I like Wolves with an edge.
Ok let me cut the shit, I like Wolves who are fine.
Yeah a Fox wants to cum off the sight of you.
Maybe that is my downfall?
I know this sounds typical, but I do not like Wolves that look like I can break them in half.
Physically, mentally, and emotionally.
I tend to be attracted to what deems to be the “man’s man” (as with every Fox)
… and unfortunately, I have turned down so many damn Foxes, fems, and Nice Wolves.
I don’t get it.
A masculine Wolf of my dreams seems to be intimidated by the Fox that is me.
YET, I can seduce a queen, A Fox, a Vixen… or a nice Wolf I am not attracted too in 2.5 seconds.
I had to ask myself this morning:
Is it me?
The dating world in this “wonderful” lifestyle is confusing.
When you finally put yourself out there and lock onto the Wolf of your dreams,
you basically have to stand in line for his judgement.
Since he is the top pickings,
and a Fox like me likes nothing but the best,
he would rather pick everything he DIDN’T want to someone that possesses the qualities he DID want.
Which makes me think something is mentally wrong with Wolves today…
So last night, my lesbain friend wanted to introduce me to someone she THOUGHT I would be interested in.
I was never down to NOT meeting a Wolf, but I knew that people just cannot seem to get what I like right.
I tell em I like muscles, they bring me a bag of bones.
I tell them I like swag, they bring me dust bunny.
I tell em I want handsome, they bring me something from the swamps of hell.
Maybe I need to pass out comp cards on what I like?
Anyway, we met after work and she briefs me on what the dude was like.
“what does he look like?” – me
“he is really cute. you will like him!” – her
that means, “JAMARI RUN MUTHAFUCKA RUN!!”
So I knew all of this, but still went through with it.
I figured that still go ahead.
THAT WOLF WAS NOT EVEN CLOSE TO BEING MY TYPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
On a scale of 1 – 10, he was a 2.5.
DUSTY.
BROKE.
AND UGLY…
…BUT NICE.
He was extremely nice actually.
I could already see signs of clingy in his forecast though.
He was already asking who was texting me?
Um…
Underneath all of the “nos” probably laid a Wolf who could be perfect.
I mean after a new wardrobe, Pro-activ, some weights, and a job NOT as a cashier at McDonalds.
So physically, the attraction was not there.
At least if I was physically attracted to him, we could build (although he was a cashier, what could he really do for me?)
I asked him if he had goals for himself and he basically had a “?” over his head.
Yeah so he just was not the “it” for me.
Just because he was a sweet nice Wolf doesn’t mean he was the Wolf for me.
Of course, I was perfect to him and was in my shoes as I once was to Wolves I want.
SIGH.
Why does God have such a odd sense of humor?
So I had to ask…
Has anyone ever had to reject someone that was a perfect NO?
How ironic we spoke about this yesterday.
True. But you should value yourself more than that.
Your behavior shouldn’t be tailored towards what a wolf does and doesn’t want.
Ideally, of course. All of that stuff is great about self worth and value and so on and so forth. But then reality sets in and you realize after the 50th guy who’s stopped interacting with you because you take yourself seriously, you begin to wonder if you’re doing it wrong. If in order to have the interaction, let alone a relationship, with a guy you may like you have to cater to his want. I’m going to continue to say this but if there were a plethora of men out there who see someone who takes themselves seriously and wants to get to know them on a deeper level, behavior like the one you experienced with said fox would not be so prevalent. Using sex as a currency in exchange for some attention and human contact of the wolf kind works… just not for very long.
How long were you letting him give you head before you stopped allowing him to?
Interesting…
^very…
^i totally agree…
and my job as Fox in Charge is to make sure my Foxes GET the full Wolf benefit package.
We have to put in too much work just to get one to then not be taken seriously.
i’ll be damned.
Like most everyone has said, I have to feel an attraction to you – physical & mental. If it’s just physical, we could be F-buddies (possibly). I need both to consider a relationship with you. It doesn’t mean we have to have sex immediately, just that I’d want to do you.
There was one dude, like MS, that was good for me in every area except physical. I wasn’t attracted to dude & I tried to talk myself into it. My ego loved the attention, but I knew it wouldn’t work…so I’ve had to ease contact. Idk if I ever told him the real reason why, though; it’s hard for me to tell someone I don’t think you’re attractive
Some how some way I woke up and found myself pretty serious with someone that was perfect in every way except in one area….I wasnt physically attracted to dude. I really tried my hardest and even thought of others when trying to be intimate ( i know thats horrible) but the fire wasnt there. I eventually told him and he even suggested we go talk to someone about the issue, but eventually he realized I just wasnt that into him on a sexual level and basically cut all communication with me.
It makes me wonder will I ever meet someone that is perfect AND Im attracted to? Seems like you always have to compromise on something just what are you willing to compromise. For me, I have to be attracted to you #1, if im not Im def gonna wanna cheat. Is it bad I rather choose a sexy cashier over a non attractive very successful dude?
^sounds like convo for next entry.
You made some excellent points I thought about today.
He didn’t. He wanted it to be more than it was and at the time, I didn’t want that.
A simple yes or no.
Telling me you want to suck my dick because you just want me around makes me feel like you don’t value yourself. Suck my dick because you want to or because you give the best dome. Not because you just want my company.
I see. I can sympathize with where the fox was coming from. Sometimes it seems like that’s the only way to get a wolf to wanna be around you. If you’re not on something sexual he’s not really trying to spend time together.
Not at all.
I want him to find someone who would appreciate what he has to offer.
I wasn’t that guy, but that doesn’t mean there’s not someone out here that wouldn’t.
I’m a hybrid.
So I understood where he was coming from with everything. I’m an alpha male, so even with me not being like him, I understood how he felt wanting a dominant man around him.
I don’t think he’s realized that yet. I’m really not even sure he learned anything from the situation.
It sounds as though he really did not know himself, or what role he played in the relationship, if you will.
Who pretends though? Lol
I have more respect for someone who admit looks do play the most pivotal role in who they like, than someone who harps on personality but dates muscle queens that have the personality of rocks.
The only thing I have a problem with is 5’s and 6’s looking for 10’s thinking arrogance is going to make up the difference. You should be/possess what you’re seeking to attract.
You didn’t answer my question though. What would you have preferred his response to have been? Something along the lines of…. what?
I did.
Told him I felt he was insecure and was a pretty negative person and that he should want better for himself. I’m relatively good with words, so I said it all in a way that wouldn’t hurt his feelings. I still keep up with him. Try to give him words of encouragement every once in awhile, but not much has changed.
^wow.
see I think that is different for a Wolf than it is for us.
Foxes tend to submit into depths of low self esteem when it comes to Wolves that they deem attractive.
Poor boy felt by using sex that he could keep you interested.
He needs to work on that.
I am impressed you didn’t give up on him.
But he really needs to realize that he cannot use sex as a bargaining tool.
That is very kind of you to keep in touch and offer encouragement. Curious, though, are you still receiving head on the side? If so, is this an incentive to keep in touch?
^did you talk to him about it?
Yeah. Was dealing with this fox (well I guess hybrid, but fox for me) who basically was a really nice guy. Fat ass, fatter lips. But for me, that’s where it stopped. He had too many negative qualities. Insecure, clingy, no goals, and would be down to suck my dick anytime he even thought I would let him.
I started feeling bad about him even being around. I remember one time he asked to see me. Wanting to see where his head was I asked him, “You gonna suck my dick?” He said “Whatever you want. Just as long as you’re around.”
-____- I was turned all the way off.
^sadly, a lot of the cubs think like this.
Now on the real Random: did you let him?
Nah. My conscience > my dick.
What would have preferred his response to have been?
I didn’t really have a problem with him sucking my dick. There are few things in life that I like better than good head. But sucking my dick just to be around me? That rubbed me the wrong way.
Yes, I do.
Unfortunately I was brought up to have manners, and it gets really, REALLY tedious if you have to do this with someone who really has none whatsoever.
I reject boys all the time. Sometimes directly “no, you’re not my type” to indirectly where I wont entertain their glances and won’t be sucked into conversation. I’m ALWAYS nice about it because i recognize how hard it is to approach.
I’d never reject someone who looks like the first picture because he was “too nice.” Fysh do that and then complain that they can’t find a man who treats them right. I will say physical attraction is probably as important as personality for me. I’ve tried giving guys i wasn’t attracted to a chance and i couldn’t transition into that place where their good qualities suddenly turn them from average joe to fine as hell. I think that’s a fysh thing too. Their attraction is often like a crock pot that warms up slowly where as ours is more like a microwave and we know instantly if we’re attracted or not. I’d give an attractive guy with an average personality more of a chance than an unattractive one who made me laugh was interesting. Sad, but honest.
^The last 2 sentences I agree with HEAVY.
We pretend like personality is what’s most important but that isn’t necessarily true. The libido does the picking.
Amen Bro, life is too short to spend it on an unattractive dude no matter how good. I tried to talk to a nice dude who had a lot going on but fell way short in the looks and body dept. I said to myself that Im too shallow and should give him a chance but I just couldnt get past the tacky fashions, the swole lumpy body and the not so cute face. My friends all said give it a chance because they know I have been dog in the past, but at the end of the day men are visual creatures gay or str8 and want someone who looks good. Maybe after years together its a different story but from jump you are gonna have to look some kind of way to get my attention and fat and nice is not the business.
Right! And at least you can say you tried…
Yeah, I’ve rejected & been rejected. It’s gonna happen, I just feel that you don’t have to be mean or an azzhole about turning someone down. At least initially. Now if people are rude & just don’t get the message, then you might have to put foot to azz, but generally nawl.
Nope that hasn’t happend to me, but it probably will eventually. He was clearly not on your level, you deserved better than him. Yeah he was nice, but you need someone who is handsome and can take care of themselves financially. Who and the hell would introduce someone to a person who worked at McDonalds. SMH.
^thanks Man!
She told me today she wanted to TRY and hook me up since she knew I was looking and would take a chance…. although she kinda knew I would say no.
She also wanted me to give him some tough love.
She knows that I am honest and give it straight up no chaser.
I was nice about it…
…still not happening though.
Yes I had to reject a wolf who was not up to par. He was over weight which is weird caus unlike my wolves with a lil meat on um. Not defensive lineman or tight end but lazy couch potato fat. I can’t lie we had some things in common we both were big comic book nerds. But he didn’t have a job or a car and he was broke and he smoked all day long. Ovecourse we smoked after and I can say we had great conversation and that was one plus in his book but at the end I had to say duces. It made me think am i to superficial? Then he text me and asked for $5 and I was like no and deleted his number
^WHAT??????????????????
texted you for 5 dollars?
he would have it if it wasn’t going up in smoke all day.
Right I was like are you serious!! And like I said smoking every now and then is ok but I knew he was looking for weed money. Smh maybe if I move I can find mr right