i’ll never forget something cousin hybrid said to me last year.

“jamari,
there are males out here who work out,
look good,
and what you are looking for; they own companies,
CEOS,
successful and are not on IG acting like prissy bitches in high school.”

it is making more sense to me we close out 2025.
outside of looks or “masculinity”,
there was something else i was looking for that i couldn’t explain.
i have encountered it once or twice and it made me feel hot.
all the vixens were fonting about a recent “actors on actors” discussion.
it was with jonathan bailey (fiyero from wicked) and david corenswet (superman) and i’ll be 110%…

it was alllllllllll of this.
even though jonathan is gay,
i understand why he is people’s sexiest male for 2025.
he is extremely charismatic and interested.
in his straight roles,
you’d think he was by how he has chemistry and heat with the vixens.

sidebar: although his role in “fellow travelers” was peak.
his chemistry with matt bomer turned me on every week.

i thought david was attractive in superman but this interview opened me up.
him not giving a damn and talking abut his love of theater…
when he complimented jonathan on his “massive biceps”…
and his dimples…

these types of straights are dangerous because they’ll make you assume they are gay.
there is something so sexy to me with a male who looks good,
but also has emotional intelligence along with being:

cultured
passionate in something
a master conversationalist that knows how to subtly flirt
comfortable in our masculinity/sexuality
compassionate and empathic
morally on the right side of history

and one of my personal favorites:

knowing how to debate with me and stand in your shit

i feel like vixens want a “gay straight male“,
and when gay males like jonathan get around them,
they end up attracted because charismatic gays ring different.

gay males end up attracted to the “straight gay male” because not only is he sexy,
but he is giving everything us are looking for in a life long partner.
so much shit in common,
conversation feels like ya’ll known each other for years,
and they make you feel like they see YOU.

i had to wonder:

are some gays looking for the “straight gay male”?

lowkey: the “doesn’t know he is sexy but isn’t dangerously insecure” wolf is s tier for me.
they are endangered and about 3 of em left in the wild.