i went to a cookout with pose and her squad.
pose has been trying to get this fox down to bk for a hot minute.
i’ve been feeling pretty good lately,
and in wanting to do more this summer,
so i made my way down there.
i had an amazing time,
even tho ima need mike woods of “fox 5” to get his weather forecast in order.
during my time with them,
an interesting convo perked my ears up.
one of the vixens was interested in messing with a stud.
her only stipulation:
“If Ima mess with a female,
I don’t want to go down on her.
Do I have to?”
“You don’t have to go down on her.
She’s a pleaser…”
that right there,
i found very interesting…
i admired how vixens speak about their sexual experiences with the same sex.
there are no hang-ups about being curious.
in this life that the foxhole lives in,
males have to literally be put under oath to see if they’re curious about you.
play “hot and cold” games,
until they feel comfortable enough to give the legendary:
“Eye contact/Head nod” combo
why does it feel like it’d be a personal insult if a male had that similar conversation?
i loved they didn’t pressure her to do something to:
1) in hopes of being accepted by another
2) do something they weren’t comfortable doing
if a male said he doesn’t like/have no interest in topping/bottoming,
or he doesn’t like giving head,
it’s like some get so insulted.
why is his bawdy your problem?
…like males going down on me
…want to clap any other male’s cheeks
that could change in the future,
but i didn’t really like it.
.i’m sure that leads my dating life down to a small selection.
i could be wrong,
but most vixens are free to make the rules within their own “gay” spaces.
is it because…
They can dip in and out of experimenting without any blowback?
i think all males should do what makes them feel comfortable.
many like to bully others into being what “gay society” feels they should be/do.
i’ve made a rule for myself these last few months:
If it doesn’t align with my energy or comfort level,
and it makes me feel insecure,
it’s going into auto-banishment with monthly renewal.
…is that wrong?