f0xmail: Your Entry On Me Ruined My Life!


so was the first paragraph in the email:

Good afternoon . I am sending this on behalf of my client …..

This will serve as your legal notice to cease and desist all further actions described below . You are hereby instructed to comply with this letter immediately or face legal sanctions under applicable Federal and State law

this was the second part within that email:

Dear Site Owner:
It has come to my attention that you have made an unauthorized use of copyrighted work “Private Video” I have reserved all rights in the Work, , and I have preserved my rights to the copyright of the Work. I am asking that you please remove this video. This video was made close to 5 years ago. It is now stolen property ,  and has been maliciously sent out.  It is because of this blog that I have lost my job , lost my house and car because of no employment , I  been denied employment on several levels , along with  other opportunities  that could be afforded to me . I am sincerely just in an attempt to rebuild my life but I do need your assistance in removing this information from your website.  I have no issues with your ,or  anyone and try my best to love everyone.  Your purpose  to destroy at that time has been complete. I am asking in Good faith that you please remove this content from your website/blog .

With Humble Submission I request


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f0xmail: In or Out? Are The Bottoms The Only Ones Coming Out?


Hello Jamari,

It has been a long time since I last emailed you. I have been so busy that I do not get that much time to read your blog as much as I would like. I noticed that you are now in FL for what may be a new chapter in your life. I hope that everything works out for you.
I was wondering if you would be interested in posting this “situation” to see how the foxhole reacts.  Here goes…
I really don’t care for how society defines “bottoms” and “tops,” but for the sake of the conversation, I will use the terms. 
Relationship aside, do you think that a masculine man is more susceptible to coming out if he is a bottom as opposed to one who is a top?  


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f0xmail: Is This Baller Wolf’s Outfit Super F’n Gay or What?


Morning Jamari How’s Florida? Ok anyway I think when a man wears a woman’s item it’s a way of letting the world know a tid bit of they sexuality. Like a scarf in a feminine way or a pair of woman’s clothes. I say this cause one of our fox hole faves is spotted wearing a pair of ugg boots:

imageyes that’s cam cam (cam newton) in a pair of uggs….. This year…… And the pants are tucked in…

what do you think?


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f0xmail: I Just Want His Meat in My Mouth and I’d Be Okay. Normal?


Hey Jamari,

Im fine with giving and receiving oral sex, but I have never desired to partake in anal sex. I am completely accepting of my sexuality and love gay porn, but I don’t think anal sex is for me.

 Is this normal/common in the gay community?

(nsfw and 18^)…

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f0xmail: Im Being Tested With My Faith? Help!


Hi Jamari,

First off let me say how much I appreciate you and what you do. I’ve had a rough couple of months and I can’t tell you how much your site has meant to me. I’m 22 and just recently graduated from NC State and like you I’m looking for work. Being at home has allowed me to do a lot of thinking about my life and where its going. It also has really forced me to come to terms with my sexuality. I’ve always known I was gay, but I guess I still had it in my mind that I would go through my life pretending not to be. I’ve realized that that is simply out of the question. Reading your blog has really helped me to start coming into my foxhood and for that I am so grateful. Everyday I look forward to what you are going to say, because it is always something insightful and amusing and always manages to lift my spirits. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with up and coming foxes like myself who are just trying to find their way. What you do is so important, and it really means the world to me.

Now, I hear you talk a lot about having faith and maintaining a relationship with God and I think that is really beautiful. I know that for the past 6 months or so I have been having a real crisis of faith. I grew up in a christian family, but not one of those crazy, cast out demons, speakin in tongues families thankfully. Anyway, my faith has always been important to me. I guess struggling with being gay was always something I could push to the back of my mind, but now that I’m getting older I’ve been thinking about it a lot. Sometimes I find myself asking if there even is a God? I know I’m not bound for hell. I know I’m a good person. But this whole situation is really testing me. Could you talk a little about your spiritual journey and how you’ve managed to keep your faith in spite of it all?


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f0xmail: Am I The Big Bad Wolf For Being In A lot of Foxhole?

Hey Jamari. Hope all is well. I figure I try this receiving advice thing out. You always have something insightful to say. Would like to get you opinion on this. So here goes:

How did I Turn into the enemy?

I’m a wolf. D.L or discreet wolf if you give me a label. In plain terms a bisexual male. After conversing with a very close friend, something unsettling came up. My friend is an openly homosexual male. Having one of our ever so often “real” conversations he called me “the enemy”, a “guys guy”. My look of confusion must have invoked a explanation. He explain to me that I am the guy that “wants my cake and eat it too”. My friend explained I say I want commitment but do not really want it, end up in different beds “looking” for it and breaks hearts while I look for someone I know is a “dream”. I knew his statement came from a honest place so I did not take offense. This is honestly a very close friend. One of the very few who know the lifestyle I live. I just laughed it off. I denied his accusation  and we moved on but it caused me to really reflect.

Am I now the enemy?

I remember when I decided I was going to be honestly with myself at 21 yrs old . I was bisexual and no matter how much I denied it would not not go away.  It was not just a phase.  And suppressing it was making the urges stronger and me go silently insane. So I decided I owe myself the chance. I told myself that “I rather have one person of substance than many of no value” living this lifestyle change. I wanted one fox or hybrid and just enjoy it, give my best. I said I would not have pointless sex or many partners. I would be as honest with them (as I can be). Not play games. Just give it my all and would not settle. I will just concentrate on that one . I will be in search for that one.

Needless to say I have drifted from my goal. My friend’s statement  made me realize something I saw but tried to deny. I’m 23 at the moment and still “in search”.  I have done everything I did not want to do. I settled, body count on the raise, pointless sex, meaningless interactions, “talking” to more than one, being honest but withholding information (still lying),  playing the game before I get played and now unsure if I want “that one”.

How did this happen?
How did I become the dudes that did me wrong in this process?
The irony.
Am I the only one this happen to?
Is there any turning back?


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