this is about to be the wildest news ever.
sit down.
seriously.
okay you ready?
ready.
set.
boom:
i’m getting married!
you read right.
married…
…and to a vixen of all people.
she actually popped the question to me a half an hour ago.
okay seriously,
i haven’t decided yet.
i know.
i know.
it’s not what you think tho.
my friend wants to join the army.
only thing is,
she is a single parent and they won’t allow her to join.
she needs to be married in order to get approved.
i didn’t give her a definite answer yet.
i told her let me sleep on it,
but she needs an answer soon.
i dunno what to do.
i thought i’d present it on here first.
on one side,
i want to help a friend.
on another,
i’ll be legally married to someone.
just the thought of it has my mind all fucked up.
funny that i said i wanted an adventure today.
i guess i need to watch what i ask for.
NO what if Kerry Rhodes comes out ,you guys start dating,fall in love and he proposes…:)
NO dont do it man. It sounds good on paper and the benefits are enticing, but eventually you are going to have to get a divorce. What if you come into a windfall from a book, screenplay, starting your own business then what, is this friend willing to walk away and not want anything, being that as your wife she will be entitled Also, if she makes the military her career, if you stay married, you may be entitled to her pension benefits which will benefit you, but will she be happy about that? Probably not realizing that what she is doing in her 20’s can come back to haunt her in her 40’s. Also God forbid something happens while she is deployed, and you have to make decisions concerning the child as his legal guardian. Marriage is a business and you got to think of it as a business arrangement, as your wife she can get credit in your name without you knowing and its pretty much nothing you can do. If she incurs debts while married to you, you may be entitled to pay them. As much as you may love your friend, dont mess up your good name, it may be all you have. Getting a divorce is a pain in the ass and may cost you more in the long run than the benefits you will get out of this deal. I say NO BUENO!
Thanks, Tajan, for those comments.
I say go for it…you may just like it. lol.
Listen to Synthya, Jamari.
Well this actually happens quite commonly. Be thankful you are gay as well because if you were a straight man, it would be awkward if you met a woman. As long as you aren’t doing it for a green card (which is illegal), then it should be cool. If it was something of harm, we would tell you to stop and think about it.
Foxi will you be able to wear white? Ummmm..
Just kidding. During Dont Ask Dont Tell I knew several gay and lesbian peeps who married the opposite sex to get benefits.
One of the couples was a gay guy and a lesbian.
If you two are good friends I would consider it. But if things sour remember it is harder to get out of a marriage than in one.
Immanuel at http://www.dlconfessionssequel.com
It is true that if you have a child and are unwed that they will not allow you to join BUT she does have other options then getting married in order to join. My cousin had the same issue, and they told her in order to join she would have to sign her parental rights over to another individual, particularly a grandparent, and that child still receives benefits and everything else. This is the easier and safe option than what comes along with breaking law…
It’s a simple standard military document that is used daily in the military.
There’s a reason they won’t let her join: her child. She needs to re prioritize her life, clearly.
your unemployed, as her spouse you will get full benefits plus a monthly stipend. but what happens to the lil kid are you gonna be responsible for it?
Do it, that’s your friend. It’s a reasonable thing to do. Plus you’ll have the pleasure of saying “My wife” for a minute.
You would so be the one planning the wedding. Lol
^hardy har har LMAO!
MMmmm we need our TX and armed forces wolves and fox to come to the den and give the pros and cons of this decision
Is she an American citizen? If not, then RUN!
Marriage fraud is a crime and is a direct violation against Article 132 of the Uniform Code of Military Justice.
The benefits/allowances you receive being married are hard to pass up, but if you can do the time (if caught) go for it.
^thats why im not sure if I want to do it.
Lol
she is a citizen tho.
If it’s an illegal plan you already started out tough by posting (admitting) online. I’ll say search what it is you will earn (tax benefits etc) as a married person, weigh it and go for it. Hell you know it’s the married ones everybody is chasing. Your MR right might just come scoop you along since you are married. You gotta wear your ring and take a pic with your wifey too.. lOl
my niece is a single parent and joined ???? as long as she has living family member to assign custody of the minor children to during training. her recruiter is steering her wrong. what branch?
my partners sister is a sgt in the army and a single parent x2.
The military stockade is a little easier then Rikers Island and there are no sentenced to probation blah blah blah.
Do it man. She needs your help. I would do it.
It prob make you feel good being married to a woman. Oops did I just type that. LMAO…
^LOL.
i may actually enjoy saying out loud that i’m married.
so does this mean ill be a d/l fox?
LMAO
Yea, I thought of that. You will be briefly on the dl.
LMAO!!!!!! @ DL Fox
^shit ill probably get more pipe when i’m married than being single.
LOLOL.
Hahahaa.. DOOOO ITTTTTT
HAHAHAHHHAAAA DO IT. Yeah you’ll be a married fox, and that’s gotta add to ya esteem