one thing social media relationships,
and even regula degula,
have taught me is:
The little birds are watching every move from the trees.
in this case,
my little foxes are always watching.
yesterday,
i was minding my black ass business when i got a drop.
it was about steven beck and his husband,
1stkingdavid.
judging from what i was sent,
i think we may need to add “ex” in-front of husband because…
and it even led me to an IG that has been deactivated:
i guess steven opened the relationship but didn’t fill in his husband.
all jokes aside,
this is unfortunate but not surprising if true.
how many social-ships and marriages,
and even the regula degulas,
has The Foxhole covered that ended in doom?
relationships and marriages are filled with ups and downs.
this hallmark card shit is one piece to a whole pie.
when kids get involved?
other people’s situations are cute during the honeymoon phase.
they always look good on paper but end up being trash.
up next:
the birds,
foxes,
lions,
tigers,
and bears are foaming at the mouth watching this one.
to me,
it comes off like a designer relationship.
absolutely beautiful on paper…
…but we know it’s expensive to appear this perfect bts.
if the straights in their relationships/marriages get judged,
the gays certainly aren’t exempt but i had to remember something:
When people thought something was off in all of those past marriages/relationships,
they were never wrong when the break ups or divorces happened.
it wasn’t hating.
it was good discernment and common sense.
lowkey: a little F-BI hinted that steven and kellon deryck were more than friends.
kellon has since broken up with who he is was with.
i don’t know how true that is but it would not be shocking…
and kinda hot.
It’s probably best to limit what you share of your relationship on social media. A few pics, etc., is fine, but it almost always seems now when folks start playing up how great things are it sets off a negative tripwire. We need Black gay representation and I root for all of Black gay men to find the person who’s right for them, especially another brotha. But I wish people would think a little more about how social media demands a constant show that can take its toll. Life is hard enough as it is without adding an extra, warping script to the mix.
Confession:when alot of these gay men are quick to run to social media to show how happy they are in their relationship and these picture perfect staged moments, I’m m just like, will yall sit down somewhere. Like come back and profess ya love for each other after 10 to 15 to 20 years. Let’s see if you still have that same energy.
It always gave sponsor. Steven’s gym flopped. Then his onlyfans flopped. All of a sudden he moves to atl and marries a whole physicians out the blue. I don’t think this was ever a relationship based on true love. I fear Steven may have always been just using that man.
Can we ever just wish people the best? Hope for the best. Most people in the LGBT community are single. Like this doesn’t feel good discernment it’s yall wishing the worst so you have something to gossip about. Obio and Jermelle are happy. Don’t we complain about no black on black gay couples yet we wish them doom so we can gossip and say “I told you so”. Like cmon. Do better, people. The whole country is in turmoil and we shouldn’t get this from our own people.
I’m not going to lie. In my head I believed all the guys with abs and great physiques or with ballroom trophy’s always ended up with the perfect happy ending, because of pretty privilege. It’s a bit disheartening to see another one biting the dust. I was rooting for any black gay man to find his forever love.
Actually all of the longest-termed Black gay/LGBTQ relationships I know involve regular folks–not the super-buff, super-pretty folks (though many of the couples are attractive)–who aren’t rich, aren’t on social media all the time, etc. but working, living their lives, surviving all the stuff this society throws their way, and so on. I also root for every Black gay man to find his forever person, especially if that person is Black!
Been peeping it on social media but did not want to assume. The first hint I got was when the husband posted a then and now pic and said something about what his former self would say to present self about mistakes he made. SB also been posting a lot of quotes about life and God. He posted one day that relationships are hard work and you cannot have one foot in and the other out.
Here’s the secret…..y’all come in real close now. You ready? Ain’t no magic pill. Everybody no matter how healed or broken got they shit. It’s sad that ppl wish to see ppl break up but it’s real. Largely because ppl view social media like local celebrities.
All these guys getting married for clicks ,views and attention. I seen it come before down fall.