we don’t realize other people are going through their own shit too.
i am so in my head about this housing shit,
i was brought back down to earth really quick.
now this doesn’t mean my issue isn’t stressful,
but when i talk/font to others,
i’ve been shown they are stressed TF out too.
one of my home vixens got to chatting last week.
i told her shit has been rough without going into too much detail.
so she responded that she….

…has been affected financially since the government went on shut down.

she is one of the many federal workers who have been furloughed.
we are heading into day 13 since the government went on shut down.
i saw an article of the recent and alarming amount of people at food banks.

it has really been fuckin’ with her mental health.

no sense in both of us throwing a pity party.
it felt like she needed someone to lean on in that moment.

sidebar: one thing about people i’ve been peeping that they don’t know how to just be there.
they dunno how to shut TF up and just be there.
not talking about their ain’t shit partner for the 1,000th time or not reading the room.
we all like talking and fonting about ourselves,
and that is fine,
but are we asking others to talk and font about themselves too?
i’m learning many people are legit self absorbed.

i had to make 2 people aware they are self absorbed recently.
they aren’t speaking to me now and they don’t need to speak to me.
c-ya!

when we get out of our heads or lower the self absorption to about a 2…

it helps us realize that many of us are carrying burdens.
even those who we think are living good got something going on.

…and just being there to listen,
be a shoulder,
or be fiercely protective can help.

lowkey: one of my friends told me last week that every time we talk,
and she is dealing with mega shit as i am,
she often leaves me feeling inspired.
that made me happy to hear that i’m not a self-absorbed he-bitch.