I Had A Bad Break Up Today.

Letting go.

It is extremely hard to do.
Why is this?
Is it because we get comfortable?
Is it because we know no better?
Or, are we just not trying to go back to square one?

All I ask is…

Why is letting go so difficult to do?

I got fired today.

Yup.
For 5 years, I busted my ass at my company.
I worked hard to show that I was a good worker.
Made a great reputation with people all around me.
But, it was all snatched from me all too suddenly…
My boss,
who I worked for closely,
decided that he would give my position to someone else.
Someone that isn’t even qualified like me.
A slap in the face because I found out this was his nephew who needed a job.
All my hard work goes to someone else?

 I am so hurt.
I cried all day today.

I have never been so hurt.
I feel used and tossed to the side.

I been to hell and back and then THIS happens.

I feel mentally drained.
That whole process of falling on my ass and then having to climb back up again?

 

Not looking forward to it.

So I had to ask after we do let go…

What happens next?

Oh,
and I finally got my computer and this was my initial entry for today.
Sadly, I am now broke.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

21 thoughts on “I Had A Bad Break Up Today.”

  1. That sucks major balls but you will find something better. Fuck that company. Remember life is full of sudden surprises and major disappointments. Take this as a blessing in disguise. Know that you have supporters and to keep your head up! The season has ended but life is far from over!

  2. Keep your head! I know it seems bad and you probly want to rip a motherfucka head off, but this could be a blessing in disguise…oh and your boss, leave that to Karma. Stay strong Jamari

  3. i know it hurts jamari but dont for get the pain will go away. and dont forget what DC said “Girl, I Can Tell You’ve Been Crying And You Needing Somebody To Talk To Girl, I Can Tell He’s Been Lying And Pretending That He’s Faithful And He Loves You Girl, You Don’t Have To Be Hiding Don’t You Be Ashamed To Say He Hurt You I’m Your Girl, You’re My Girl, We’re Your Girls Don’t You Know That We Love You” get you a drink and a blunt and have at life again

  4. I empathize with you, Jamari, and offer you my best wishes. You will rise again. After a friend turned me on to this this site, I have enjoyed looking at the pictures and reading the comments of others but I never posted any, myself. Reading of your misfortune today, I felt compelled to reach out to you. The same thing has happened to me on occasion. As a competent workaholic, one thinks it will never happen to him/her, but it can and does. Allow yourself to mope a bit; it’s important to get your feelings out and to mourn. To do otherwise would not be natural; however, bills have to be paid, so put a plan in motion. Immediately, update your resume. Actually, it should be updated as soon as one starts the new job. Tell everyone you are looking. Do not allow yourself to feel bad or embarrassed; it’s not your fault. And, please do not trash your former employer. Things have a way of getting back. You may need references. Exercise to get out the bitterness. Bitch to us but not to the general public. Apply for unemployment right away, as well as food stamps. You have already paid for them in the form of deductions from your paychecks. There is no shame in that. Many former six and seven figure income earners on Wall Street didn’t hesitate to do so when the market fell in 2008 and they were entitled just like you. You will rise again. It will get better.

  5. This sucks!! And I can only imagine how pissed you are because the same thing happened to me three months ago, and they replaced me with my friend! Of whom knew what was going on and didn’t say a mumbling word to me!! It was a blessing in disguise tho, I went on vacay, took a much needed break from working, and I’m actually going back to my new job tomorrow!! So know that someone will be more than happy to have you, and treat you as the treasure you are! I know you’re down as you should be, but it gets greater later! Keep your head up and don’t let anyone see you sweat, and don’t let anyone break your spirit! Plus you have a huge forum for networking, we all have your back!❤❤

  6. First thing’s first: Get you some top-notch wolf dick pronto!

    What happens next is: Once you wake up, took a good look around, and then start your plan of action to do what you’ve always wanted to do: start your own empire. You have the skills, training, and web space. Just do it. Fuck nepotism, get your paper.

    Yes it’s scary, but do that shit anyway! Keep your head up and your mind right.

  7. I suspect it is hard to hear this now, man…and I’m not denying your pain or the struggle to face in the meantime…but this may be the best thing that could have happened to you. Better to find this (and them) out now, rather than five more years from now.

    With all the talent and creativity you display with this blog on a daily basis, there is clearly something better out there for you. Now you will find that opportunity that much sooner.

    Keep your head up, my friend.

  8. Wow, I feel for you, and the reason they did it is probably the worst part. Getting released not because of someone’s credentials or even a new direction in the company, someone just had really good connections, and in this case, it was a family connection.

    Like everyone is saying though, this might be a blessing in disguise.

  9. I feel so bad. Don’t worry, it will get better. Always remember that when one door closes, another door opens. God is on your side.

  10. One person told me, when one door closes, another is waiting bigger and wider than the one that closed. It will take time to mourn sure, you have to, but don’t let this over come you. What you were doing is PREPPING you to be at the next level. From someone who waited 18 months to find a job what I went to school for I can honestly say the other jobs I had prepped me for what I’m doing now. Looking back at my experience, I think it was a test from God, to see if I had FAITH and in the end was rewarded with a job I LOVE. You were predestined for GREATNESS Jamari, this is all part to build your character to inspire others. In closing, God TEST those who he knows can handle it!

  11. Today is your day. Start your own company as a consultant. You are smart and talented and know your shit, be your own boss, step out on faith and get the last laugh, because its not what happens to us in life but how we deal with it. You are going to be just fine because you are made out of good stuff. I have been depressed on today due to Valentine day coming around and once again I will be by myself, but I know their are much more pressing issues going on in the world and your situation is example that humbles me. You are still better than blessed. I wish I could kick your bosses ass for you, because even though I dont know you, I feel like you are my internet brother and this blog feels like my second family at times. I am praying for you Bro and know that its going to work out in your favor.

    P.S. Dont be too proud to beg, get your paypal back up, I was happy to donate to your computer fund and would be happy to give you a love offering, and I hope yall who are touched and inspired by this blog would step in and help our brother out.

  12. Hey Jamari just read the post and I am sooo upset. I am soooo sorry that happened to you. I know that God has a plan for you. I also read the comments and Old Head made a good point in his steps for evaluating this recent change in your life. You know that we here love you soo much. I will pray and I’m pretty sure others will also, that you get another position somewhere esle. *hugs super tight* Things can only go up from here.

  13. WoW! How very sad to hear your news Jamari. But surely there’s more to this story, here in the UK its against the law to fire someone for no apparent reason, only to give the position to an unqualifyied relative/person. It sounds like you may have a court date soon.

    But in the mean time, keep your pecker up man, it’s always darkest before the dawn!

  14. Dang, I wish I could offer you a job at our law firm, but I don’t think we’ll be needing anyone in the fashion field anytime soon. Then again, there’s a first for everything, right?
    (Yeah, yeah, I’ll stop try being funny)
    If there anything I could do to help out, let me know.
    I get the impression everything was carried out within the boundaries of the law, but if not, give me a shout, and I’ll see if I can get some tips and legal advice for you from some of my colleagues (sorry, employment law isn’t my field of work)

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