i caught up with a sista friend yesterday.
when we talk,
it is always a deep conversation about life.
the topic was black people.
we got onto the subject of skin color.
she said that if beyonce was as dark as her,
she would not have nearly the amount of success that she has.
“i kinda agree”.
she also pondered why these sistas in the industry always dye their hair blonde?
i often wondered myself because many of them looking stunning with darker hair.
before we hung up,
she said i should thank my parents i am able to “pass“.
“life is not to kind to dark berries,” she said.
that part left me confused…
… but i got it.
i wanted to say it hasn’t got me a job,
i started to wonder if the lighter the skin,
the more open the magic door of acceptance?
according to her,
be amazing if you “pass“?…
i see a comment that makes me stop what i’m doing.
this time it was from tajan in:
everyone left great comments,
but this one was on point when it comes to the industry and everyone wanting to be stars…
this new generation are all “talented”, aren’t they?
everyone has some talent they want to present to the world.
it is almost becoming sickening.
i swear you can’t meet anyone who isn’t “something”.
i haven’t met the new shot lawyer or extremely talented police officer.
everyone who is black online is coming out with a record,
about to star in a movie,
gay guy is styling everyone and their mama,
big tits and fat ass means you are a model,
has work out training videos…
… and whatever else to get 2,000 friends easy.
hell, even being a blogger is over saturated.
i’m not trying to knock dreams,
but are these “starry eyed” goals realistic dreams these days?
remember when people said they were going to be a singer and it was fascinating?
everyone who thinks because they can hair flip on stage,
they are beyonce.
i had to ask…
Is everyone black headed to Hollywood?
This is one of the reasons I am so GOOD in being an actual hoe.
Too damn risky.
Any Wolf that wants to get up in this WILL be tested.
I’m not even playing that…
Lately, I am meeting a lot of Wolves and Foxes who have HIV, that it is getting scary.
This one Wolf who was interested in talking to me,
I found out had it and recently gave it to someone else.
IS THERE ANYONE OUT HERE
WHO IS DISEASE FREE (and not an idiot)
THAT WANTS TO CUFF THE KID?????
I had to vent that real quick…
my ATL readers,
after reading this please be careful…
Well, not that kind of fall.
But, this letter was written to Vixens who think everyone is DL…
Surprisingly from Essence magazine…
Lets do this!!
hi jamari love your blog. i am sort of in a bad situation. i am 17 and in high school this guy i had a crush on i found out doesnt want to be around me because he thinks i am gay. he acted very standoffish and that kinda clued me in. it really hurt my feelings. i never tried to come onto him or do anything suspect. from the first time he met me, he acted weird. he would sigh or turn his eyes when i would come towards him. not to mention he hangs with a bunch of catty females who also talk about me. how do i get past this? funny enough, people think he is gay also even though he is masculine and he hates gay people. i dont get it.
the picked on fox