Oh my gosh Jamari I’m literally going through this experience at school. I attend this HBCU and I have been dating him since school started, we broke up beginning of last week, and we were still “friends” and still cool, at least according to him. Then Thursday afternoon everything changed for some reason, he’s not talking to me anymore, I gave him 2 days to his self and I went out drinking, and I unfortunately fell victim to the drunk texting scandal, mainly because he was watching all of my snaps, so I sent him a snap. No response. Called him. No answer. A text. He read it 30 minutes after and didn’t reply, I leave the situation alone, the next day I text him to find out I’m on the block list… Well today, I see him in the café at school with his friends and they sit in my line of view purposefully I’m guessing, one of his friends knew about us and the other one didn’t, he is kind of in the closet still, and for some reason he finally decides to unfollow me on Instagram, now keep in mind it’s been like 4 days since he blocked me but yet he still watches everything I do on snapchat.i was there for him when he was depressed and having bad thoughts. And when he didn’t have any money I supported our relationship, buying him stuff, paying for our dates and food. I was even there when he thought he contracted hiv from an ex. I still love him even though he’s being a total ass. I’ve been having thoughts of popping up on his ass.
What do I do?
see thats the shit i be talkin’ about.
as you know i’m also going through (kinda) the same situation.
although i’m not dating mine,
i know what its like to get the silent treatment.
as much as “ratchet jamari” wants to fly out…
ya know reader…
i’ll take some of the advice the foxhole has given me for you.
i know it sucks.
it isn’t fun to be “ignored”.
when you share something special,
and it ends,
you hope it ends on a mutual understanding.
well sometimes it doesn’t and “he” can turn into a real asshole.
he forgets all the good things you did for him.
all the fun you had suddenly never happened.
he is “in his feelings” and taking it out on you.
“nah nah nee boo boo” to you too.
doesn’t mean you need to stick around for his nonsense.
the best revenge is going about your life.
you mirror his actions.
you are way too busy to even notice what he is doing.
if you give him a reaction,
he knows he has you.
don’t give him that satisfaction.
you got homework to do and a life to live.
sooner of later,
and if doesn’t come to his senses,
he will become a “distant memory”.
“that fuck boi i use to know”.
its up to you if you want to entertain him if he decides to come back.
like most fuck bois,
they always come back.
they see the forest is cold place without you.
i like closure.
tell me i was an asshole,
or i became really fuckin’ annoying.
tell me that shit.
i want to be on the same page if we are closing the book we shared.
you are owed that much.
it doesn’t mean you will get it tho.
so think back and see if you did anything wrong.
be honest with yourself about it.
it takes two and he wouldn’t go to such extremes “just because”.
like he took you off all his social media.
you know thats serious.
if you feel you did nothing,
and he just a fuck boi,
then just throw in the towel and move on.
it won’t be easy,
but no one said it would be.
hope this helps!
stay positive and try not to beat yourself up over it.
i actually put my inner boxing gloves down today.
i’ll let god handle it from now on
lowkey: i love how many have a #workwolfproblems.
i love how thats a “thing”.
thanks for not letting me feel so alone.