lemme font to my foxes out there.
we haven’t talked in a while…
we gotta stop being too aggressive with these males out here.
i’m all for taking charge for the d,
but most of these males are playing wack submissive ass games.
who has the time?…
i don’t know about you,
but i’m not attracted to “chase me” males,
yet those are the type of males i tend to attract.
it’s always these confused ass males that enjoy leading me on.
it’s them or the “too aggressive” that are a turn off from the start.
they don’t understand social ques and come off super desperate.
not every time you hit me up,
you have to say something sexual about my bawdy.
i’m attracted to males with a quiet confidence.
i think that is where the confusion with me starts.
most of the males i tend to really like aren’t confident at all.
they tend to be low-key and drop subtle hints to get my attention.
i never notice them beforehand,
but something always leads up to me turning my porch light on.
I see you liking me and I like you back!
so now you’re acting all distant once I showed you I’m interested.
that being said:
THIS ALWAYS LEADS TO FOXES BECOMING AGGRESSIVE
that excuse of “we should have made the first move” is a dub.
if a male is showing his interest,
we are trying to get in that radar.
folks know when you’re feeling them back.
the biggest issue is…
WE END UP CHASING
it’s like the tables turn and we end up looking desperate.
i’m seeing the same pattern with vixens as well.
when a male is truly interested in you,
he’ll lace up his running shoes and get on track.
i don’t give too much energy anymore.
there has been a couple males i really liked recently,
but i saw myself heading into “doing too much” so i backed off.
i’m not repeating past mistakes again.
i’ll assume you aren’t feeling me and i’ll move on.
i’m learning to not add my emotions into liking any male.
until you show and prove that you want this good stuff,
you are in the category of wasting my time.
If he is actively pursuing me,
If i can hit him up and we can talk on texts,
it’s all gravy.
hell if he tells me that he really wants to fuck,
i might book an appointment.
if i’m giving too much energy to get his attention,
because he made it seem like he was interested,
that’s when ima stop and check myself.
a male who is interested will always be bolder in returning the favor.
low-key: i’m not given extra energy to anything besides me,
living my best life,
and self care these days.