loneliness will have all kinds of “no” looking like the last males on earth

of all these billions of folks in this big ass forest,
you had to be attracted to the one person that might not be good for you.
it’s like no one else even matters but them.
i don’t know if it’s the conquest or the loneliness,
but this one person just shines in your eyes.
my home vixen is having that issue at this moment.
she met this dude and everything was all good in the beginning.
he would text her daily and gave the impression he was interested.
he texted her cousin,
who they met though,
and said:

“I think I’m in love with her”

of course they fucked and it was aaaaaaaaaah-mazing.
well he ghosted her shortly after.
allegedly,
he had some shit going on in his personal life.
it’s been a whole year,
but she is still missing and yearning for him.
he still creeps on her socials,
but he isn’t doing anything to get back with her.
i get it tho.
the way he was moving,
it looked like he was really digging her.
on the phone last night,
i had to ask her…

“Do you think if you had options,
like you had a ton of males that were interested in you,
would you be thinking about this dude so heavy?’

she had to think about it,
but her answer was “no“.
i had to ask myself the same question when i got off the phone.

Am I mentally slumming it with someone that I wouldn’t even look at if I was on “the baddest fox” mode?

foxhole,
sometimes we latch onto these males because we have no other options.
loneliness will have you out here slumming it.
if you had dudes beating down your door that looked like

Would that one male you’re so obsessed with be in your radar?

the answer would probably be “no“.
hell,
you would be able to see his flaws much faster than you do now.
so next time we start getting obsessed with someone,
we need to ask ourselves…

Is it loneliness or do we REALLY see potential in this person?

the honest answer might surprise you.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

6 thoughts on “loneliness will have all kinds of “no” looking like the last males on earth

  1. The answer is yes,
    Being attracted to someone, is not only about physical attraction.
    You can be the baddest guy/girl and still want this guy, not the other, but THIS GUY.
    Look at whitney and Bobby, one of the most famous exemple of what I am saying.

  2. Loneliness will have you looking crazy! I was lowkey obsessed with this str8 dude for MANY months. He wasn’t my ideal type to be honest, but what kicked everything off was that I asked to see his phone and I went to his pics and there were naked photos of him and his body is amazing. I felt like that was a setup. He knew those pics were in that phone. I got the nerve to tell him what was up with me. He said he didn’t get down like that, but he wasn’t upset at all and in fact he leaned in. We kicked it pretty regularly and I honestly didn’t let my affection for him die. Every time we linked, we drank, smoke, and watched movies or sports. After months (years) of possible returned affection, interest, and curiosity, I have given up. I realized that he is a total waste of time. The straw that broke the camel’s back for me was his recent birthday. I asked him what he wanted. He said nothing really but he could fuck with a cake. I said ok. I searched high and low for this particular cake he wanted, bought a huge bottle of top shelf liquor, and planned to drop it off to him on the night of his birthday. The nigga played me and ghosted me that night. After that, I had a conversation with myself. I said, “self, what the fuck are you doing? You have been chasing this man for several years and he hasn’t given you much to go on. How long will this continue until you wake the fuck up?” Guess what, I’m WOKE AF! I will NO LONGER cater to a man. If you want me for real, you must come correct and show me that. Otherwise, get the fuck out of my face and space. And I have made a conscious decision to not pursue “on the fence” men. If he doesn’t tell me he’s into men after a month of “getting to know me”, I’m moving the fuck on. That’s plenty of time to come correct. I’m almost 40 and life is too short for bullshit. I’d advise my younger cats to really seek guys who are clear about their feelings for you. Don’t waste time on dudes that are confused just because you think they’re sexy. You make get the hole or pipe, but it’s probably not worth it in the end.

    1. I searched high and low for this particular cake he wanted, bought a huge bottle of top shelf liquor, and planned to drop it off to him on the night of his birthday. The nigga played me and ghosted me that night.

      This has me heated. Do you work/live around him? I would have said another friend of mine had a birthday, showed him the cake and said their party was fun to make him feel like the trash he is. What did you do with the cake? The liquor?

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