i woke up this morning with this incredible URGE…
to erase folks outta my phone.
i’m talking the ones that i don’t speak to anymore.
there was a ton of “randoms” holding up spots in my contacts.
the “yo lets hang/chill/connect/link/keep in touch”
the “we were friends… but i don’t know what happened”
the “i’m interested in you and want to be in your life”
the “we worked together, talked everyday, but they nada now”
the “i got a fox but i’m secretly trying to get at you on the low”
the “we networked at some event and the connection fizzled”
the “we met once and had no business even going any further”
folks will label you “too thirsty” if you try to stay in their life.
they will tell everyone how annoying you are for wanting to keep up with their triflin’ asses.
these are all ghosts in my life now.
consider me “the ghostbusters”.
i was holding on to them “just in case”.
in case of what tho?
half of them i don’t know anymore.
others i wanted to fuck,
but they turned me off with the games.
the rest “don’t know me”.
it’s life and it’s alllllll good.
listen i paid 700 or so for my phone.
i pay a lovely surcharge every month for it.
it’s an expensive “appendage” now attached to my bawdy.
i only want to see things that make me happy on it.
my contact list was full of “coulda/woulda/shoulda” and old memories.
they can go.
new rules: i’m only giving folks my social media dm.
that’s my new “number”.
to get in my phone,
that means i’m giving you access to me.
it’s going to be a screening process.
even networking gets the side eye because half the time,
the initial conversation is great,
but they’re off to the next hustle a week later.
i learned a great saying that made so much sense to me:
People don’t stay in your life if you have nothing to offer them
even writing on the foxhole is offering something to someone.
we’ll touch on that saying later.
so my new motto for life is gonna be like an high class hoe: