I got a wonderful email
from one of my international Foxes in London, Ty,
Foxes, he has a dilemma I am SURE we have have encountered once, twice, or three times in our Fox-hoods.
Here is Ty’s question:
My names Ty and Im from London.Im an avid reader of ur blog and I love u! You’re like my hero! And ur taste in men….FLAWLESS!!
I’ve got a question about a situation in my life and I need some advice cos I know you get it. I really can’t think of anyone else to ask.
Ok so at my university there are 3 guys I fancy.
Man #1 is about 6’2, a rugby player and has a slimish build(but not so slim). I first encountered him at the library and we had this eye contact that made me feel knots in my tummy! it was such a nice feeling and I just kept feeling his eyes on me. I dunno, maybe i was making up things. the next day I was talking to a friend of mine who happens to know him and he came up to say hello to my friend-not acknowledging me. Then I slyly asked my friend what his name is and then got to fb and twitter stalkin him, He then made his twitter account private which was weird cos i freaked out and thought he knew i was stalkin.lol. Its been almost 3 weeks now and I see him randomly but he doesnt even notice me. I was a bit sad at first cos i thought there might have been something there, judging from our first exchange, Oh well. I figure either he is straight or he’s not just that into me.
Then there is dude #2. He goes to most of my classes. He is dark skinned, about 6’1, not v good looking but has got that swag u were just speaking about-u know the one Lebron James has? Yea. Ok, so i noticed he always looks at me all dreamy and stuff in class but i never take notice cos sometimes I do think I just might be imagining all this attention/momentary attraction I get from guys. Anyway, he hadn’t been in uni for 2 weeks now and I bumped into him last monday when we went to submit our course work. We said hello and had a little chat, Something in his eyes was v attractive. Then Today, we had a little exchange and that was v nice.(He has this really cute scar under his eye, right at the base of his cheekbones, ah well) I had to go back to the class after the lecture cos i had left my phone in the class- I get there and he is having this semi-sexually heated convo with this italian girl in my class. I wont even lie, I was a bit disappointed but its whatever. On his way out with her though he gently touched me on my back and said bye- Wierd ey? (Again, I cant even lie, his touch felt good! Only thing is he has smallish hands which am not so sure about!) Anyway that Boy 2.
And then Boy #3!! This man is like 6’4 and is always in the library. Uber hot! U kno those ones that r really good looking but don’t really know? Yes!! Anyway, the eye contact we have everytime is a madness!! Like I feel chemistry so much there! I always roam his floor in the lib so we can glance @ each other! I also sort of think he comes downstairs with hopes of seeing me cos i swear i see his eyes open up a little wide wenever he sees me! He seems very very very shy though!! I dunno. The other day we sort of ran into each other by the lib doors and I gave him a little smile but he just nodded his head so that kinda threw me off cos i expected a bit more!! He is lovely, I just don’t know what his situation is.
OK so J, this is where i kinda need ur advice. If i could magically chose, I’d chose man #1 cos he is mad sexy and I really like him. The thing is that am not sure about him @ all!!
How would you suggest I find out if any of them are into me?
What signs should I be looking out for?
With man #3 i feel so much chemistry with him but could it just be me? Cos i swear we have a connection even tho we haven’t said two words to each other!
Are there anythings u can suggest i did more/less of? I dunno. pls let me know , J.
Look forward to hear from u.
Ty x x
Love you too Ty.
Let’s break it down shall we….
First and foremost,
it sounds like you also have GREAT taste in Wolves.
Judging from the descriptions, it seems like you like in a Dream Forest.
MAN #1 seems like he was attracted and got caught into the moment,
BUT – probably got scared OR is ignoring what he felt within himself.
Therefore – he is going to ignore you.
Listen, a fully straight man will not eye fuck you for more than two times.
One: just a general glance at you.
Two: something you are wearing caught him attention.
Anything else after that,
he is imagining his dick/your dick in him.
The fact he has ignored you has left you hurt,
but now it has sparked a curiousity. Notice you said:
“I was a bit sad at first cos i thought there might have been something there, judging from our first exchange…”
That is how it starts + you started mini-stalking him.
I say let him go and keep on doing your thing.
Maybe one day in the near to distant future,
you guys will be in the same situation and things will unravel.
You got caught up in an “Ugly Sexy”?
I’ll be honest, they are usually the best ones to be with.
Sexy swagg always overrides beauty.
Beauty fades, but a Wolf who can turn you on every day lasts forever.
(and a few gifts don’t hurt either)…
MAN #2 is already working his magic on Miss Italian.
Or, use her as a decoy (something Wolves are good at).
I say, as the Fox I know you are, to try and befriend him.
She is already cuttin you off at the pass!!!
Semi-sexual means she is about to feel his “hidden agenda”.
I say get into his world and snoop around his closet…
Who knows what you will find buried in there.
Man #3 sounds like a potential winner.
Body language is the key.
When it comes to Wolves on the D/L,
they rarely every speak to you with words.
Always keep eye contact, look away, and then resume eye contact.
Try the “head-nod/smile” and see how they respond.
If they do – that means they have opened themselves for you.
Study body language.
Look at how Wolves interact with Female Foxes.
Look at how their smile changes and eyes lower.
They will do the same to you if they are attracted to you
… but staring at you is the #1 rule.
This entry I wrote has great tips I gathered from various Wolves on the prowl. It has helped me to pick up the signs easily:
Hope this helped you Ty.
Keep us informed at how things go.
Put fear aside and let natural flow.
You got this.