the meme i saw with ^that picture was:

“if a vixen ever look at you like this,
just know she disgusted and glad U not her man.”

i think more Foxholers need to look at attentionistos like this.
one of my fav responses to another male that’s talkin’ nonsense:

“what are you even talmbout sir?!”

…and i’m say it in a joking way but i’m dead serious.
if i’m fonting,
i’ll add “lol” or the laughing emoji for good measure.

i love is verbal sparring.

not in the “real housewives of hip-hop” way,
although that has it’s place,
but when we are talking/fonting to other males.
there is something so sexy about being quick witted and lowkey flirtatious.
it is a skill that we have but i think many of us need to get out of our heads.
i watched the interview with cam newton and rapping vixen,
lady london…

look at the power of a lesbian and a gay fox.

when i watched the first episode of the 5th season of “stranger things”,
i won’t even hold you:

1 – i was bored AF
2 – i was lost AF because i didn’t know wtf was going on

sometimes,
they take too long in-between breaks with shows that you up and forget.
thank God for youtube recaps,
amirite?
anyhoo,
after the recap and as i continued on with the season,
it started to get better and more interesting.

the character of will has been through a lot of shit.

as you know,
vecna sought him out because evil was easier to break him.

if you been watching the show since the 4th season,
you know that will has struggled with (and spoilers ahead)…

i think the biggest shocker i have with the following is:

people are still listening to the radio.

…and why?
when there is a whole apple music,
spotify,
tidal,
youtube music,
and Lord knows whatever else in streaming you want.
i’ll even let pandora slide since that is still a fan favorite.

…but actually getting into your car and turning on the radio?

well i guess this dj at power 92.3 in little rock, arkansas thought the same.
he thought no one would allegedly hear him having sex live on air…

i’ll never forget something cousin hybrid said to me last year.

“jamari,
there are males out here who work out,
look good,
and what you are looking for; they own companies,
CEOS,
successful and are not on IG acting like prissy bitches in high school.”

it is making more sense to me we close out 2025.
outside of looks or “masculinity”,
there was something else i was looking for that i couldn’t explain.
i have encountered it once or twice and it made me feel hot.
all the vixens were fonting about a recent “actors on actors” discussion.
it was with jonathan bailey (fiyero from wicked) and david corenswet (superman) and i’ll be 110%…

can i font ya’ll that i love a:

“Chess and not Checkers type of muthafucka!”

in a forest were everyone has a big mouth,
and have to show everything for views and virals,
i like those who pop out and pull a fast one on pineapples.
it gives cinema.

“Oh you was thinking?
Oh well let me show you.”

all this time,
ya’ll had me thinking sports analyst vixen,
taylor rooks,
was dating jack from “x-twitter”.

and then allegedly,
it was jesse williams.
with that kind of penis jesse got,
i’d think about looking past all that baby mama drama he got going on.
ALL NOPES.
taylor decided to show us who she is really with and MARRIED over the weekend...

What if masculinity wasn’t what we were taught to admire?
What if it was something quieter,
steadier,
and far more powerful?

when someone loves us for who we are,
not for our highlight reels,
not for our past,
and not for who they want us to be but:

The real,
unfiltered,
and sometimes ugly us.

yes,
the ugly us.
the one underneath the filters.
the one that has the demons and the insecurities.
when they don’t flinch or are embarrassed at our flaws.
the one who don’t play bout you and will square up if someone disrespects you.

You better hold on to them.
Tight. AF

i used to believe masculinity lived in the gym.
it was big biceps,
played sports,
and an intimidating stare.
some males,
sure,
but i’ve learned:

Just because someone looks like a man,
that doesn’t mean they act like one.

muscles don’t equal depth; a scowl doesn’t make you safe.
masculinity is not a role we play,
a script we memorize,
or photos we post.
it’s how we show up for ourselves and our loved ones,
especially when no one’s watching.
i thought about this when alex fine spoke out after cassie’s testimony yesterday…