“UM, SAY WHAT????”
We have all had the moments.
Someone says something to us and we are ready to knock their heads right off their shoulders.
The older I get, I realize that people are really shady.
They are not nice and will try to treat you like shit.
It use to bother me until I learned how to skillfully be nice/nasty.
So I had to ask you, my reader…
How much bullshit do you tolerate?
Now do not get me wrong, Jamari is a nice guy.
I am one of the nicest Foxes you will ever meet.
But, under every soft shell lies a hard center.
Before my evolution, I was just all soft all over.
I had no cajones and would just let people get the best of me.
I can admit to my weaknesses….
Because I raised to be so sheltered, I didn’t have a backbone.
I was also desperately trying to find friends and for people to like me.
It use to bother me when I found out later that these same “friends” were talking crazy shit about me.
I would start to question what I did wrong and maybe I should have done something differently.
I never took into consideration that they were the assholes.
I also never took into consideration that not every smiling face means you are my “friend”.
Nowadays, for me to even consider you to be a friend requires a screening process.
I can’t just have any Tom, DICK, or Harry in my circle.
You need to go through a few tests before I elevate you to that coveted title.
So I am going to teach you, my wonder readers, how to gain a backbone:
1. You can tell off the bat who is fake.
One of the good ways is if they are gossiping about people.
Sure, I like to hear info myself, BUT I am never destructive with it (unless I don’t like the person).
But always remember: if people are gossiping about others, then your info is up for grabs.
The best way to combat this is to let them do all the talking.
Tell them little to no info about you.
And if you do find yourself cornered, tell them a lie or half a truth.
2. People will try to throw stones your way.
I like to throw boulders back as warning shots myself.
But, you have to learn when to reply and when to just say “fuck it”.
Defending yourself can be great, but it can also prove your guilt.
If someone says something about your character, I always find the “no response” trick to work wonders.
They have nothing to “go on” because you never responded.
Making a scene and looking like a fool will do just that.
People from afar cannot tell who is the fool really is when two people are arguing.
3. How do you view yourself?
I maybe just a little Fox working in a big industry, but I walk and act like a king.
In crowing yourself king, you already know:
What you will tolerate
Who is beneath you
Who just isn’t worth the time.
Sure, we all like to fight every battle that comes our way.
I do not care who you are, your feelings can be hurt by negative things about your character.
BUT… when you have a presence about you, no one will try and fuck with you.
Or, they won’t bring it to your face.
You have to command an air that lets people know that you deserve better.
And guess what?
People will feed off of that and do you better.
If I knew then what I knew now…
I would probably rule the entire world.
But, I always wondered why people are just so damn ignorant?
I always believed people try to test you to see what kind of person you are.
The way others treat you is because of how you started off in the relationship.
Even after high school, we still encounter real life bullies.
So my question to you is:
why are you still putting up with people’s bullshit?
It got me thinking about respect.
The one Aretha sang about in the good ol’ days.
It seems that the nicer you are, the more you are rug beneath someone’s feet.
But you pull out a quick BITCH MODE, then everyone is shaking in their boots.
And yes, even MEN can be bitches too.
So when you allow bullshit, you get it thrown in your face.
When it comes to people and how they treat us….