Love the site man! Been coming here more often for the past year or so and I can tell you that the more that I come here the more addicted I get to the site. lol!
But to the point in why I am writing you this email, I wanted to know if you have ever done an article about “being led-on” by someone who showed interest in you first and you resisted knowing that it would lead to a road of nothing. But then the tables turn and you end up the one chasing back and they switch and claim that you are “crazy” “obsessed” “clingy” or even “thirsty” smh.
I can admit it got to the point into where I would literally check all of his social media sites (FB, Twitter, IG) to make sure that when he said he was “busy” that he wasnt lying to me when he wouldn’t answer my text or to see that he wasn’t with someone else.
He used to come to me with all of his problems about things that happened at work and how I made him feel like he could just be himself with me and that made me feel so special knowing that I made him feel that way. We would talk damn near everyday for hours and hours, getting to know each other and shared some very personal things about our lives and had nicknames for each other and claimed that if we lived closer that we would be together.
As embarrassing as it sounds, I literally did end up going crazy over this guy because he swept me off my feet with the “pillow talk” and sweet things and words he would do and say for me and made me feel like no other. He made me feel like I was the only “guy” in the world but come to find out, he makes all of his “bait” feel that way.
I just feel so dumb and stupid to the fact that I let myself fall into the trap of what I thought to be love only to find out that he was really running game on me. smh.
I have had guys trying to talk to me and some even claim that they like me or have crushes on me but for some reason being “chased and rejected” by this guy has me all fucked up and I really don’t feel like getting to know anyone at all. *sighs*
well thank ya thank ya!
i really appreciate the love and support.
kanye said it best,
“no one man should have all that power”.
of course he was talking about his egotism,
but power is a powerful thing in the dating world.
it’s also used quite frequently.
vixens use their pussy as a form of power.
between two men tho,
it can be a form of control.
it comes in many ways,
but someone usually either falls from grace or rules together.
you always want the latter.
so you met someone,
it started out with you on top with all the power.
you already had in your mind that it would go nowhere.
you thought it would be “whatever” so you invested #nofucks into it.
you just went along with it in hopes he proved himself.
that’s the problem:
he proved himself.
anyone who wants to change someone’s mind about them lays on the charm.
(lowkey: we did it with our parents when we wanted something.
they had the money or whatever we wanted,
but we learned to use charm to get the power.
when we figure out how our parents operate,
we know what weapons to use to get our way.)
so it goes from being someone you barely speak to,
to someone who now hits you up everyday.
the conversations go from basic to bountiful.
you start to learn his strengths and weaknesses.
he likes eggs for breakfast,
he hates r&b,
and his favorite memory was him losing his virginity to his science teacher.
you learn about how his ex hurt him,
how he is scared to get hurt again,
and why he is taking it slow to find someone.
he isn’t as bad as you thought he was.
this definitely could have potential.
funny that wall you had up starts to lower.
brick by brick.
suddenly there is no wall anymore.
it’s just you.
how the tables turn?
now you are booty butt naked emotionally wide open on the playing field.
you telling him your whole life story now that he infected that ass.
he realized somewhere along the line that you weren’t what he thought.
he liked the attention you gave him,
the fact you were open to him,
but maybe you aren’t the one he thought you were.
the problem ultimately is the power shifted.
some people actually get off to the chase.
if it was that easy to get you open,
then it’s probably easier to hit it ‘n’ quit it as well.
let this be a lesson.
don’t beat yourself up or become bitter.
only idiots do that.
everything that happens in your life is a lesson.
one that you can apply to the next situation.
next time you meet someone,
be open until you see they aren’t your type.
be as open as they are.
that way the power is balanced between you both.
that is how you both rule.
if they hit you up,
make it some good talk too.
learn something about ya’ll asses when you do talk.
what do you have in common?
what do you hate?
what makes you mad?
share war stories about your exes.
share the good times as well.
hope that helped and please keep your chin up.
it happens to the best of us.