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dating is hard.
getting to know someone is hard.
it’s all hard.
you meet someone you’re interested in,
you talk for hours,
fuck for hours,
and then they just up and dip on you.
they could text you to ask if they can come through,
but they can’t use those same words to let you know they need a minute.
they can fuck a stranger they met raw,
but be scared to let you know they aren’t interested.
it’s really disrespectful,
but after watching “insecure” i had to wonder…
Are many people out here dating with severe mental health issues?
it was interesting to hear nathan and issa’s conversation…
if you watched “insecure” last season,
you knew that nathan and issa were kicking it.
nathan up and ghosted issa with no explanation.
she spent an episode of that season desperately trying to find him.
in the last night’s episode of “lowkey trying”,
they are in a better place and he admitted he ghosted her because he was bipolar.
there was a wolf i know.
i thought we were cool tbh.
when the rona first started,
i sent him a text asking him if he was okay.
he would watch my ig stories and then he just stopped.
before all this,
he would “show up” in my life.
every time we were around each other,
i got the impression he wanted more from me.
i wanted the same,
but once he stopped fuckin’ with me,
it made me question myself and if i may have done something to offend him.
that is what ghosting does to people because it’s so abrupt.
it made me dislike him because i thought he was different.
i’m so sexually attracted to him tho:
i had to ask myself after watching that episode tho:
Are mental health issues the leading cause of misunderstandings out here?
for bi and gay males ghost for a number of reasons.
it could be:
After they finally beat
He a hoe
The conversations were boring
He is way too popular and you’re a number to him
He is in “something else” with someone
He is intimidated
He is jealous of your come up
He is insecure (no pun intended)
Realized he ain’t shit and you deserve better (if only some were more considerate, right?)
when straights think they’re so different from gay males,
men are still men.
for many unspoken ones tho:
They are battling inner demons that won’t allow them to let their guard down
i get so down,
i don’t want to talk to anyone for that day.
instead of going completely ghost like i use to,
because i would ghost for days on end until i felt the need to resurface,
i’ll let those closest to me know that i’m having an depressive episode.
i’d let a partner or potential know i need a minute to get my thoughts in order.
for some dudes,
you don’t have hierarchy in their lives for them to explain that to.
we don’t talk about mental health and dating other males tho.
males in the life have a lot of trauma or insecurities they don’t talk about.
it tends to show it’s uglness when you want to get close to them.
no matter how good they look,
some have a ton of shit going on that is confusing af to those that want more.
there is a lot to unpack and often times:
It truly isn’t about us
it really is just them.