f0xmail: He Got Ashy Elbows! Help!

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Hey Jamari!

A question for the mail bag. How do I tell my “work boo” who is very dark skinned to put lotion on his elbowswithout sounding offensive or gay? We are 2 of the 3 only black men in our department. Honestly he’s too fine to be walking around with ashy ass elbows. 👊🏾 LOL

Thanks !!!

MY ANSWER…

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….seriously?
i would just tell him.
gay or not gay.
whatever.
its like telling someone they breath stink.you say it,
with the mints/gum in hand,
and ask them if they want any.
if they deny,
say:

“nah you should take some.”

its the same procedure with lotion for something ashy.

see i’m not going to play the “not trying to offend” game.
with work wolf and i,
i would tell him if something was “off”.
he liked it.
i even told him things when he was “on”.
i complimented his body and even touched him.
i even told him he was losing his big tail as he worked out.
i was a little nervous since that was all the way left,
but he responded:

“is that a bad thing?
you’re the only person who tells me about my body.
i appreciate it.”

giphyso ask your own work wolf if he needs some lotion,
in a joking way,
and try to break the ice that way.
don’t be rude about it.
hell he’ll probably appreciate your honesty.
if not,
he can walk around with his ashy situation.
hope that helped!

love,
jamari fox

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

7 thoughts on “f0xmail: He Got Ashy Elbows! Help!

  1. I’m bawling out here at work 😭😭😭

    This advice works just be upgiront in a joking way like J said and offer up some of your to him .

    1. ^i laughed so loud when i read it…

      i’m glad the reader wants to know how to be polite.
      some people don’t even give a fuck and let their “friends” walk around lookin/smellin crazy!

  2. Me and my bros always tell each other we’re ashy or need some chapstick because our lips are dry & cracking. If I was on real good speaking terms with this wolf, I’d tell him in a playful way he’s ashy.

  3. The ladies at my job keep me on point. They will tell me something is wrong in a minute. One day I was walking around with my fly down…and they kindly pointed it out. Meanwhile I’d passed several people before getting to the office…and no one said a word. I mean, come on!

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