we have all received it on many occasions.
some of us can’t handle it tho.
we implode at the thought of someone critiquing us.
that use to be me until karaoke taught me to:
a) learn to laugh at myself
b) find the positive within the negative
so the hr vp had a meeting with today.
she asked all the executives,
along with other random employees,
to give feedback to her about my how i’m doing so far.
i’ll be completely open with the foxhole tonight.
this was a few of the criticisms…
“I think Jamari is a good fit. He waves and speaks every time I see him. He is super engaging and has made a consistent effort to “own” his role.”
“I only have positive feedback! He is always to help, he is very welcoming and is absolutely reliable. He is always on time and I know because I’m usually here between 8:30am and 9. His emails are extremely informative and polite.”
“I’ve had a couple interactions with him and they’ve all been extremely positive. Just my 2 cents.”
“I think Jamari is amazing. He’s personable, conversational, and actually seems like he cares about making a good first impression to our important guests. I think he is a great fit!”
…but out of all the great,
i got this:
“The only thing i’d ask is that Jamari is mindful of how direct (matter of fact) he is. Two reasons: prior to him, we’ve had others who are less engaged so his personality may be off putting to those not used to someone like him and secondly, he may want to temper it based on who he’s speaking with or what he’s speaking about. Everyone shouldn’t get the same “Matter of Fact Jamari” all the time. Some situations may require him to fall back and be more of an assistant, less a director.”
you know how celebs only respond to their hateful comments?
out of all the positive compliments on that paper,
^that one bothered me the most.
i spent the entire day trying to decipher it,
ask myself questions,
and replay times i could remember.
the hr vp wasn’t upset by it.
she said not everyone will like everything i do.
some folks think many things about her,
so she “gets” it,
but that comment never stopped her from wanting to hire me.
sometimes I think I’m dreaming at this new role I’m at
i sent the critiques to karaoke and she responded:
“Very good feedback. Definitely take the highlighted one to heart!It means sometimes you need to play the game better. Even though someone might be a dumbass, if it’s a CEO, you have to talk to him like he’s not. Know who you’re talking to and watch your time accordingly. You can joke with the security guard about whose clothes don’t fit right and who has bad breath, but a manager should just get a help and a polite nod.
Things like that.”
everyone will not like the things you do.
you have to be able to take criticism and use it to your advantage.
even though it was a bruise to my ego,
it doesn’t stop the fact that i’m doing very well in my position.
the comments aside from that were amazing.
we sha’ll see what happens next!