I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now and wanted to vent (and ask for your opinion) since I don’t really have any gay friends and I consider you a friend in my head (as Wendy Williams would say.)
I go to the gym in downtown New York during the week and usually go in the sauna after my workouts. As you may or may not know, it usually gets sexual once the straights walk out. I usually go to the gym by my job but the last two days I have tried one in a different neighborhood. Yesterday I had a good experience, but today when I went it was my first time having a negative experience.
This new location had both a steam room and a sauna. I walked into the steam room and there were about 7-8 fit white men. Usually, I am used to seeing a diverse crowd, but I sat down like I usually would. Within less then 5 minutes all the white men walked out. So, I stayed in the steam room for about 10 minutes and decided to see what the energy was like in the sauna. There were like 4 new (white faces) and like 5 of the 7 men that were in the first room. Again within 5 minutes the majority of the men left and based on the direction they all went back into the steam room. I then saw a black guy go into the room with all of the white men and they walked out. When the black guy came into the room I was in, the white guys walked back into the empty room. There was 1 overweight white guy who came into the room me and the other black guy was in, and once any fit white guy looked into our room they wouldn’t come in.
Part of me felt it was racist, but another part felt like it was also because I don’t have a perfect body (I have an average body – flat stomach but no six pack). Regardless of the reason, this experience felt super catty, racist, and just inhumane. I understand everyone isn’t going to be attracted to you, but it felt very “you can’t sit with us.” I have had guys I wasn’t attracted to hit on me in the saunas before, but I still treat them with decency. I’ve heard stories about how white gays can be, but this was my first real experience with them in a group. I try to not stereotype groups, but this has really made me not want to deal with them in the future.
Do you think I am overreacting to this situation? What has your experience with white gays or gays in general been like?
P.S – This has motivated me even more to get the body I aspire to, and once I get there to remain humble.
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i’m glad to see one hit my desk.
thank you for reaching out reader.
glad to assist.
my experience with white gays have been two of the following (stereo)types:
1) The Vanilla Shenehneh
2) The Curious and Delirious Chad
so the first type were super twinks who wore “black girl drag“.
they could neck-roll with the best of them and had a supreme hunger for bbc.
the second type is like all the curious black wolves i seem to attract.
unlike the scared black wolves that secretly jack off to me every night,
the white ones were bolder in trying to get to know me.
i did appreciate that aspect.
they went too hard in trying to appeal to me with “black culture” and i got turned off.
most of the time,
we are only used to satisfy a fetish or appeal to our egos with our music and culture.
Sidebar: I’ve never dealt with a white wolf in a romantic or sexual way,
but I had sex with a biracial wolf before.
He was more connected with his black side than his white one tho.
His dick was like a 7″,
couldn’t feel it in me,
and the stroke resume was pretty awful.
He grinded in me with my legs on his shoulders and a fetish of me squeezing his ass so he could nut.
One and done.
your situation sounds like typical white gay males who were looking for the same.
it sounds like it was a real-time grindr or scruff profile.
a majority of white gay males only looking to fuck each other with a user bio:
…like this was the gay jim crow era.
now i could be wrong but by your account,
their actions seemed sus.
even i would have been like “wtf?“.
even tho this is new yawk,
racism is still alive and well even if it’s a melting pot and protesting blm.
i wouldn’t take it personally even though i’m sure it stung.
you might have wanted to get in on that action,
but this is just the real forests we live in.
including white gays,
will like us.
they might have wanted a group sesh with their mirror images.
the scene might have played differently if it was a one v one situation.
i wouldn’t dwell on it too much.
continue to work on your bawdy to look like the bbc drilling machine they tend to love.
i mean one that even the foxholers love so much.
we do love a sexy-looking drilling machine.
always stay woke reader,
but don’t let that experience make you jaded from future connections.
i hope that helped!
let’s see what the foxhole has to font about it…