Kiss Me On My Neck

Ya know I was just thinking to myself…

As I laid in my bed and looked up at the ceiling.
Candle and incense burning….
… that I would love for someone to come and just kiss me on my neck.


Sometimes, a Fox doesn’t need all that extra smut and shit.
You know, those “pipe” dreams.
Just the feeling of a Wolf coming up from behind you
and breathing on ya neck is more than enough.

Is it wrong for a Fox to just want no hold barred affection?


Corny to some, I know.
But, hell, my mind-body-and-soul deserves this shit.
Not to mention that I am fine as HELL.
Coming home from a hard day of work, you just want to cuddle up with your “HIM”.
Your HIM becomes a therapist and his body is the couch.
No sex; just listening.

Is this lifestyle just one night stands and fly by night flings?
Do Wolves even want to feel… something these days?
Or are all we are is a piece of ass and out the window like a thief in the night?
Will I ever have a Wolf just come up behind me and kiss me on my neck?

Sometimes I think Foxes forget that they have more to offer than sex.
Sure, we can fuck like the best of them,
but sometimes a nigga just wants more.
Tell us it is okay and just be there to listen.
…. and I don’t care how soft that sounds.
Fuck you; everyone needs affection.
A warm pipe for 15 minutes isn’t always the remedy.

What has happened to the va-va-va-voom?
What happened to feeling that… something?
What happened to it all?
You meet a Wolf and he actually wants to get to know you better?
Long conversations on the phone? Sleep overs? Cuddling? and Game nights?
Are they now replaced by Magnums? Moaning? Misery? and Messiness?
Is this it?
A life of “whats his name again?” and “he was the best sex of one night, I think?”

When it comes to the lack of affection and instant gratification…

Are we all just sluts?

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

76 thoughts on “Kiss Me On My Neck”

  1. Actually, from my friends’ and i’s experience, most wolves just want to cuddle lol. Sex is fine if you’re willing to go for that but it isn’t always what they’re after. I know most of the time when i’ve interacted with wolves, all they’ve wanted to do was just hold me. A large part of it has to do with my small size (well, that’s what they tell me). But my friend went on a date recently with someone who was his ideal, 6’0, light skin, amazing body, great car, nice apartment, and so on… they watched a movie… afterward they went to his room and… fell asleep. No sex, he just held my friend the whole night. In many of my “situations”, the overwhelming majority of the time they just wanted someone else around. This is particularly true for lone wolves. Just want like a warm body to fall asleep with and be affectionate towards. So there are plenty of wolves who do like all of that kissing and hugging, touch and rubbing stuff. There’s conversation thrown in there too lol. Other’s will have their jump-offs who are strictly for sex but sometimes they’ll have specific “FWB” who they keep around who are for that purpose of intimacy. This person is often times an ex lol.

    However, most aren’t trying to get you for the long haul! Who don’t want to have to put forth the energy to keep you around and maintain a relationship. They’d rather track you down whenever they get lonely, calling you over for a night of companionship, and then send you on their way until that loneliness comes back.

  2. wolfstyle :
    im definitely a cuddly affectionate conversing comforting wolf…and im all always about the long haul

    And yet… you’re still holding out for that “special someone.” Are you sleeping with other boys in the meantime? lol

  3. nah im not..im not sleeping with him either…just giving time for things to play out..but sadly i think that situation will be wrapping up soon

    1. Sadly? I really need a general idea about what’s going on with this person because it sounds pretty serious.

      So no sex for you at all. How long as it been since you’re last sexual encounter?

    1. yup…
      … and it was great…
      but he had a hidden agenda.
      he turned the heat all the way up so that i could get hot.
      between his kung fu grip and our body heat, it would make me take off all my clothes so he could do the same…. and he could fuck me.
      his roommate knocked on the door asking why the heat as so high LOL

      he was a backwards wolf because it only made me cranky, I caught a cab, and went home.

  4. UrSoVain :

    I bet he thought that plan was GENIUS! lol

    yup.
    he did.
    and i enjoyed his cracked face as i walked to his front door.

    he was really cute BUT…
    … he had an issue where he looked good with clothes on.
    he was domincian, thick, and did the loose fit very well.
    everything looked good down to the Timbz.
    when he took that shirt off and he had that wife beater on….
    …. that pot belly was a major distraction. LOL

    1. Really? I’m the opposite. I’ve grown used to men having a bit of a stomach and am surprised when guys take off their shirt and have a six-pack (which my hands usually can’t be taken off of). Thick boys don’t look the best without clothes on but they sure do feel you when they’re on top of you =p

      1. ^^he had a snow globe though.
        which puzzled me because i was wondering how i didnt see it.
        maybe because he was wearing a plaid shirt and a leather jacket.

        … but i agree with you on the ab comment!
        my tongue is usually what can’t be taken off it…

        ;x

  5. All that intimate stuff is just a damn lie if you’re doing it with a random person. I usually mess with verse tops and with me not really being the beta type, we’re skipping all that.

  6. JAY :
    All that intimate stuff is just a damn lie if you’re doing it with a random person. I usually mess with verse tops and with me not really being the beta type, we’re skipping all that.

    Sounds like a really rough life you’re forced to live =(

    1. Not really. I got what I came for. lol. Either way I dont think I would be comfortable hugging a dude. Me and my father just shake hands. If I like ya my grip will be extra firm. lol

      1. JAY :
        Not really. I got what I came for. lol. Either way I dont think I would be comfortable hugging a dude. Me and my father just shake hands. If I like ya my grip will be extra firm. lol

        that is some sad cold shit

  7. wolfstyle :

    JAY :
    Not really. I got what I came for. lol. Either way I dont think I would be comfortable hugging a dude. Me and my father just shake hands. If I like ya my grip will be extra firm. lol

    that is some sad cold shit

    @Wolfstyle: LMAO!!!!!! HAHAHA!!!

    Jay, I’m here with pamphlets and 1-800 numbers where you can find help and get the comfort and affection you’re parents failed to give you during you important development years

    1. Lmao Naw im good. Men don’t hug other men in my family. Its just an invisible rule.

      I also prefer not to be intimate with anyone I’ve hooked up with.

    2. @ Wolfstyle: LMAO, I’m still laughing almost dropped my laptop!!!!!

      Jay its okay to hug a man, espically a nice strong man, lol…but all jokes aside that is some sad cold shit….Trust me before its all over your going to hug a man and never want to let him go..why would you not want to hug a man???? Two hard bodies together, transferring heat, his breath (fresh) on the back of your neck, y’all breathing in sync….I could go on, but its a wonderful thing…Get at me when you in the A…you need a hug!

  8. UrSoVain :

    wolfstyle :

    JAY :
    Not really. I got what I came for. lol. Either way I dont think I would be comfortable hugging a dude. Me and my father just shake hands. If I like ya my grip will be extra firm. lol

    that is some sad cold shit

    @Wolfstyle: LMAO!!!!!! HAHAHA!!!
    Jay, I’m here with pamphlets and 1-800 numbers where you can find help and get the comfort and affection you’re parents failed to give you during you important development years

    yes vain! jay needs some immediate therapy!

  9. Wolves want somebody to come home to as well Jamari. Sleeping with somebody new or somebody thats not yours gets old believe it or not. From my experience foxes can’t handle a man that show a sensitive side. Foxes want a man to dominant all the time and shit can a Wolf get a kiss on the cheek when he walk in the door, a massage because he had a stressful day? In my past relationships I have done what you wanted but have not gotten that emotional connection returned. I will be the first to walk up behind my man and grab him by the waist and kiss him ever so gently on his neck and ask him how was his day or just to do it to show him I care and I got him. At the same time Wolves have feelings too…(lol). We need to know our fox got our back and he just not thirsty for the dick. A relationship is more than just sex. We all know as gay men we can get sex from anywhere, any day, anytime….I guess the problem is when a Wolf shows his sensitive side hes a bitch as nigga or he’s not man enough..so we give y’all what you foxes want. It’s easier to keep shit inside than to be criticized by your man let alone the world. It’s a tough gig to play Alpha Wolf all the time. The question is are you the fox that I can let my guard down and just be a plain ole Wolf without being judged?

    1. ^ wow.
      that actually made me attracted to u by your words.

      well…
      I don’t think all Foxes are like that.
      I like my man to be dominant, yes, but I also like him to show he has a sensitive side.
      Too much dominance can be scary at times because he may come off cold.

      Problem with Wolves is some of them are soft and sensitive and that just isnt my type of Wolf.
      there is no balance.
      gotta wonder if he is a wolf with fox accessories on?

      I don’t know who would have an issue with their man walking up behind them and wrapping their arms around em…
      and as you said kissing their neck and just feeling that connection.

      some Foxes (or the Jackals and Hyenas) want a damn hip hop rapper 24/7 and that gets old…

      he better cut that shit out and love me dammit!

      1. But it still seems as though you either get relationship material, shows how much he likes u upfront types who you are NOT attracted to physically

        Or the emotionally unavailable, not looking to settle down but will stick around for the fringe benefits, ATTRACTIVE types. There is barely any in between and you’re left feeling like a bad person for wanting to hold out for someone who’s relationship material AND cute.

  10. @ Vain:”Or the emotionally unavailable, not looking to settle down but will stick around for the fringe benefits, ATTRACTIVE types.”

    If a Wolf is around, its because he wants to be around. We don’t stick around if we don’t see some kind of possibility or connection that could maybe go further. Wolf is sniffing your tail!!!

    I was talking to some other wolves a couple of months ago and we all came to the same conclusion: Foxes think that were emotionally unavailable, but all along were just waiting for the fox to step up and show us that he’s there for more than just the dick (making an emotional connect) an example was given when we was talking by one of the wolves…

    He was chillin with this fox for almost a year….he was feeling him but didn’t know whether to take it to the next step or not and honestly he was getting ready to cut it loos…us wolves guard ourselves and our foxes, but especially ourselves, I guess it’s in our tail (lol)….They were chillin one day and the fox stepped up and instead of the Wolf taking the lead the Fox took the lead….they were watching tv and the fox held the wolf and started messaging his head and started talking to him as a man..and that all it took some since of being emotionally connected…like i said earlier (Wolves have feelings too)…Next time if you with a Wolf and you feel he is unavailable try taking the lead, I didn’t say it would be easy but try and you might be surprised!

    P.S. – Wolf moved Fox in (Happy Hunting)

    1. Wait a minute Terry! There’s a lot going on here and i need some clarification.

      How do you make an emotional connection with someone who isn’t trying to connect? It feels like winning the lottery in order to settle down with these wolves. You have to be lucky as opposed to employing some strategy.

      “Take the lead.” What does that mean? Take him out to eat? Call him and ask him to dinner and pay for it? I typically tend to show them upfront that it’s not about the sex and eventually they run off and find some other skank (while trying to keep you on the side). So is it a good idea to play hard to get or do we give it up an hope that he’ll keep sticking around and not dumb down our “situation” into more of a sex thing?

      Wolves will always stick around for the fringe benefits of a relationship like the with attention, affection, shoulder to lean on, your own personal cheerleader, ego-stroker, and so forth but without actually making the commitment. I see it all the time. When i hear of what you all look for in a fox i don’t know if it really matches up with what you actually go after.

      1. How do you make an emotional connection with someone who isn’t trying to connect? It feels like winning the lottery in order to settle down with these wolves. You have to be lucky as opposed to employing some strategy

        One word: Communication! Do you discuss what you want and what he want from the relationship?

        Tell him what you want and if he agree in the beginning and he detour..check that ass as soon as you see it, don’t wait and let it continue or think its going to change..let him know, ” yo, get your shit together! what’s the deal?, do we need to have another talk? am I missing something?

        Wolves like to know they have someone that can check them and keep them in line when need be…don’t make it a habit (lol)…only when they go off course..

        It’s not strategy, again the wolf just have to be able to feel he can connect with you….and you got his back.

        ” What does that mean? Take him out to eat? Call him and ask him to dinner and pay for it? I typically tend to show them upfront that it’s not about the sex and eventually they run off and find some other skank (while trying to keep you on the side).

        When I say take the lead, don’t let the wolf assume he know what you want because he might think everything is cool the way it is, if you don’t say nothing and you still around apparently you like it. Instead of him making the rules you make the rules with caution…don’t overstep your boundary (lol)… If he run off let him and keep it moving, he’s not the one for you, apparently its about the sex for him..

        It’s not about the money or taking him out, If you dealing with an Alpha Wolf he’s usually taking care of you or 50/50 , but a Wolf need to feel like he’s able to speak with you, open up to you…in a way, I guess you can say at times he need you to be a hybrid, not in a sexual way but in a emotional way (feel me)…not all the time, but he need to be able to let his guard down with you…You say you show them its not about the sex, but do you tell them…Communication is key and its better to be direct than to assume your wolf know what you want, again we are all in this lifestyle and know whats its all about, so to me I make sure I know what the fox wants from me, cut the bullshit and get to the point, lets not waste time…if you want a cut buddy, maybe… but if im feeling you and think it can be more, im not going to set myself up for failure and tell myself that i can only be your cut buddy…ill pass, keep it moving because i already know what you want. Honestly, that is what this is all about COMMUNICATION!

        Don’t get me wrong there are some Wolves out there that ain’t about shit, there just out for the fox chase, but thats when you man up and tell the wolf thats not what you want and cut your ties, don’t let a wolf use you, because if you let him, he will…no question about it…Again, not all wolves, but you have your select few….

        “Wolves will always stick around for the fringe benefits of a relationship like the with attention, affection, shoulder to lean on, your own personal cheerleader, ego-stroker, and so forth but without actually making the commitment.”

        Hate to sound mean, but this part is on you…don’t give yourself to nobody who is not willing to give….you move when he move..(example: if he shows you attention, you show attention, if you show attention first and he don’t return it, why continue?) You have to set goals and limits of what you willing to deal with and how long you willing to deal with it! If you see it’s not moving in the direction you want it to go…the hell with it…

        Hope this cleared up your questions!

        Disclaimer: Not speaking on behalf of all Wolves! From what I experienced, learned, and witnessed..I could be wrong but hey, its just my advice and at the end of the day, its on you…its your life!

  11. Terry :
    Disclaimer: Not speaking on behalf of all Wolves! From what I experienced, learned, and witnessed..I could be wrong but hey, its just my advice and at the end of the day, its on you…its your life!

    Lol, i can tell you haven’t read too much of my blog. I mean i know most of what you’re saying. I’ve been very forward a direct about my expectations and what i want out of a situation. Often times trying to veer between the line of direct and being abrasive. I know what it is to communicate. To not stick around when a wolf shows you a whole bunch of red flag behavior. To not spend my time trying to change someone into who I’d like them to be. And so on and so forth.

    But… and i know Jamari and most other foxes can attest to this as well….

    Its still feels as though there are tons and tons of “aint about shit” wolves out there compared to the one’s who follow along with what you’re saying. Where many of us foxes spend lots if not MOST of our time sifting through the nonsense. A lot of deleted numbers and disappointments. You’re an 8 or 9 being constantly approached and courted by a bunch of 3 to 5s. Leaving most of us standing around wondering if its something we’re doing wrong? There are some really great looking, right acting, wolves out there…. in the abstract… But in reality, can’t say I’ve come across too many. And this is from NOT using the internet to meet you.

    I need other foxes to comment and help me out here. Am I crazy?

    1. I can tell he hasn’t read your blog either. He must not know the clock is ticking from the moment you give out your number. lol

  12. ^i see where vain is coming from.
    i see where terry and the wolves are coming from.

    the real issue with wolves is you can give them as much communication,
    fuck em and suck em just right,
    massage their head and tell them it will be okay,
    cook their ass gourmet meals,
    and do everything a perfect fox would do… and they will still confuse your ass.

    you can have a sign above your head that says “pick me! pick me!”
    and it will go un-noticed.
    even if you decorate it with pretty colors and use crayola crayons.

    wolves are greedy.
    they want cake, ice cream, skittles, swedish fish all because they can.
    it is all about sex and how fat your ass is.
    they base the perfect person on a fat ass… and that is sad because as a fox,
    i base it on connection and swagg.
    you will hear a wolf talk about how he doesn’t like fems and anything close to feminine,
    but turn around and be butter ball naked with some queen who will out him…
    … only because “yo he had a fat ass and sucked the skin off my dick”.

    you play hard to get: you a tease.
    you be a push over: you easy.
    you cater to his needs: he gets bored.
    you are a ho: they love you, fuck you, buy you things, and blah blah blah…

    and then have the nerve to get HURT when a ho does ho shit.
    which then leaves them emotionally bitter and want to turn into hoes and then it is the same story.

    i don’t get it anymore.
    should we as foxes even get it anymore?

    so i understand what Terry is saying and I am everything he has stated…
    …but it is still not “good enough”.

      1. ^^Wolves are good boys.
        But, sometimes they need a reality check on Fox life.
        Just because they are use to fucking idiots,
        they are use to that standard.

        So as much as we are attracted to the wrong Wolves,
        they are also attracted to Hyenas and Jackals.

  13. and then what gets me about foxes….

    is we put in all this effort to be good men and these wolves are:

    broke
    dusty
    un-attractive
    serial cheaters

    this is why i say…
    and as much as wolves SAY hate it…
    when you pose as a challenge, play games with them, and lower their self esteem by confusing them…

    they eat that shit up.

    because,
    secretly,
    they do not like to be bored wheras the perfect “fox” is boring and “too easy”.

  14. but a Wolf will NEVER understand what it is like to be a Fox.
    Just like a MAN will never understand what it is like to be a WOMAN.

    and that is my 50 cents and basically why my site was born.

    1. Yo Jar, I see you felt some kinda way about that…lol

      I feel ya though, we all want our fantasy man and im waiting on him, im not just going to settle for anything but at the same time do I think im going to find him????why of course not its all a figment of my imagination…lol, this new generation of gays are a whole new breed and I have no idea what happened to the previous generation where men where men regardless of being a fox or wolf….

  15. Wow. I am always late on the posts. But Terry has brought up many points from a Wolf’s perspective that are true. I will say this and please no one take offense because it is not that serious.

    I do not know where you guy’s are looking for wolves at. Just from reading this blog and a few others, it appears that Foxes really take the feminine role in what they are looking for and expect a MAN(WOLF) to do. Foxes realize that you are MEN also. Yes some wolves like their Foxes to be feminine/effeminate, but if we really wanted a female, we would be with one.

    No lie, I have had a “cyber crush” on Vain since I first came across his blog almost a year ago. Jamari also. First, I am drawn to both of you guys intellect and the fact that you have a thought process. But, based upon your experiences, your responses to certain topics and the impression on the type of wolves you are looking for/like(based upon photos and comments from your blogs), it seems you are looking for the wolf types that are uber-masculine, ballers, models, tatted up, executives,etc. Maybe your ‘fantasy likes’ have somewhat distorted the majority of us out here who do not fit into that category, your average every day hard working wolf. We don’t walk around glistening with baby oil, posting pics every second while mean mugging the camera.

    We love to feel appreciated and not like we have to be Macho Man 24/7 ready to throw dick at you when you breathe. I know that I for one, can not stand a “thirsty” fox. Ex. Just met one on Sunday and before a first date has been set, I have received 20 phone calls and 50 texts. A bit much and screams clingy or desperate. I have to have a talk with him or else we ain’t going nowhere. LOL. We do like to know that a Fox is with us and have our back. No running back telling your ‘judies” every step we make, no giving up the tail when you first meet us because , TRUST me in this, if the tail is too easy, we are not gonna be emotional invested in anything outside of sex. We already walk through the world in everyone’s opinion that we are supposed to be a Man’s man, with no feelings, but we do. Some are harder to get through than other’s, but that takes time. and if a wolf is really feeling you and can be around you at some times without having to dick you down, He is invested in getting to know you better and further.

    Man, you guys come want to know some things from a wolf’s perspective, but when we come in, shit it’s like walking into a room where women are having a “men ain’t shit” party. All of us are not in that category as well as we do not place all foxes in that category.

    I am just saying that when it comes to realizing why one is not finding the person or that ideal one for them, one needs to really sit down and analyze what/why they are projecting and attracting. Get to the root. The only common factor in all scenarios is ourselves.

    This was written with no animosity, purely love, perspective and from another point of view. Terry hit a lot of ish on the head and I really feel/understand where he comes from. At times, I wish I lived where Vain and Jamari is, just to have the opportunity to show you guys that there are wolves out here who really care about foxes.

    But my questions is ,would you give us ordinary, non baller, non model, not super tatted up, hard working everyday wolves a chance in real life?

    1. ^anthony.
      i appreciate that reply.
      terry also.

      i understand what you are saying.
      foxes take on the feminine role because of the automatic submission.
      Star Fox and I share our details about men between us because we both have no one else to tell it too.
      besides my site, i am pretty much a loner on the “gay” front.

      as far as what i am looking for,
      yes,
      i like my fantasy.
      just like wolves like a fat ass who can throw it back,
      i like a nice body; either toned or muscular.
      is he the standard? nope.
      my only big thing is i like a man who has a nice body and is handsome.
      he must have a job or goals or something.
      when i post pictures about these Wolves,
      most of the time, the key factor is they have the body type I desire.
      if my wolf didn’t have that, but treated me good, i would give him a chance.
      most of the wolves who try to talk to me these days are “bottom of the barrel”.
      no jobs, no goals, dusty, and broke.
      like, what are we going to talk about?
      the fact you were home all day, playing playstation, and eating cereal out a mixing bowl?

      would I give a hard working Wolf a chance? Of course!
      That is all I use to attract.
      Good looking men with good jobs.
      Is that so bad to want that?
      I have realized as of late that those mean muggers in the tumblr and facebook
      are just there to be admired.
      they use their bodies as their personality, so to speak.

      I like sex as much as any man,
      but when it is done,
      will i be able to talk to you? will you hold me and tell me shit is gonna be okay?
      are you going to cheer me up by doing something stupid to get my attention?
      will you call me to let me know you were thinking about me?
      will you text me to tell me send a pic of what I’m doing right now?

      … and can i do that to my “wolf” without him not replying until later on that night,
      when he gets horny and wants to fuck?

      i feel like wolves have their own set of issues, as foxes do…

  16. anthony :
    No lie, I have had a “cyber crush” on Vain since I first came across his blog almost a year ago. Jamari also. First, I am drawn to both of you guys intellect and the fact that you have a thought process. But, based upon your experiences, your responses to certain topics and the impression on the type of wolves you are looking for/like(based upon photos and comments from your blogs), it seems you are looking for the wolf types that are uber-masculine, ballers, models, tatted up, executives,etc. Maybe your ‘fantasy likes’ have somewhat distorted the majority of us out here who do not fit into that category, your average every day hard working wolf. We don’t walk around glistening with baby oil, posting pics every second while mean mugging the camera.

    But my questions is ,would you give us ordinary, non baller, non model, not super tatted up, hard working everyday wolves a chance in real life?

    Chuuuuurrrcchhh! I like you!

    I’m sure they will say “yes, if he wants a committed relationship”, but you have to have the initial attraction first to even find that out.

    In an alternate universe if I was interested in dating, I probably wouldn’t even step to them like that if I knew who they were. I’m like Carlton Banks compared to the dudes posted on here. LMAO

  17. (now thinking I’m a Wolf)
    I’d LOVE to be this for someone
    But then again, I’m a Virgo
    So wanting to please is just like
    My Personality
    Anywho, Awwwww Jamari
    *warm hugs* <3 😉

  18. @Jamari…. Appreciate you and yes wolves have issues too, not denying that one bit. I am not about pointing fingers more than shedding a light on things and trying to figure out what it is.

    But, I do feel a certain way when I read about the ‘mis-adventures’ that some of you foxes are having trying to find the ONE. Us foxes are just answering some of your questions from our perspectives. There are a lot of similarities in the answers and some individual opinions.

    Sometimes when people become desperate, they also settle. Never settle, if we are steady looking for the ONE, we will run across more disappointments than possibles and success. If most people will just Chill, get to know ourselves more and our self worth, focus on becoming a complete person, then we will be ready for the right one when they come. So many people are thirsty because they can’t be by themselves long enough. If you don’t like being around you, how can you expect someone else to like being around you.(Not you particularly,lol, don’t come for me)

    Remember, What you think is what you become. Make friends with yourself and learn to enjoy your own company. Don’t depend on other people as the source of your happiness or for approval. We are not free until we no longer have anything to prove and we are not living to impress people. The last two sentences are quotes from Joyce Meyer.

  19. sorry meant to say us Wolves. This whole fox, wolf, hybrid, hyena always get me. I literally have a chart with descriptions that I have to pull out.LOL

  20. “Sometimes when people become desperate, they also settle. Never settle, if we are steady looking for the ONE, we will run across more disappointments than possibles and success. If most people will just Chill, get to know ourselves more and our self worth, focus on becoming a complete person, then we will be ready for the right one when they come. So many people are thirsty because they can’t be by themselves long enough. If you don’t like being around you, how can you expect someone else to like being around you.(Not you particularly,lol, don’t come for me)

    Remember, What you think is what you become. Make friends with yourself and learn to enjoy your own company. Don’t depend on other people as the source of your happiness or for approval. We are not free until we no longer have anything to prove and we are not living to impress people. The last two sentences are quotes from Joyce Meyer.”

    ^EXCELLENT!!!

  21. anthony :
    No lie, I have had a “cyber crush” on Vain since I first came across his blog almost a year ago. Jamari also. First, I am drawn to both of you guys intellect and the fact that you have a thought process. But, based upon your experiences, your responses to certain topics and the impression on the type of wolves you are looking for/like(based upon photos and comments from your blogs), it seems you are looking for the wolf types that are uber-masculine, ballers, models, tatted up, executives,etc. Maybe your ‘fantasy likes’ have somewhat distorted the majority of us out here who do not fit into that category, your average every day hard working wolf. We don’t walk around glistening with baby oil, posting pics every second while mean mugging the camera.

    But my questions is ,would you give us ordinary, non baller, non model, not super tatted up, hard working everyday wolves a chance in real life?

    First off, i am SUPER flattered to by anyone’s cyber crush. I honestly have no idea who reads my blog besides those who leave comments. I’m appreciative that someone actually pays attention to what i write.

    The pictures i post on my blog are purely eye candy. Yes most of them embody my ideal. Have these pictures distorted what my idea of what a real wolves look like? I don’t think so because they are of REAL people. These men EXIST. You don’t have to be gorgeous to catch my attention, i see fine men every single day. I have a type, although it isn’t very rigid or narrow, it exists. However, when it comes to the one who are approaching me, they don’t look anything like that. Not even remotely close. And its not even like these wolves are like slightly off… oh he’s not tell enough, not fit enough, not rich enough…. these are wolves I’m sure most of you wouldn’t even consider dating. They’re either like 242 pounds, or he looks like he could be your uncle, or he’s got more cunt than Victoria’s Secret.. OR ALL THREE.

    I believe i fit what many wolves are looking for physically (jay, agree or disagree?). Blah blah superficial… yada yada full of myself. But I think i do, and based on a lot of the feedback i get its reinforced. But is it wrong to want someone who I’m at least attracted to? Or do i have to sacrifice that part of myself in favor of everything else and learn to like someone I don’t really want to be intimate with? Because continuing to be with someone who does not make you feel fulfilled… is settling.

    You definitely don’t have to look like Devin Thomas to catch my attention. But at least give me SOMETHING. We can “Kumbayah” all day about loving ourselves and looking inward. But I’m not depending on a man to make me happy. I recognize all that good stuff about being in a good place mentally before i start dating. About self-esteem and self worth. THAT’S WONDERFUL. But I’m bringing looks and personality to the table. These things in my opinion are BARE MINIMUM. Is asking for you to do the same?

    To answer your question… “would you give us ordinary, non baller, non model, not super tatted up, hard working everyday wolves a chance in real life?” If you’re cute and looking for a relationship, YES! Yes, i will.

    1. well done vain…i have looked at ur blog too..did i miss something and somewhere u posted a pic of what u look like? or u just mean wolves u meet day to day?

  22. Well said Vain well said. Got a story for youll. When i was 21 i met this fine wolf online he was the package (from what he told me and the pics he sent me). He was 27 had a nice job, nice car, nice body nice dick and the man knew what a fox wanted to hear. Dude was smooth as hell with them words. So months go on we become so in love talking almost everyday and night watching movies via yahoo messenger lo just doing it. Then one day i found out hes not who he says he is. Thanks intellius. I find out he actually was 20 years older than what he told and didnt look like that fine ass man in that pic and he even lied about bottoming (really?).

    At the time this was my first relationship i had been in, yeah i had fucked before but i was in “love” now. I was green and the nigga got in my head and i actually SETTLED for this man. I sacrifieced myself and attempted to learn to like him. The relationship didnt get anywhere, we went in a full 360 about 3 or 4 times. My dumb ass went through so much unnecssary shit it was ridiculous. Point of the story dont settle you have every right to have a good wolf or fox and be careful who you chat with online theyll trick your ass in a heart beat and not just any trickery you got some who will stick they hand in the bottom of the hat and pull a rabbit out type trickery, no throw a white sheet over an elephant count three make that bitch disappear type trickery ok youll get it lmao

  23. wolfstyle :
    well done vain…i have looked at ur blog too..did i miss something and somewhere u posted a pic of what u look like? or u just mean wolves u meet day to day?

    Lol, no i havent posted a picture of what i look like. I just sent Jay one just so he could stop idealizing what he thought i looked like.

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