Don’t you ever get tired of dealing with people’s shady bullshit?

this morning,
i found myself headed dangerously close on the edge of sanity,
ready to go nuclear over someone’s latest nonsense.
someone i already know to be a certain way but hoping for a different outcome.
my bad.
in life,
we are going to face all kinds of abusive assholes.
i’ve always liked an asshole up front where i can see them.
i hate the ones who throws stones and hides behind a mask of innocence.
thankfully,
a dear friend pulled me back from the brink with a simple yet profound truth…

“Expect people to be exactly who they are.”

it hit me like a revelation.
actions speak louder than words,
after all.
people don’t tell you their true character; they show it.

How many times have ignored actions thinking we would be treated differently?

You met them as a shady bitch and they’ll always be a shady bitch.
Their texting sucks so don’t expect them to communicate well.
They’re rude to others so expect them to be rude to you when you fall out.
They’ve picked sides being followers so they’ll turn on you eventually.
They said their ex was crazy and you’ll be labelled crazy when ya’ll end.
They claim they don’t trust people so don’t expect them to trust you.
They beat their ex and they’ll put their paws on you.
They cheated with you; they’re gonna cheat on you.

…and so on and so forth.
i’ve learned that my high expectations of others often lead to disappointment.
that’s been one of my biggest lessons:

Believe people’s actions first and only.

…and don’t go into things with no expectations either.
when we do that,
we start to fool ourselves into denial.
that makes you lower you expectations only to be disappointed.
keep it simple:

“Expect people to be exactly who they are.”

do with that as you will.
choose to deal with it but stop acting shocked with what we get.