YOU KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS…
Okay, so I have a dilemma hear. So I’ve written to you twice in the past. Once was about how to score a wolf in “The City” or as you like to call it, “The Concrete Forest”. So that was kind of a bust. So I really just got used to sticking to myself, and I got this mentality, that I needed to allow whatever is meant to be to happen, and let the chips fall into place itself. So I decided to stop looking before I eventually fuck shit up for myself, and let love, lust, a relationship, whatever you wanna call it come to me. So I’m doing my usual on Instagram, posting pictures, liking pictures, and I get a new follower. I don’t get hype over followers anymore because most of the are obsessive DL daddies or people looking to follow you, fuck you, and leave you that same night. I’ve had a bad experience with Instagram as I told you before, this guy gave me his number, and once we started talking, he started getting crazy via text message. So ever since then Instagram has been nothing but entertainment for me, nothing I take seriously. But anyways back to the story…
So I’m on Insatgram and I see this cute guy following me. He looks my age or around my age (I am 18 btw). So I follow back, he likes some pics, so I like some pics. So I decide to be spontaneous and leave a comment on his pic asking him for his FB. He has no FB so he gives me his Kik, so we begin to chat on there. He seems like he communicates well, he seemed nice, respectful, kind, sexy, mysterious, sweet. Only thing that bothered me at that point is that he lived Upstate 5 hrs away. All the things you look for. But everything was going to perfect. Until, I asked him how old he was. Jamari, he replied:
16.
Now I know I am 18, and he’s 16. To many two years ain’t nothing. But when you’re a teen, and in this Lifestyle, it isn’t cool or normal to talk with 16 year old. So I became apprehensive and I joked with him about his age, he joked back about how young he was, and joked and called me old. He was just so damn cute. So we exchanged numbers and hit it off.
We’ve only been talking for like, 18 days, but well into the first week it was just a closeness I felt with him. We would ooVoo, I would talk with his sister, we would have late night “ooVoo sex”. I just felt a connection with him, a bond, I felt like he was my distant lover, I felt like he was my younger brother. But things were moving too well, and then stuff got complicated. Even though were only two years apart, we are at two completely different stages in my life. I’m 18 heading off to my freshman year in college, meanwhile he just turned 16 a month before we start talking, and he is starting his junior year of High School. He has to ask for permission for everything, he only has one lap top so he has to ask his dad to use it all the time. And our schedules just got so messed up we began having to schedule time to talk, so everything just got harder and more stressful.
So long story short, I caught feelings for dude fast, as well as he did with me. However, things have switched gears already. I feel like he wants to be the one in charge. People will think because I’m oldest it would be me, but he is VERY Headstrong, he knows what he wants and likes. We argue a lil, but its nothing. I want him to come down one weekend when I have the free crib so we can chill and do some other “stuff” you know, fuck. But he has to ask his dad, and we have to plan for him to leave upstate on a Friday and have him back by Sunday. Jamari, I like this guy. Today he told me “he has love for me” and I told him “I have love for him” and we both know this is growing into something special. But I just can’t deal with the kiddie bullshit. The going to school and getting hype about school fights (yes, he text me about how happy he was that he saw a fight), I can’t deal with his immaturity, he seems to have communication skills, and he has trouble expressing his emotions. I can’t deal with the asking your parents for everything, I’m 18 now, I have my diploma, I’m off to college in January, I don’t need her permission for shit. He has to ask his parents for everything, and he just doesn’t have that much freedom to leave and spend this weekend we’re planning to be together. He’s a special guy, but his age, immaturity, and where he lives, gets in the way of us progressing. I like him a lot but I’m still weighing out my options, because I’m only 18.
Jamari, what should I do about this situation. I know I come off as a kid, but I have my stuff together, and what I don’t I am trying my hardest to get in order. I need your help bro.
P.S: I love you and everything you have accomplished with the site. You’ve created a place where it’s okay for us to communicate no matter how we live our lifestyle. It’s very judgement free, but fun. Thanks. Wish you well with everything.
MY ANSWER…
well thank you,
but…
i had to check the email and see if it was from that snow bunny teacher.
i was gonna say, “anna, give it up.“
aaah.
the cubs of the lifestyle.
they are usually fine as hell,
swagged out,
charismatic,
and into the latest new shit.
they talk a good game….
….but it is just talk.
i have met some cubs who were grown because of life and circumstance.
they could solve any issue and most lived alone.
but, they always show their immaturity sooner or later.
i’ll be as honest as a fox possible can:
PLAN YOUR EXIT STRATEGY NOW.
and i’ll tell you why
better yet, i’ll show you why:
- Now I know I am 18, and he’s 16.
- I would talk with his sister.
- He just turned 16 a month before we start talking.
- He is starting his junior year of High School.
- He has to ask his dad.
- He has to ask for permission for everything, he only has one lap top so he has to ask his dad to use it all the time.
- The going to school and getting hype about school fights (yes, he text me about how happy he was that he saw a fight)
- I can’t deal with his immaturity, he seems to have communication skills, and he has trouble expressing his emotions. I can’t deal with the asking your parents for everything, I’m 18 now, I have my diploma, I’m off to college in January, I don’t need her permission for shit. He has to ask his parents for everything, and he just doesn’t have that much freedom to leave and spend this weekend we’re planning to be together
just the sound of all that makes my head hurt.
you got to make all these plans to get some dick?
that’s a lot of hoop jumping for a cub who can’t even buy you a drink.
he can’t even take you to a r rated movie!
real talk:
i dealt with a young cub like him when i was around your age.
only thing he is lied to me.
he told me is was going on 18 as i was…
…but, he was really going on 15.
i found this out after we became close.
thank GOD we never had sex.
shit how could we when he was always on lock down?
but i was already wrapped up in him and wanting to be with him.
that emotional shit is the hardest to break, imo.
he talked a good game like he was the muthafuckin CEO of the General Motors or some shit.
he came off like an adult and the boss of me and it turned me on,
but it would later be revealed through life experience he didn’t know himself… at all.
he was still trying to be a boss of a relationship because he wasn’t one in his house.
he still had parents and they both were the boss of him.
i also realized i wasn’t all that attracted to him as i thought i was.
i eventually regained control and got bored with him.
by then, i started talking to older and better wolves.
ones with condos, cars, and credit cards.
now he parties hard with snow wolves/angels in chelsea.
i’m sure by next month he maybe emo and a raver.
plus, i met two or three “18-20 box” wolves off social sites.
all 3 of them could not fuck me the way i thought they would.
there was no back breaking sex.
i didn’t even get moist.
they were so boring.
but it was the 25 year old down low wolf that had me begging for sweet mercy….
different strokes; different wolves.
so nothing good will come from this.
take it from me.
unless you want to spend your entire 20s training him how to act and be…
…for him to finally figure it out and the outcome may not be pretty.
these cubs are really just curious horn balls.
if he happens to be legal,
then get the dick and send him on his way.
they can’t handle the emotions that come with a real relationship.
they just think they do.
comments go…?
Best of Luck!!!
The laws governing “age of consent” varies from state to state. If this is New York state, then a sexual relationship between a 16 year-old male and 18 year-old male is probably legal. While the age of consent in New York is 17, not 16, there is a provision in the law that allows for sexual relations to be legal when the age difference between sexual partners does not exceed 5 years.
That being said, having a relationship with a minor who is still under the thumb of his parents could easily become a messy situation. If his parents found out about the situation, they could easily prevent him from seeing you, although I don’t think that they could press legal charges against you in the state of New York.
That said, it’s still murky, and you don’t wanna be a test case. Heck, both of y’all are still wet behind the ears! Let that dude grow up – be his friend, and no more sex talk/chat/video sessions. It won’t end well…
Insert Wendy Williams sound effect here : Bail¡
Where are those wendy radio sound.effects when you need them…..
Umm, as soon as he said he was 16, the conversation would have ended. There are to many fine MEN with careers to be fooling around with some BOY who has to study for his chemistry test the next day.
No offense, but damn it must be getting really tough out there for dudes. Lol.
You’re playing a dangerous game man. If his parents find out about you and feel like you’re “turning him out” they could be vindictive enough to file charges on you and then all they have to do is find all of the messages sent between you two.
Keep it friendly period! If you can’t be strictly friends with him cut him off.
Even with the overdeveloped, cornbread fed teens in Texas I’ve never even considered finding them attractive. That young mentality rears its ugly head eventually and they still have so much growing to do. They’ll probably be a completely different person at your age.
I stopped at the point he said he was 16.
Keep him as a friend. No telling what it might evolve into. But as far as doing anything right now? No.
I’m back. I don’t know what to think of that Wendy gif.
Yea man I think you need to break things off with him so no one gets hurt. Two years is not a lot but in this life it is, and not to mention the fact that you’re 18. If you were to have sex with this dude and his parents found out they could put some charges on you, but it would be really cause of your age, it would be because his parents would be angry that their some lives an alternative lifestyle and do if for meanness. You need a dude your age, but I think you two should remain friends tho. He’s only sixteen, he probably needs a friend in the lifestyle. At his age a lot of guys don’t have any gay friends to talk to.
Omg between that Simon gift and your comment about the substitute teacher, I almost freaking passed out laughing so hard. Wow I dont know what to say, because at 16 I was really hot in the ass as the old people say and would have thought nothing of sleeping with someone grown, but Thank God, I was also scary and could not get nothing past my parents at that age, and of course social media was not a factor. Both of them are really young and immature and sound like they probably wanna sex more so than be in a real relationship. Just suck it up and run from this, you do not want to be liable if somethings happen to a 16yr old on your watch, and he is probably going to have to tell some lie to get out of the house for a whole weekend and usually when we are young, this type of stuff backfires in our face. His parents would be more than likely to press charges or get you in trouble, since you are male, and that leaves your parents stuck with the bill because more than likely you have no legal fees lying around in your gym bag. Nothing like Young Love, but you really need someone your age or a little older, you have to leave High School behind when you graduate. Good Luck.
Dont go to jail!
lol and i would like to direct you to jamari’s last post(“Banged My Substitute Teacher And I Liked It…. So I Outed Her?”) messing with someone you know is immature can lead to this
If you are 18, then you are an adult. He is still a minor. That alone should be the encouragement you need to break this off before you take it too far. There is nothing wrong with being friends, but you need to keep it at that. Let him stay upstate, don’t do anything sexual via video chat or send revealing pictures to each other. The last thing you want to do is ruin your life before it really starts.
^i didn’t even think about that BBB.
good answer.
I experienced this before and i was out of that scene so fast, cutting off a complete tie with him. He evenually stopped lieing to tell me he wasnt 18 but I4…..When your overly vulnerable and sensitive you take to people who entertaine you quicker then someone who is less vulnerable
^as you go: LIKE.