i got an interesting package from a reader i wanted to share.
one of the toughest decisions to make in life is your career.
from what you want to do after college.
what will make you happy and fulfilled.
you can spend many years in college and never use the degree you chased.
hell i know a few college grads who i’m making more money than.
…and that ain’t even a lot.
so when i got this f0xmail,
i wanted to share because i understand the struggle…
I have to testify for you this Sunday morning in hopes that it will inspire you and someone else.
I have literally been stressing so hard over jobs that I’ve had migraines the past two days.
One job is casework with psych patients released from jail on probation. I basically start with a caseload of 25 people and I have to spend 3 hours with them per month.
The other is me finding jobs tailored to people with mental disabilities that want to work, then grooming them for the job.
I got into a heated exchange with my father because of course he wants me to take the one that makes the most money. I had to passive aggressively go in on him and let him know I didn’t need anymore career advice from him.
His retort is always “Well you’re the one that majored in Psychology!” as if that’s means I deserve the shitty jobs because of a decision I made 6 years ago.
I realized I had subscribed to his way of thinking. Feeling like I had to make this work because I majored in Psychology. I’ve never had any aspirations to be a social worker and yet here I was looking at Masters Programs out of the blue.
I had to literally stop myself and ask out loud “Why”?
After praying for a sign earlier that day all of a sudden, I had a moment where I was honest with myself.
I’m a fairly self centered person. I think about ME! Sure I can be sympathetic to others and would help someone in need, but other than that I’m thinking about me, my needs, and my future. Why? Because I’m all I have.
I had no desire to exclusively help people for a living! I mean that’s cool if its a byproduct of my work, but I’m far from someone that wants to change the world.
I mean that is why people study social work, psychology, etc. right?
Not me! I studied Psychology to better understand myself.
Saying I wanted to help people was just some rehearsed answer for interviews.
The fact is I’ve never been willing to sacrifice my time, settle for lower pay, and no complete gratification from the final product.
I mean I admire those people, but that bad energy is often parasitic.
My idea job would be:
-flexible (able to work from home)
-Holidays and most weekends off
-Something that uses my organization skills and my attention to detail
I mean I’ve never been a people person. I can interact with people but its a necessary adjustment, just like I had to learn to deal with Psych patients.
I’m a chameleon that adjusts to the situation and the setbacks of that is you always tend to feel like you have to adjust to a situation, rather than find your ideal situation.
So I realized the reason why deciding between two jobs was so hard was because I wasn’t enthused by either position. In a perfect world I would reject both lol.
Maybe this was all apart of God’s design to make me see.
I am going to take one job offer and work on switching fields completely, ideally before I’m 30.
I said all that to say:
It’s amazing how we let people imprison us mentally to the point we even imprison ourselves. Wondering why we are in glass cells watching the world keep on turning and wondering why we’re not in it, all because we can’t admit the truth to ourselves smh
“well you need to do this…”
but i wouldn’t have to wake up in the morning to a potential ball and chain.
its not always about the money.
its mental health.
when you look down the road 5 years,
do you see yourself happy?
or do you see a potential nervous breakdown?
many people took a job with more money and committed suicide later on.
this is the predicament i’m in with the job i’m at now.
this job has me feeling suicidal.
i wont even lie to you.
i felt like i took something that was a much needed blessing,
but it turned out to be one big lie.
i’ve felt used and the respect just ain’t there.
now i’ve realized i’m ready to be a full time blogger and writer.
the transition is tough and the thought of being at that job for 5years…
so the same situation you are looking for is the same one i am.
don’t end up in my shoes reader.
this choice of yours is very stressful,
but choose the one that will:
1) makes you happy until you make your switch
2) allow you to get “unstuck” easily
3) gives you mental health/vacation days so you can re-energize
4) doesn’t have inconsiderate bosses and “fuck shit” employees
no job will be perfect.
there is “fuck shit” in everything.
every job or career out here has its “pros” and “cons”.
we will encounter our fair share as well.
our people can be the absolutely worse.
i’m def gonna send my prayers to you in hopes you make the best decision.
if the foxhole has any advice,
please leave it in the comments!
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