i get a lot of “panic” foxmails from dl wolves/foxes/and hybrids.
the main question i get is:
and my family,
are asking why i don’t have a girlfriend.
i try to dodge the question,
but they still keep asking.
well have no fear,
jamari fox is here.
this is my solution to that pesky question…
animals are nosy.
if you are private,
expect them to want a trail up your tail.
family tends to be the worst offenders.
they feel because everyone shares the same blood,
they are entitled to knowing the flavor to everyone’s koolaid.
once you don’t share your business,
it causes a chain reaction of gossip for the next gathering.
most of us are also nosy.
we low-key want to know whats going on with the animals around us.
not quite celebrities
i have no shame in my nosiness.
if i didn’t,
the foxhole would be boring as fuck.
so when folks want to know our business,
i just look at it as part of the process.
the ying to the yang.
the “what goes around has to come around”.
the thing is…
you DON’T have to reveal everything about you
i think its safe to say everyone knows i have a smart ass mouth.
i’m also a very private fox.
mystery is still alluring and sexy.
some questions i’ll answer.
others will get “the deflect”.
you have 5 seconds to deflect a question.
once you start doing this:
…and it usually doesn’t mean “i love you”.
it means “i’m guilty of whatever you’re accusing me of in your head”.
so the best answer is usually “the beyonce”.
show all teeth,
shake your head,
and give no answer.
if you feel like you have to answer then:
“i just haven’t found anyone.”
“i’m dating a few people,
but no one stands out.”
or my favorites:
“why are you so interested?
you got somebody for me?”
“you are so damn nosy.
i don’t ask about your relationships.”
the last two usually throw folks off.
now you can go get a beard for “outings”,
but then it will prompt other questions:
“when will you marry her?!”
“are you guys thinking of cubs?!”
“do you guys see yourselves moving in together?!”
…and that just creates more lies that will tangle you up in the future.
you know black folks,
so when confronted with the nosy,
give them a bold response to throw them off
its all in how you handle your deflect.
you are your own publicist.
start learning to be a master at being elusive.
low-key: if you are an open book,
like your instagram tells your life story,
then its kinda hard to deflect anything.
people will wonder why you are so private all of a sudden.
for that life,
bold responses and actions are usually better.
your job is to create “drama” anyway.
give people something to talk about.