Hey Jamari, I first off want to say I looooooove your blog! its super inspirational and very realistic. Your blog gets me through a lot and I thank you so much for staying strong through time times. Your part of the reason why I look at life differently (in a positive way). I will definitely follow you on any adventure in life you decide to endure on. Now what I wanted to know is…
Why the concrete jungle?
why not another state?
Meet new people, new environment, wolves, etc.
The reason I’m asking is because I am a born and raised NY native. I feel I need a change. I left my job because I didn’t have a passion for it and I was very well ok I have a job no need to look for another. Im 25 and why people think I should be in Fashion I don’t see myself styling or designing anything lol and its a very competitive business as well as one of the most sought out careers nowadays. I would do fashion but the business part of it. At times I just feel down on where to start and then theres my social life Lol. What bae? and What friends? lol I know people from all over come to NY for a fresh start, am I not realizing the “Greats” in this city? I am a big believer in “Not leaving something great to find better but end up with worst”.
Any advice for a standstill fox? loll
you know what’s funny?
as someone who also grew up in new yawk,
it isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be.
it burns my biscuits when people who don’t live here try to tell me otherwise.
for someone who is visiting or from the outside looking in,
new yawk is magical.
it’s the city that never sleeps.
where else can you go into a town with bright ass billboards at 4am?
something is always happening.
we also have some of the finest wolves to walk the earth.
the way they talk to you.
look at you.
new yawk is a melting pot of diversity and entertainment.
everyday feels like you are on a movie set.
and there is a huge but,
new yawk is also one of the toughest places to live if you have no connects.
it’s also worst when you have no money.
i’m sure you know what i’m talking about.
growing up in new yawk,
we can smell a scheme a mile away.
we learned just how grimey the streets are.
that is what “gossip girl”,
“the cosby show”,
and “sex in the city” won’t tell you.
they won’t tell you how expensive new yawk is.
it cost 2.50 just to get on the train.
when they got rid of that “all day fun pass” years ago,
i nearly screamed.
they won’t tell you how new york niggas are full of shit.
how you will definitely get good sex,
but won’t always get a good wolf.
they won’t tell you how fake people are here.
they try to disguise it with “being real”.
being real… fake.
how you think you met a friend only to have a future enemy.
that is the side they choose to edit out.
i can tell you that new yawk is built on connections.
you could have a degree in “ruling worldism”,
but if you don’t know the people to do it,
you will be pretty much on the bottom.
these snow bunnies kill me.
they will go buy the latest purse or louboutins just so they can social climb.
i see it every day at work.
why are you living in the village,
living with ten roommates just so you can say you live in the city?
you know how many foxes ive seen come and go?
ones from down south especially.
i love them because they come here so excited.
they move here,
get caught up in the bright lights and easy sex,
and lose themselves along the way.
fallin for hustlin’ niggas who can literally smell “new meat”.
then they are back to their home state,
overfucked and out of money.
that is my city reader.
you grew up in a great city.
one that teaches you so much.
i won’t lie and say that it isn’t a difficult city.
you can leave and go anywhere else,
but you will always miss home.
new yawk has a way of making you realize how great it is once you leave.
we are spoiled here.
when i left for florida,
it helped me clear my mind.
i ended up getting a good job when i got back,
but the constant worry of not living my dreams makes me cringe.
so like i tell people who want to give new yawk a try:
FIND YOUR PASSION
what makes you happy?
what will fulfill you?
what makes you feel alive?
what would you want to be doing 5 years from now?
once you find that,
you will start finding your way into your career.
sure you need a job to pay your bills,
but you have to multi task to truly make it.
as tired as i am,
i still come home and get to writing in the foxhole.
that is the life of a career driven new yawker.
when you start meeting the person who does “pr for vogue”,
or “mariah carey’s stylist”,
then you put them to good use.
some of them tend to act “high and mighty”,
they can also sniff out who is real and fake.
be your true self with people.
being friends just to “get something” is a bad decision here.
they know people who know people.
whatever career you want,
someone has the vip pass to get you in.
even if you work as the mailboy at gucci corporate office,
you now have a “title”.
god forbid you have a job/career that gives you discounts/free products.
a title that can be your opening as you hand our your business card.
people here are superficial and love a title.
this is why so many hustlers get far.
how these wolves out here get a lot of pussy?
they have random titles,
or dress that part,
and half the time it don’t mean nothing.
the silly superficial people get blinded by it.
so once you have “something someone wants”,
or your talent is extraordinary,
use it to your advantage and watch your career take off.
this is what ive started doing.
people will be eating out the palm of your hand.
be ready your passion,
be prepared to budget and stack your bread,
be choosy where you show your face,
be choose who you fuck,
be open to meeting new people,
and for the love of god: be silent about your business.
the underlined is the first sign of failure.
don’t tell everyone everything.
just what you need them to know.
you’ll make it tho.
it takes a minute,
but you’ll get it together.
it’s only the new yawk way.