i have a question for you:

are some males actually out of our league?
or is that the story we chose to tell ourselves in fear of rejection?

…until we meet someone who we think is “out of our league”,
and they show us that regardless of what we think we don’t have,
they are attracted to something we do have.
we been in our own bawdies for a long time so we know what works,
doesn’t work,
what we wish we had that would make things work,
and what has become “what we think makes us ugly“.
karaoke said something to me that i had to share with The Foxhole:

“people really need to start telling themselves a new story in their heads.”

i saw this thread on reddit and i wanted to share it on the Foxhole…

i feel like everyone has thought like this.
we met someone and not only are they gorgeous,
but they are living an equally gorgeous life.
that is intimidating to those us with self worth and esteem issues.
it makes us feel a little “imposter syndrome” too.
we tell ourselves a story that contradicts his story,
which is:

he saw us.
he liked something about us.
he fucked us.
he saw we didn’t get weird after and let us more into his gorgeous life.

i saw two comments under the post that said:

“He’s probably telling his friends about the beautiful, out-of-his-league 20 yr old twink he managed to hook up with…”

“Right, the fact he was banging a long lean twink means the twink is in his league. If op plays his cards right this could be a regular NSA thing and he could possibly learn a thing or two to achieve a similar lifestyle for himself. I have been there too thinking im not good enough yet here i was having sex sith the guy and he was enjoying himself as much as i was.”

…and as weird as it sounds,
THAT is the only story we need to tell ourselves.

“why wouldn’t he be into me?”
“there is something about me he likes and i’m gonna go with it.”
“i’m good company and a greater orgasm.”
“even if this doesn’t last, i’m getting something out of it.”

so regardless if we are fat,
skinny,
don’t look like an IG attentionisto,
got acne,
“the misadventures of the awkward black gay”,
nerdy,
feminine,
or whatever we see that we think why someone else won’t be into us…

these other menz got something about themselves they don’t like either.

…and who knows what stories they’re telling themselves,
while we think they’re “out of our league”.
there are many who will NOT be attracted to us but that is perfectly fine.
what lady gaga said?

my new motto for wolves and anything else for 2026:

show up,
go with it,
and don’t let my head story take me to the depths of emotional hell.

…and honestly in this new forest i’m in,
it’s been working.

lowkey: when we look back,
i think we have sabotaged a lot of connections due to the story we have been telling ourselves.

see reddit thread: here