you’re (not) going down

yesterday,
i went to a cookout with pose and her squad.
pose has been trying to get this fox down to bk for a hot minute.
i’ve been feeling pretty good lately,
and in wanting to do more this summer,
so i made my way down there.
i had an amazing time,
even tho ima need mike woods of “fox 5” to get his weather forecast in order.

during my time with them,
an interesting convo perked my ears up.
one of the vixens was interested in messing with a stud.
her only stipulation:

“If Ima mess with a female,
I don’t want to go down on her.
Do I have to?”

“You don’t have to go down on her.
She’s a pleaser…”

that right there,
i found very interesting

one:
i admired how vixens speak about their sexual experiences with the same sex.
with them,
there are no hang-ups about being curious.
in this life that the foxhole lives in,
males have to literally be put under oath to see if they’re curious about you.
they’ll deny,
play “hot and cold” games,
until they feel comfortable enough to give the legendary:

“Eye contact/Head nod” combo

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two:
why does it feel like it’d be a personal insult if a male had that similar conversation?
i loved they didn’t pressure her to do something to:

1) in hopes of being accepted by another
2) do something they weren’t comfortable doing

if a male said he doesn’t like/have no interest in topping/bottoming,
or he doesn’t like giving head,
it’s like some get so insulted.
like,
why is his bawdy your problem?
personally,
i don’t…

…like males going down on me
…want to clap any other male’s cheeks

that could change in the future,
but i didn’t really like it.
.i’m sure that leads my dating life down to a small selection.
i could be wrong,
but most vixens are free to make the rules within their own “gay” spaces.
is it because…

They can dip in and out of experimenting without any blowback?

i think all males should do what makes them feel comfortable.
many like to bully others into being what “gay society” feels they should be/do.
i’ve made a rule for myself these last few months:

If it doesn’t align with my energy or comfort level,
and it makes me feel insecure,
it’s going into auto-banishment with monthly renewal.

…is that wrong?

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

9 thoughts on “you’re (not) going down

  1. Lord I have so many questions but I will start with 1 is that for dick and ass when it goes for oral on you!

  2. Men are extremely sensitive for their own good, especially when it comes to trying new things. You know society sets the bar pretty high when it comes to what a man should be and how he should conduct himself, and it is no different with gay men. At this point, it is just exhausting. I want my partner to be comfortable to experiment in whatever, but I will not force him to, and I definitely will not get upset if he does not want to do something.

    S/N: That meteorologist is fine.

    1. ^unless someone is fuckin animals or children,
      i don’t really have much judgment for other male’s sexual preferences.
      do what makes you feel comfortable.
      you have to live with yourself after.

  3. Jamari, he’s single. “With such private personal life, the rumors of him being gay spread like a bonfire all over answers.com, and thus received further mileage when he was spotted in the NYC gay bars.”

    1. Well thanks for that tea! I definitely want him in my next forecast.

      I need a freaky guy so unless he gives me everything else I need then yeah no prudes allowed.

    2. Mike Woods is gay and dates white guys. I’ve seen him more than once in Hell’s Kitchen with white dudes.

  4. Yes and no. Some of them like to dip and keep on dipping back and forth and will continue to do so if you let them. Personally, if a dude wanted to experiment with me, I wouldn’t be interested. I guess that MIGHT depend…but in general…I don’t have time to dip my toes in the tub. I like to soak in the jacuzzi. That’s probably one of my “negative” traits when it comes to dudes.

    Men and women are on two different levels. Men are driven by sex most of the time. Most nikkas just want to get a nut. They also have a habit of pressuring females to do awkward shit they but don’t like doing but when she can’t deliver (pegging or head) they slide on over to the male side and want a binky.

    It’s not society’s fault, it’s the men’s fault for holding themeselves in line with society’s standards. They have a habit of getting fussy with a woman that wont give him head or lick his ass. Most dudes probably don’t even know how to clean their ass properly. Majority of them dont even wipe their ass properly.

    Can you blame a woman for not wanting to do something like that? However, gay men on the other hand….🙄

    Throw the word straight in front of something and they salivate like Niagara falls.

    However, at the end of the day, it’s up to that person what goes on. I’m upfront right off the bat. Gimmie the dick, suck ma dik..eat my ass…blah..blah..

    I’ve ran into Tops(do these still exist?) that don’t like their ass ate…which if you don’t like it, understandable, but not wanting to do it because you carry that title is ridiculous. All the title says is that you slang dick but not up for taking it. My bf Top and I will readily eat his ass (clean). I love to please ma man.

    Whatever floats everyone’s boat tho. Do you in 2019 I guess. It will be more silliness in 2020.

  5. I respect everyone and what they will and won’t do with sex BUT it doesn’t mean i have to understand it or accept it if certain restrictions come my way. For me oral is very important and i love to give and receive. If a guy I was talking to didn’t do either one or both, then I wouldn’t be able to be with him but i would respect him for being honest with me. As long as no one is being forced to do anything against their will, then there will be peace in the world. So I hope.

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