It’s interesting how the forests can be completely stunned by something,
yet all i’m really concerned about is what I’m going to have for lunch?
the latest scandal,
the red uncle files,
has people shocked and appalled again.isn’t this like the 100th time i’ve written about something like this?
males who claim to be “straight”,
with wives and families,
yet somehow find themselves sneaking into dens of the gays and trans vixens.
here’s the 110%:
Many males aren’t happy in their marriages or with their kids.
some of them could avoid this unhappiness if they just stopped being,
well,
fuckin’ stupid.
a stripping vixen recently went viral on tiktok,
sharing that many married men confess they hate being married,
that they’re miserable in their roles as husbands and fathers…
are we surprised?
i’m not because this has been happening forever.
when males get unhappy and their marriages become just another mundane task to check off,
they start looking for thrills elsewhere and let’s be honest:
Strippers,
sex workers,
gay males,
cross dressers,their friends,
and trans vixens are rides they suddenly want to experience.
we all know exactly how to light a fire that’s been long extinguished at home,
but here’s where the problem really lies tho:
Insecurity.
males are so often shamed into hiding our true desires.
from the bible,
impressing our families,
and trying to be everything for a society that we gotta be squeaky clean for.
the reality is that after we do all of that,
we don’t bring our best selves to relationships and marriages we checked out of anymore.
we save that and the good ass sex for the thrills,
venting about how unhappy we are,
and pretending we are gonna leave when we are insecure about starting over again.
it’s a repetitive cycle filled with excuses and placing the blame on the wife/girlfriend.
So if we didn’t want the wife or the kids,
they shouldn’t have done it in the first fuckin’ place.
…because at the end of the day,
HE is the villain in this story once it all comes crashing down.
No one cares HE wasn’t happy all along.
I disagree, I don’t think this has anything to do with men specifically.
I just saw a clip on social media where a woman lost custody of her 3 kids, now it could be Capp, but she was saying how glad she was that the burden had been lifted.
People fail to realize that we do not live in our great-grandparents or grandparents’ generation. If you have a little bit of money, life can be really good if you are single or in a relationship, minus the kids. You can travel the world, eat great food, explore, and have adventures, you name it. It’s all math, depending on your area, you make $25 to $40 an hour, and you can do it, not to mention if you get with someone making that same kind of money, you can live.
I also think it’s time to really start to shift the narrative and get off of these gender wars. When it comes to a lot of things that define personhood, men and women are very much the same. Some studies suggest that men and women cheat at or about the same rate, and the data gets interesting when you talk about married couples.
For married couples, men cheat at around a 20% rate, while women tend to cheat at around a 13% rate. This actually also depends on age, a study showed that when young women between the ages of 18- 29 years old actually cheat at a higher rate at 11% compared to men at 10%; this flips in the next age bracket, 30-39 years old, where men take the lead at 14%.
Bottom line, I think our social media algorithms are feeding us a constant barrage of infidelity and bad behavior, so much so that we believe that everyone is out here doing it. Still, the actual numbers don’t confirm what we think.
I was just having this conversation with my straight married friends. They always tell me to NOT have kids and enjoy life. They all wish they were single with no kids. The main argument is that they don’t feel appreciated. They say they are seen as banks and not as people who deserve happiness.
Brings me back to my heyday when I lived in the ATL!! You wanna talk about married men F’ing around ?? I used to work at a department store in a strip mall. It was like a kid in a candy store, fine men too!!! Guys you wouldn’t even suspect. I didn’t have a fling with a certain guy who had just had a newborn. It was fun for awhile but later got to be exhausting. I knew it for what it was, I was just a play thing. If you’re planning to f around with a married man, don’t catch feelings.
Typo. I did have a fling