so okay its that time again!
i’m on chapter 5 in “no more mr. nice guy”,
which is titled:

“reclaim your personal power”

i’m seeing how being a “nice guy” has been the wrong move.
i was doing it and putting myself in the wrong.
here are my answers to the “break free” questions.
you are my safe animal so let’s gooooooo…
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tomorrow starts my new path on the mountain trail:

“i cum first”

as i said i would from the “no more mr nice guy” break free exercise.
today i have been in a reflective kind of mood.
for some odd reason,
i feel nervous about:

– putting me first
– stop care taking
– no more external validation
– change my thinking with affirmations/responsibility training

it’s like i’m already thinking ahead,
rather than staying in the present moment.
since the foxhole is my “safe person”,
i have been having a lot of slips.
i’ll tell you with what…

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so it’s thursday,
so you know what that means?
another juicy self-helping of “no more mr. nice guy”.
i really enjoyed this chapter.
it is titled:

“make your needs a priority”

a topic i have struggled with all my life.
i have put many others before me.
some appreciate and are still around.
others i end up feeling drained when it wasn’t returned.
the last was work wolf.
he froze me out and it still stings,
but it has gotten me to start finding the strength within me.
so i should really be thanking him.
he was in my life for a “reason”.
this chapter forced me to take a step back.
i was damn near in tears at the end of the chapter.
these are my answers to the “break free” activities…
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i’m really enjoying “no more mr. nice guy”.

x YOU CAN ENJOY THE PDF WITH ME HERE

it has been helping to open my eyes and see things more clearly.
chapter 3 dealt with an issue i struggle with constantly.

“only pleasing myself”

i tend to put my own feelings to the side for others.
i’m sure you can tell.
well this chapter had a lot more “break free” activities.
these are my answers…
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so every thursday,
god willing,
i will discuss our reading material for “foxhole book club” .
as you should know,
the book is “no more mr. nice guy” by robert glover.

( x you can read the book via pdf version )

so i read the second chapter today on lunch.
the “break free: #3” question was…
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the above is very interesting.
there is a lot of truth in it…
if you play “the nice guy” role.
i imagine everyone else doesn’t let that phase them.

well i’m not accepting ^that.

so foxholer tony had an amazing idea.
he wanted me to do like a virtual foxhole book club of the book:

“no more mr. nice guy” by robert glover

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It’s no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

we all read a chapter and then discuss it once i make the entry.

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it sounded like a wonderful idea!
i stopped reading it because i was distracted.
this will definitely keep me focused since the foxhole is joining.
so i ended up reading the first chapter today.
at the end of each chapter in this book,
there is an exercise for us to do.
they are called “break free”.
the first one was:

Breaking Free: Activity #1

Write down three possible safe people or groups that might be able to provide support for you in

your recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome.

If no one comes to mind, get out the telephone directory and look up counselors or support groups

in the phone book. Write down three names and phone numbers and call them when you finish

this chapter. If you are employed by a company with an Employee Assistance Program, this is

another resource. If you know someone who has been to therapy or a support group, ask them for

information. If you have access to the internet you can search for 12-step groups or support

groups.

i’ve decided the foxhole will be my support group.
yay!
so this is my answer to the “break free: activity 2”…
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