now.’”
i love that we are having these discussions right now.
there are so many males that are confused,
wondering if they should feel a certain way about another male.
how they were raised and their surroundings keep them in a prison,
but they can’t fight the feelings and end up pushing folks away.
good people who can see through the facade or can sense their attraction to them.
i tell folks all the time:
We have to be patient with some guys out here.
just because you are at every gay cockfight,
spinning on every dick,
and deep diving in all the tail,
that doesn’t mean someone else is there “yet“.
many gays are selfish about other males who are struggling tbh.
ready to out them before they’re ready and it’s sick.
some of these males might never “get there“,
but some of us were once there before we accepted who we were.
it’s much scarier when you don’t fit in and have no sense of community too.
i couldn’t help use his past show in that reference.
I’m glad these discussions are coming to the surface for many males out here
let’s keep it going!
lowkey: i always hope the foxhole has helped someone accept their sexuality.
whatever they are,
or choose to be,
i hope this was a safe space for them.
article cc: pink news