You can’t understand what it’s like for someone else until you’ve had to put on their shoes.
it’s easy to judge until we have been in the same situation as another.
some of us beez like:
“I see what Jamari was talking about now.”
“I see what Mo’Nique was talking about now.”
as tami roman in the bonnet chronicles would say:
“get into it.”
i didn’t understand mo’nique a few years ago when she was going off.
she had all the smoke for lee daniels,
and tyler perry.
they are three of the most powerful black folks in the industry.
“she should have played the game” is one thing i use to say.
“she is talking too much” was another.
it wasn’t until i had a similar experience a year later…
I was told to play the game in a stressful position at a black company.
keywords: black company.
i found those words so hurtful because i was busting my ass to get hired.
i was a temp to hire and was being manipulated and gaslit.
i’m complaining in a group chat with folks at the job i thought were friends.
my anxiety was through the roof and dropped so much weight.
don’t even GET me started on the abuse they were going through too.
The black people in power,
the ones I served every day while dealing with bullshit,
hung me out to dry.
None of them showed up at my huge going away.
One woman I had so much respect for told me i should have catered more.
with who I was pitching ideas to make the company better for the employees,
didn’t even reach out after I sent an email to him.
The same one who was supposed to help me with my career and finding a black therapist at the time.
I played the game by doing my job and guess what?
I got let go at 7 pm at night on a Thursday at a Bad Boys 3 event.
Will Smith and Martin Lawrence are in front of me,
but I can’t even enjoy it cause I was being fired.
that situation really messed me up.
the end result has me so weary of working in corporate again,
especially at a black company.
it really wasn’t fair and i didn’t deserve that shit at all.
i feel like we are always telling black people to “play the game”.
we shouldn’t speak about our hurts and stress for the “goal”.
it gives field niggas in a barn after a long day of picking cotton.
everyone is bidding to get in the house.
“get into it”.
we don’t tell black people in power to be and do better.
we don’t hold them accountable when they treat others unfairly.
we seem to turn the other cheek to those who terrorize others.
some black people can be your own worst enemy.
some of them in power can be worse than the white folks in power.
i’m not a black woman but i am still black with my own experience.
so i get why mo’nique was hurt in her experience.
all she wants to be is heard.
some black folks are satisfied with not stepping on toes.
some black folks are content with being someone’s bitch.
that’s perfectly fine.
it’s not our experience to judge until we have experienced it.
speaking up can help others find their voices too.
Sidebar: everyone telling you “play the game” but what’s the prize?
High blood pressure?
Getting to a level where you have to backstab and throw people under the bus?
Being lonely at the top with no one to trust?